ICFilosofer
34 La Mesa, United States
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My self-summary
I'm an imprecise shape of eccentricity and initially incomprehensible behavior. My nihilism about that which is socially acceptable and alleged valid by popular consensus has drawn comparisons to a Vulcan - and while I don't care much for Star Trek, I must admit the shoe fits. But look closer, you will see I'm neither indifferent nor insensitive; just unconditionable, and pragmatic beyond hope of reconciling with any ideology.

Perhaps it's having been indoctrinated by a global empire and then watching it collapse at a formative age, the multiple social science degrees, the slew of jobs involving blunt objects being swung at my head, the 20+ countries I've travelled to, or the budding career in politics - but my value spectrum has stretched so ecclectic that I can hardly see the extremes of good and evil anymore; and prefer to identify the strengths in everyone I meet and everything I encounter, and then look for mutual beneficence.

Politics, culture, love, sex, art, music, language - none of it requires the categorization and strictly defined roles we have a habit of assigning and expecting. Just trust in your nature, whatever you may believe is its origin, to draw you toward that which brings you the most satisfaction, and insulate you from the things that threaten or disenfranchise you. I am humanism incarnate, and inadvertently corrosive to the rigidity of certain man-made concepts.
What I’m doing with my life
I hold an MSW, and I divide my time between an independent Life Coaching practice using Humanistic, Gestalt, and Maslowian methodology, and short-term Community Organizer contracts. I'm in the brainstorming stages (w/ a couple of friends) of launching a political consulting firm that teaches "little people" political self-advocacy, but we're not exactly ready for IPO yet.
I’m really good at
Making friends out of enemies.

Cooking bland but delicious Russian food.

Mental math.
The first things people usually notice about me
If they initially met me online - it's the complete LACK of a Russian accent. However, for women who find that attractive (and I know you're out there) I can turn it on, and it sounds legit.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I faithfully read profiles before writing to anyone, which I know is uncommon, but even I NEVER bother w/ this section. Which leads me to assume practically no one reads it and it's just plain not worth keeping updated. If you want to know, just ask.
The six things I could never do without
- My mother. Her sacrifices and struggles as a single parent refugee with what was then a very sick child are the reason I'm self-actualizing rather than dodging artillery rounds in an urban jungle.
- A few friends I consider family.
- Nocturnal life, and adequate protection from the sun, because some of those quirks society criticizes you for are actually health needs.
- An Android device w/ high-speed internet.
- My Smith & Wesson Special Ops (that's a utility KNIFE, not a gun) - some survival skills never become obsolete.
- A secluded place in nature to occasionally retreat to, on a hike or camping trip, alone or with a companion.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Human behavior. Individual, group, societal.
On a typical Friday night I am
Times of day and days of the week are meaningless to me, except that I like to stay up almost til the sunrise and sleep until noon or so. Freelancing affords me this luxury most of the time.

However, these are the activities I enjoy:

Hanging out in relatively quiet dive bars, coffee shops, and lounges, enjoying high end liquor and tobacco in tempered amounts and either pecking away at my laptop writing abstract poetry and prose or socializing, be it with friends or complete strangers, discussing politics and society.

A good local music show or art exhibit. Many of my friends are artists in various forms and I have the privilege of frequent invitations.

I'm adept at counting cards (it's nothing like the movies), so occasionally you might find me at a local casino.

Walking. In a park. On the beach. Down the street. It doubles as exercise, but primarily it's a means of meditation. Often done in seclusion to get my processing up to speed with the constant onslaught of complex human behavior that is my work.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I make very elaborate yet low-budget Halloween costumes from scratch every year, and when I wear them, I find myself secretly wondering how well they might mask my identity for subversive activities.
You should message me if
You are mature enough for a duality of civility and intensity. You can disagree profoundly without getting upset, and place experience and communication in human relationships above normative expectations.
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