41Evansville, United States
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My self-summary
I use the moniker IATAO online because "I'll Always Try Anything Once" - though I'll often try twice, just to see if I didn't miss something the first time. I have beeve in the Kink, BDSM and poly communities for about 20 years, and both attend and host several events. For details, posts and pictures you can find me at FetLife.com. A friend thought it was useful to have a profile on OKC too.

I'm happily married with two wonderful children. For various health reasons, my wife (who I met the kink through the community) is no longer able to play and isn't an active part of the kink community anymore, but she is knowledgeable and supportive of me being active in the kink community. I am ethicalyl non-monagomous and poly-hearted.
What I’m doing with my life
Living it with zest and vigor while keeping balanced between my family and my friends in the kink community when not having to work.
The first things people usually notice about me
That being around good people makes me happy, so im usually bubbly and wearing a smile. :-)
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I'm an eclectic omnivore when it comes to the arts.
Music: From Vivaldi to Ravi Shankar, the Beatles to Green Day, Louis Armstrong to Parliment Funkadelic, Grand Master Flash to Eminem, Kenny Rogers to Mumford & Sons, and Simon & Garfunkel to Ed Sheeran.
Books: From The Epic of Gilgamesh to The Illiad, La Morte de Arthur to Don Quixote, Tolkien to David Eddings, Issac Assimov to Anne McCaffrey, and so many others.
Movies/Shows: From The Sound of Music to Moulin Rouge, Dr. Who to Red Dwarf, Star Trek to Farscape, Lillies of the Field to 0 Dark 30, and SCTV to The Chapelle Show.
Six things I could never do without
An open mind and desire to learn and grow

An open heart and as desire to make positive connections with good people

My family, friends, and chosen communities

Using or creating safe spaces where I can be open about my sexuality and lifestyles with like minded folk (munches, socials, educational groups, public events, and private play parties, etc).

A willingness to overcome hurdles life sometimes throws in your way

An ability to count my blessings, savor the good things and experiences I have, and cherish and celebrate the good people n my life
I spend a lot of time thinking about
How to be mindful, resilient, and exuberantly embrace life while...in other words keeping balanced.
On a typical Friday night I am
The same thing I do Saturday nights, hosting or going to Kink/BDSM or poly events.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I've already admitted a ton of private things. I guess maybe that I gave up my virginity at 20 (I was raised heavily Catholic sent to a Catholic highschool and college) after watching Exit to Eden in 1996...best decision I ever made, as it opened me up to my wife, my truest friends and most enjoyable acquaintances, and countless wonderful memories.
You should message me if
Are open minded, open hearted, and want to live fearlessly.
The two of us