ICFilosofer
35La Mesa, United States
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My self-summary
I'm a sort of real life Tom Bombadil; inquisitive but merrily unaffiliated, strolling through the world with a calm amusement, and weaving my own narrative in poetry as I do so.

I moved to the US from Russia when I was 9. I will pass for your typical CA intellectual when you first meet me; but it won't be long before the foreign roots come out. I drive a luxury car, with a manual transmission. I will always hold its door for you, even in a fight. I'll speed and disregard the signs, but drive courteously and with great concern for your comfort. When you turn on the radio, I will move to the beat; but have absolutely no idea who the artist is. If another driver does something ridiculous, I won't resort to road-rage; but will make a very dark comment positing psychiatric diagnoses or questioning his fitness for the gene pool. Don't protest, I'm not actually judging him - this is just my sense of humor.

I DO know how to clean up and become the good Jewish boy my mother raised when I go to meet your family. I'll even ditch the almost exclusively black wardrobe for this. In fact; when your racist, alcoholic uncle-by-marriage starts praising Donald Trump, I'll restore the peace with an objective political comment everyone can agree to.

I grew up in an urban wilderness. Authority is a racket and collectivism a naive myth. All that matters is the people worth being close to, because everything else will be gone the moment someone 1000's of miles away accidentally throws the wrong switch. I respect responsibility and self-reliance, and a laugh or a mocking poem at the expense of people without these.
What I’m doing with my life
I hold an MSW, and am happily self-employed as a Holistic Life Coach. If someone told me this was what I would be doing years ago when I started grad school, I would have been undecided whether to laugh or be offended. But a number of circumstances motivated me first to start and then to expand this business, and now I have a client wait list and a disdain for the thought of any traditional 9-5 social work job.

Don't worry, I won't start coaching not therapizing you on a date. I do that up to 50 hours a week, it's the last thing I want to do in my private life.
I’m really good at
Humanistic, Gestalt, and Maslowian Psychology.
Predicting the outcomes of elections and political crises.
Writing poetry.
De-escalating conflict and building consensus.
Fixing things around the house.
Mental math.
The first things people usually notice about me
If they initially met me online - it's the complete LACK of a Russian accent. However, for women who find that attractive (and I no you arr out zere!) I can tyurn eet on, and eet totalee sounds lageet.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I faithfully read profiles before writing to anyone, which I know is uncommon, but even I NEVER bother w/ this section. Which leads me to assume practically no one reads it and it's just plain not worth keeping updated. If you want to know, just ask.
Six things I could never do without
- My mother. Her sacrifices and struggles as a single parent refugee with what was then a very sick child are the reason I'm self-actualizing rather than dodging artillery rounds.
- My closest friends - they are my therapists, my advisers, my umpires, and my posse.
- An Android device w/ high-speed internet.
- My Smith & Wesson Special Ops (that's a utility KNIFE, not a gun.)
- A secluded place in nature to occasionally retreat to, on a hike or camping trip, alone or with a companion.

- And an occasional excursion into cerebral domination.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
You'd never tell by my demeanor; but my mind is a looping, speeding roller-coaster. Everything from my next meal to who will be our next President, from my work to card-counting strategies, from the things immediately around me to intangible philosophies. So I guess the answer is 'everything'. I'm working on slowing it down.
On a typical Friday night I am
Hanging out in a relatively quiet dive bar, coffee shop, or lounge. Enjoying high end liquor and tobacco in tempered amounts and either pecking away at my laptop writing abstract poetry; or socializing, be it with friends or complete strangers, discussing politics and society.

At a good local music show or art exhibit. Many of my friends are artists in various forms and I have the privilege of frequent invitations.

I'm adept at counting cards (it's nothing like the movies), so occasionally you might find me at a local casino.

Walking. In a park. On the beach. Down the street. It doubles as exercise, but primarily it's a means of meditation. Often done in seclusion to get my processing up to speed with the constant onslaught of complex human behavior that is my work.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I make very elaborate yet low-budget Halloween costumes from scratch every year, and when I wear them, I find myself secretly wondering how well they might mask my identity for subversive activities.
You should message me if
You want to be my Goldberry.
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