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My self-summary
***My relationship card is full! Open to new friends and play mates only.***
(Exceptions might be made, but you need to reach out!)
It's been years since I did a re-write of this thing, so let's get to it...

Health IT MacGuyver, lover of puns, communist, kinkster, loner hermit, awkward, geeky/nerdy, low brow intellectual, non-monogamous/poly, insomniac, and... kind of a weird guy. Super introverted, but looking to add a few new people to my life.

Used to be all about social justice activism, but lately have been less... active about it? Still have strong feelings on class, race, gender, health disparities, racism, inequality and like talking to others on the same page.

I like to learn new things. Have anything to teach me?

Also, I'm in a stable open relationship. That said, our arrangement is quite flexible and trusting. I think honesty in relationships is very important. I am looking for folks who can be a part of my life, not hookups or some kind of experimental threesome. Let's start with friends and see where things go.

I am curmudgeonly, kinky, and leftist
What I’m doing with my life
Not what I planned to do while I was in school... I work in Healthcare IT, and it's pretty exciting! I help develop and implement applications in emergency departments, which is a healthy mix of challenges and stress. I'm also a systems security officer, though I'm still waiting for my badge. I'm hoping to use my new skills for something worthwhile eventually, but healthcare in this country is so messed up I'm skeptical about how much impact technology can have.

I work a lot, so I haven't had much time for anything else recently. I'm hoping to change this! That said, I enjoy decompressing/relaxing when I have the time. Want to go through a season of an excellent show on Netflix? Get at me!

I have an adorable Siamese cat who is my best buddy. We take lots of naps together. Pics available upon request!
I’m really good at
-Carrying on conversations openly without being too judgmental. I'm very, very rarely shocked by the things people say.
-dissecting/analyzing arguments, though I certainly have my own biases.
-being very calm and laid back. It actually requires a lot of effort sometimes!
-not being grossed out. It's certainly possible, though few know how to do it. I like it when people try!
-making people feel smart.
The first things people usually notice about me
I'm very tall, usually quiet, and almost always a bit disheveled. I have signature facial hair that will occasionally get longer or shorter, but never disappear!

Also, that I look and act pretty normal for a non-monogamous communist into BDSM, horror flicks and musicals...
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books: The Revolution Will Not Be Funded: Beyond the Non-Profit Industrial Complex(pretty much convinced me not to go into non-profits) , Malcolm X Speaks, 1984, People's History of the United States, Marshall McLuhan, Marx, Ward Churchill, Angela Davis, Orwell, Vonnegut, Asimov

Movies: Wild Zero, Mad Max: Fury Road, American Psycho, Tetsuo, Repo Man, Jesus Christ Vampire Hunter, They Live, May, Attack the Gas Station, Kung Fu Panda, Cannibal the Musical, Videodrome, anything Marvel, Crash (Cronenberg, not the recent one...) . I also like cheesy action movies, especially ones with superheroes. And Sci-fi movies!

TV Shows: Community, Futurama, BSG, Firefly, Simpsons, Parks and Recreation, Louie, Hannibal, Agents of Shield, Archer, Rick & Morty, Walking Dead... I watch a lot of TV... Curse this golden age of Television!

Music: Most electronic music, jazz, Industrial, Metal, hip-hop, musicals, a bunch of other stuff... I listen to a pretty wide variety of things. Lately I've really been into pop music.

Food: Whatever I need to survive... and pizza. And milkshakes. Occasionally, tofu.
The six things I could never do without
1) My Computer 2) Challenging work 3) Pizza 4)Online TV/Netflix 5)Intelligent conversation and/or ranting 6)Kink (not necessarily in that order...)

I used to have chocolate milkshakes here, but I haven't had one in a while, so I guess I can do without it. I thought it would be dishonest to leave it there.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
What I would do if I traveled back in time. The nature of sex and relationships. BDSM. How I wish I used the metric system on a regular basis. How there's not enough time to do everything I want to. Oppression and intersectionality. The giant back tattoo I'm planning. How poor my grammar is for someone with a degree in English.
On a typical Friday night I am
Binge watching netflix, drinking, watching movies, or engaging in nerdish activities.... possibly all at the same time. Lately I have been indulging in hermititude. I'd like to be Dancing!
I'm a bit of an introvert, so I generally like relaxed atmospheres with not a lot of people around.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I'm actually a toaster oven.
I think that I'm attracted to jaded people and the cynical.(Not judgmentally, though!) They just seem to go well with my broodiness and cynicism, and I enjoy the company of people who are able to talk about their emotions and experiences with real depth and insight, which in my experience has been people with emotional issues. I admire optimism, but I don't like when people go for the easy fix. That said, it is by no means a requirement for friendship or otherwise.
Or, to quote Lisa Simpson:
"“As intelligence goes up, happiness goes down. See, I made a graph. I make lots of graphs..."
I try to project a more upbeat, positive image of myself for fear of coming off as depressed/sad.
Additionally, I save people to my favorites list while I try to think of something interesting to say (I may over-think things...)
You should message me if
You're interested in talking and you've got a soft spot for people who are kind of nerdy/geeky...

I'm not a huge fan of drama, so I like laid-back people. If you like hanging out, watching movies, and relaxing, we should chat!

Also also, if you're just intrigued by something in my profile, find something confusing, or just feel like it, send a message my way!