How many tickles does it take to make an octopus laugh? (answer is at the very end! No cheating!)
TL;DR: feminism, intersectional, fat acceptance, spoonie, radical left, tattoos piercings and bright hair, fatter in real life, ambiverted, crush bigots and then share cat memes.
I just changed my profile to not be seen by or see straight people.. I think this will radically improve my OKC experience!
I tend to go for radically liberal and progressive, intelligent and compassionate men, women, and people in general who have more than a streak of non conformity. I'll admit to kind of being a sucker for piercings, tattoos (tasteful ones- as in ones that aren't sexist, racist, etc), and manic panic hair, but those aren't hard and fast rules- the only real rules I have are no conservatives/libertarians, no hunters, or bigots (even if you swear you aren't because you're a liberal and couldn't possibly)
I have one tattoo and four total piercings- ears, tragus, septum, and labret with no reason to think I'll stop there. (Update: I had to take my labret out, but I'm hoping to get it redone at a different angle soon)
I want to cuddle on the couch and talk about privilege together. (Right now I'm actually more into making friends, but who knows)
I'm a feminist, a fat acceptance activist and blogger, and a reformed romantic. I like board games and I make fantastic peanut butter cups. You name a hair color and I've probably done it. I literally wouldn't hurt a fly and I'm pretty political- yeah, one of those dirty socialists you keep hearing about. I tend to say really weird or ridiculous things which sometimes translates to me being really funny or just really weird with the occasional awkward.
I'm all about intersectionality and being the best ally that I can be which includes acknowledging my privilege and my fuckups when they happen. If you message me then you'd better be willing to acknowledge yours too. When I say ally I mean an ally to all marginalized groups, not just one or two. I'm strictly against sexism, racism, ableism, queerphobia, transphobia, fatphobia, classism, healthism and pretty much anything else you can think of. My veganism is an important part of my being intersectional.
Fatter in person. Also, more fabulous. (seriously.. I'm fat)
I used to write some poetry. Then a poet broke my heart and it fell by the wayside. I did finish NaNoWriMo 2015, but I skipped last year... So, I guess, technically, I wrote a book, though one that's just been sitting on google drive since.
I've been on a fat positive podcast four times, HuffPost Live once, and I spoke at a body positive conference about the intersection of queer and fat issues. I participated in a filming for a body positive series that didn't get picked up, but was still fun to do. I love fat acceptance and fat acceptance activism.
I'm the photographer for The Fat Naked Art Project. I've photographed all around NC, Atlanta GA, and NYC so far.
I did local modeling for about five years.. I may get back to it sometime, but I'm taking a break for now.
I did bellydancing for a year and a half and even tried Burlesque which was fun and I wouldn't mind doing it again, but I'd never look at doing it for anything more. Also looking deeply into white bellydancers and how that fits into cultural appropriation in the history of bellydancing.
I'm volunteering at my local abortion clinic as a clinic escort. If you're interested in helping please let me know! (Update: I'm temporarily not volunteering, but I still have connections if You want to volunteer!)
Every week I attend a socialist reading group called the jacobin reading group (you can find us on meetup or Facebook) based on the socialist magazine. (update: this group is, at least for now, no longer functioning)
Every Monday, when it's in session, I sing with Flash Chorus. Except when I can't be bothered to leave my house and then I'm watching last week's Supernatural and eating Tofurkey Pockets (which are getting really hard to find... wtf? Tofurkey is awesome)
My first tattoo (8-15-15) is the word "fat" in the Natalie Perkins font. I freaking love it! I'm already planning more, but, really... how do people afford these? To be fair, I'm planning some larger ones- I've found an artist I want to work with and we're talking about the next two which, together, will be larger.
A spoonie for life.
I want to learn to walk my cats on leashes, but I'm not sure how much they'd appreciate that.
I really want to do stupid things, stay up all night trying something I've never tried before, meet new people and live as much as I can while I still can and I've only for 3 spoons to offer. Let's make them stretch.
People from OKC usually notice that my profile is much more intense than I am. In person I'm shy and laid back and will mostly nod and laugh at your jokes.
I have some books on my book shelf that really need reading.
I'm trying hard to get back to reading more. I used to always have my nose stuck in a book, but lately it's facebook (damn you facebook)
Movies - I like fantasy, sci-fi, non horror supernatural... More recent (but likely not too recent because I don't watch movies often) District 9, Seven Pounds, Marvel Universe, all Harry Potter including Fantastic Beasts, and pretty much anything that's a musical (but maybe not Cats...?). I'm living for the day that Wicked is made into a movie.
Music - Forgive Durden: Razia's Shadow, Mary Lambert forever and ever (I've seen her live and it was soooo amazing!!), Ingrid Michaelson, Peter Hollins, The Family Crest (another band that's beyond amazing live! I was riding the high from that one for days), Elle King, various artists that grace my playlist.. I do enjoy a lot of pop songs for being upbeat and catchy, but I don't really know what the kids are listening to these days. Feel free to recommend something. Just discovered Twenty One Pilots and I think that makes me a cool kid... right?
TV: Supernatural (is this really the last season?! oh god!..er.. not you chuck..), Dr Who (i think the 10th doctor was the bee's knees... season 9 was more difficult to watch and, in general, Capaldi isn't my favorite doctor.. looking forward to season 10's companions though), Once Upon A Time, and pretty much anything Sci-fi or supernatural. A lot of things I watch are on their last season though.. uh oh!
Food: I'm a vegan but I barely have the energy to cook. Tofu is one of my favorite foods- tomatoes come in a close second. Really I love a little bit of everything (except seafood... take your seaweed far away from me) and I'm currently searching for the perfect vegan cheesecake recipe. (Edit: I have found the holy grail of vegan cheesecakes and it's amazing).
Number two would be my camera- sometimes I don't take it with me and I completely regret it. How will I remember things without photo evidence?!
Number three would be modern medicine. Seriously though. Don't talk to me about "Big Pharma" or how people don't really need medicine to live.
Four would be nature, green things, etc I get really down in the winter and pretty up in the spring and fall- i like colorful. Fresh flowers are the best.
Five would be someone to talk with. And I don't just mean superficial chit chat. I need deep and intellectually stimulating conversations.(I know, everyone says that... for what it's worth, I think chit chat can be great too)
and Six would be affection and to feel cared about.
My hair is shorter than in my pictures. I need to update, but haven't been taking a lot of pictures lately.
I've officially answered every single okcupid question (which, for your information, is a couple thousand and some change at this point)
You're so off into the radical left that even your liberal college buddies think you've gone too far.
You think activism is essential to changing the world.
You're not trying to lose weight or super proud of recently purposefully losing weight. Fat acceptance is really important to me and I'm not going to congratulate you.
No conservatives (including libertarians), no gun nuts, no hunters/fishers, no military (unless you're reformed military and you're not all yay guns and invading marginalized cultures)
I will judge you by whether or not you like cats.