IAmABonobo
28San Francisco, United States
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My self-summary
I'm a cult boyfriend: https://youtu.be/BP0dIl1E-yY

Not into macho bullshit.

I highly value good communication.
What I’m doing with my life
Getting a PhD at Stanford. Asking follow-up questions that get people talking about the stuff that matters to them. You can find me at indie rock concerts and going out of my way to eat Asian food not dumbed down for the palettes of rich white people.
I’m really good at
...finding good restaurants that look dumpy from the outside.

...making people feel comfortable.

...listening.

...dessert.

...getting to that point in the evening where things get serious and we talk about out feelings and everyone loosens up and starts to laugh and cry and appreciate life.

...not talking about work.
The first things people usually notice about me
My beard. But you already knew that.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Music is the fucking best. Let's talk about music. Shows I've been to in the last year: Japandroids, Craig Finn, Japanese Breakfast, The She's, Sleater-Kinney, The Thermals, Car Seat Headrest, Jeffrey Lewis, The Yellow Dress, Of Montreal, The Mountain Goats and an AMAZING David Bowie cover band. I've been listening to a lot of riot grrrl lately.

When I cook, I try to stay true to the classics and avoid gimmicks.

I cook lots of french food. Into bistro desserts? I'm your guy.
Six things I could never do without
My bike
Cuddles
Delicious coffee
Thoughtful friends
Running Shoes
A good pair of headphones
I spend a lot of time thinking about
My delusions of grandeur. Which wines need drinking (I have way too much wine).
On a typical Friday night I am
Making dinner for friends and talking about human relationships.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I'm very good with my hands.
You should message me if
...you want to learn new stuff from each other.

...you KNOW you're great.

...you think everything is more beautiful when you have to work to see it.

...rocking out at a show and then walking home after sounds like a great second date.

...you'd like a bedroom dynamic where you're usually the one in charge.

I may live in SF, but peninsula folks are A-OK.
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