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My self-summary
* As of April, 2013, I'm married to a long time friend. Neither of us are exclusive by nature, but neither of us are actively looking either.*
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I'm spiritual in attitude, borrowing wisdom and perspective from Buddhism, Quakers, Unitarians, Christianity and the Ba'hai (among others.)

I'm not much of a materialist -- my successful programming career has translated to long sabbaticals and chunks of time spent on personal projects. Family life requires financial security, but I'd rather have a month-long family vacation in Belize or New Zealand than a 10% larger house. Quality of life over quantity of stuff any day.
What I’m doing with my life
I enjoy the occasional adventure -- things like hiking, rock scrambling, mountain trail camping, caving, and SCUBA somewhere with warmer waters.

I'm an intermediate level potter, throwing porcelain on the wheel, and enjoy it enough that we've set up a small pottery studio at home.
I’m really good at
Listening, sensing how people feel, and reacting to adversity with cheerful humor. I'm serious about being a good friend or partner, even when that's hard. Cooking, with or without recipe, learning new things (many new things), and enjoying the wonders of life.
The first things people usually notice about me
That my gray-blue eyes are smiling at them.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Fiction that makes you think by Lois McMaster Bujold, Ursula K. Le Guin, Octavia Butler, Philip K. Dick and Joe Haldeman.

Explorations of what it is to be human by Malcolm Gladwell, George Lakoff and Oliver Sacks.

My best friend teased me when I teared up watching The Princess and the Frog, Pan's Labyrinth was breathtaking, Gandhi complexly uplifting, and Serenity was exhilarating. I do occasionally watch TV series on NetFlix or Hulu, but not frequently -- hours per month, not per week or day.

Music is all about energy and lyrical content for me. It doesn't necessarily need to be both smart and kickin' at the same time, but my favorite music (XTC, Tori Amos, David Bowie, India Arie, Suzanne Vega, etc.) all have both in the mix.

I'm a sensualist, and food is high on my list. Thai, Indian, Ethiopian, Mexican, Italian and Japanese are all marvelous. I have most of 100 spices on my spice rack, and if I use a recipe, it's more for inspiration than necessity.
Six things I could never do without
amazing friends
inspiring conversation
natural beauty
fierce affection
luscious food
challenging novelty
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Philosophy and spirituality - psychology and sociology - politics and activism - business and software - cooking - pottery and last but not least, friends and family.
On a typical Friday night I am
Ha! There is no "typical." If I'm not inspiring my lover to new levels of ecstasy, I might be talking with her and/or our friends, remodeling the house, out at a favorite restaurant, throwing porcelain on the wheel, strolling about in a park, or (not often enough) out hiking or camping.

I love the outdoors, but am not into team sports (aside from soccer perhaps.) Tennis can be fun, regardless of how bad at it I am.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I am willing to answer hard questions honestly, even if that takes real effort or is emotionally difficult. I've had my rough edges worn off by friends, girlfriends and housemates -- I have very few hot buttons left to push, and they're only warm buttons.
You should message me if
If you're looking for a pottery friend on Beacon Hill in Seattle.
The two of us