IAmABonobo
28 San Francisco, United States
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My self-summary
I'm a good friend and a feminist doing my best to live a connected, emotionally rich life. I'm also working on a PhD. These goals are sometimes at odds.

I'm a cult boyfriend: https://youtu.be/BP0dIl1E-yY
What I’m doing with my life
I study politics, applied statistics and how to make a better cup of coffee. I go to a lot of concerts and obsess over airline tickets.

I may live near the Bay, but I can often be found wandering the sunset, trying to find the best spot to get dumplings.
I’m really good at
...finding good restaurants that look dumpy from the outside.

...making people feel comfortable.

...dessert.

...getting to that point in the evening where things get serious and we talk about out feelings and everyone loosens up and starts to laugh and cry and appreciate life.

...not talking about work. Culture and human experience are much richer sources of conversation than our careers.
The first things people usually notice about me
My beard. But you already knew that.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
My favorite author is Haruki Murakami, but I'm reading some Australian history right now. I go down to Australia a couple of times a year for work and have really come to love the place.

I love finding new music, but there will always be a special place in my heart for hometown-heroes WILCO. Some other perennial favorites are the Decemberists, the New Pornographers, Neko Case, SLOAN and The Hold Steady. Lately I've been listening to a lot of Bleached, Sleater-Kinney, The Blow and Femme. If you wanted to pick one thing to message me about, music is it.

I don't watch much TV, but I've really enjoyed The Sopranos, The Wire, Battlestar Galactica (both versions!) and The Americans.

Any movie written by Charlie Kauffman goes to the top of the list (except for Anomalisa). But some other favorites are I Am Love, Spotlight, Tokyo Story, Melancholia and anything from Werner Herzog, Errol Morris or Tarantino.

Cooking is a big part of my life, and French food is my first love. I try to stay true to the classics or cook ingredients to their maximum potential. I'm not into gimmicks.
The six things I could never do without
My bike
Cuddles
Delicious coffee
Thoughtful friends
The women in my family
A good pair of headphones
I spend a lot of time thinking about
My delusions of grandeur. Which wines need drinking (I have way too much wine).
On a typical Friday night I am
Having dinner with friends.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I'm the little spoon.
You should message me if
...you want to learn new stuff from each other.

...you KNOW you're great.

...you know everything is more beautiful when you have to work to see it.

...rocking out at a show and then walking home after sounds like a great second date.

...you like to top sometimes.
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