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My self-summary
Relatively young unit of the human species. Survived 29 winters and counting. Still under warranty. Math/IT researcher by day, so if 1s and 0s scare you, don't get me started.
I'm... different, probably. I can blend in when needed, but my nature has always been to be different from the pack. I also often have views that are very different from what most of society thinks. Whether that is a good or a bad thing depends entirely on your taste.

I'm polyamorous and kinky, which in my case means I practice BDSM as a Dominant (you know... training submissive girls, tying them up, stuff like that). If you're interested in this lifestyle and want to know more, I'm always open for questions, and I won't bite unless of course you're into that.

Everything else you want to know is probably already in the parts below, but you're always free to ask extra questions, or just send a message to say hello.
What I’m doing with my life
At daytime, I'm a PhD student at Ghent Unversity, working somewhere on the boundary of mathematics and computer science, so if 0's and 1's freighten you, this is probably not a good topic to talk about. ;)

At night time, I can typically be found sitting behind my computer, having friends over, reading up on various topics (psychology, sexual ethics, evolution theory...), or hanging out on gothic/fantasy/industrial events or activities of the local BDSM student club Kajira (, which I founded some years ago and which has repeatedly hit the news as Europe's first state-funded BDSM group.
I’m really good at
Getting a deeper understanding of how someone's mind works. For several of my friends, I am the only person noticing when things don't go well, and the only one that can get them back up. Or making them feel less guilty about things society wants us to feel guilty for. Especially the latter.
The first things people usually notice about me
Well... the first time I saw myself in a mirror is decades ago, so I really don't remember and I think I may also have changed since then. But feel free to tell me your first impressions. :)

If I have to pick something that people tend to find characteristic for me, then it would be that I'm a very chill person who doesn't have problems with anything. I have friends with piercings, tattoos, wearing a dog collar all day, fingering herself on my toilet the first time she came over and admitting it a month later (lol), texting me at 2 AM asking if they can come for a visit (and usually getting a yes answer), ...
So, that should give an idea of both myself and my friends. ^^
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
My tastes are pretty eclectic. Book- and movie-wise wise I'll mostly go for fantasy-themed stuff, but they make up less than half of my top 10. Other than that my top favorites are V for Vendetta and Donnie Darko.

Music: mainly music linked to a variety of subcultures (metal, gothic, etc.) and general pop culture. Too eclectic to even give a representative sample.

Food: Korean Gimbap, Chinese chow mein, Indian curry, Italian pizza, Belgian fries, German bratwurst, Spanish sangria, French cheeses, Turkish kebab, Japanese onigiri, ... I like food from all over the globe.
Also, I am that one Belgian not liking chocolate. Yes, I know, there's a special place in hell for me. But I like sitting on the throne, you know.
The six things I could never do without
- being devil's best advocate
- the freedom to have indecent thoughts
- the dark side of Tumblr (or of the web in general)
- my inability to count to six (how did I get that PhD again?)
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Everything. My life. Society. Ethics, culture and norms. The girls I'm training. Kinky things. What you will be thinking when reading this profile.
On a typical Friday night I am
I don't have a 'typical' Friday night actually. If there's a nice club party where some friends are going, I'll be clubbing until 5-7am, but I can equally enjoy sitting at home or with friends (which happens to be most of the time).
You should message me if
...your interest was sparked by reading the above and/or by comparing our match questions. Don't be shy. Saying hi doesn't hurt you. What's the worst that could go wrong? Don't worry, you won't be stranger than I am. Yes, consider it a challenge if you like.

PS: sending the first message is always appreciated. Explicit hints that you're interested are very welcome. I personally dislike contacting people if I don't feel that they're interested, and I may miss your signals sometimes.