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My self-summary
I'm an aspiring technocrat, a bookish bon vivant, and a very early model cyborg, complete with several magical body parts (just ask the witch doctors who'd like to cut them off of me.) I'm in a long-term, open relationship and not looking for another girlfriend, but if you think we could have some friendly, relaxed and respectful fun* together, then let's find out if you're right.

Never afraid to laugh at myself or try something new (which frequently leads to laughing at myself, so hey, two birds!). "Something new" has ranged from "nude modelling" to "eating a goat head in a sketchy restaurant in Nigeria" to "hitting a dance floor despite needing a cane to leave the house".

*both euphemistic and non-euphemistic fun available. Offer void where prohibited. Offer valid in the Province of Quebec (for once).
What I’m doing with my life
My education's focused mainly on the new ways people communicate, connect, and entertain themselves, and how the law can or should respond. Right now I work in one of Canada's most hated professions at one of Canada's most hated government agencies, but sadly haven't yet managed to get them to use "Not evil, just misunderstood" as a motto.

Otherwise...actually finding time to regularly read and write for pleasure again for the first time since getting into law school, working on my French (très lentement), and exploring all the delightful options Ottawa offers in cuisine, cinema, comedy, music, museums, art, and theatre.
I’m really good at
Waxing eloquent, and playing with words in all their forms.

Ethical smartassery.

Taking things in stride and not letting them stop me.
The first things people usually notice about me
Apparently, how young I look. I TOLD you I was magic.

That aside, probably my cane or crutches (not a fashion accessory), my strikingly pale skin and hair (also not a fashion accessory, but a handy coincidence given some of my musical tastes and my penchant for dark clothing), or maybe, if I'm in the right mood, the fact that I'm singing or humming while I walk down the street.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I delight in stories that focus on character interaction and dialogue, especially in political, historical, and/or fantasy/SF settings. More specifically:

Books: Far, far too many to list here, but favourite authors include Guy Gavriel Kay, Terry Pratchett, Jane Austen, Douglas Adams, Neil Gaiman, and Lois McMaster Bujold.

TV: The West Wing, Game of Thrones, Yes, Minister, The Thick of It, Babylon 5, Rome, Daria, and Gossip Girl.

Movies: Elizabeth. Kill Bill, Lock, Stock, and Two Smoking Barrels, The Godfather, Cruel Intentions, In The Loop.

Music: I enjoy enough kinds of alternative rock that my playlist for it is called The Term Has Lost All Meaning (Garbage, Metric, Nine Inch Nails, Tool/A Perfect Circle), Gothic metal/symphonic metal (Epica, Apocalyptica, Paradise Lost), some electronica, industrial music and synthpop (Delerium, Massive Attack, Collide, VNV Nation), and even more besides (see my last.fm if you like).

Food: I'll give all kinds of food from all kinds of places a try, but anything involving seafood easily takes top spot, particularly grilled fish or shrimp. Desserts, fruits, and things merely flavoured like fruit are rarely safe around me either.
Six things I could never do without
Fruity drinks of all kinds.
Music, whether I'm singing or listening.
Witty banter, satire, and commentary.
Access to information through books and the Net.
Urban living and all the options that come with it.
Stunning views from high places.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
The little moments in life that make you glad to be here, and the people that show them to us through words, or art, or song. I don't know if I believe in magic, but I like the idea of a little glamour in our lives.

Also history, politics and current events. Though these days the latter two seem calculated to drive me mad and destroy my faith in humanity. And I liked my faith in humanity.
On a typical Friday night I am
If I'm not out at some new show/exhibit, or unwinding at home with a book and some tunes, I'm usually hanging out with a few good friends at a pub (especially if there's trivia), cafe, house party, or board game night.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I'm willing to admit rather a lot if asked nicely. But we'll start with: airports are actually pretty fun when they give you a wheelchair and send you through the NEXUS line, then leave you in a nice, long concourse to use as a racetrack while you wait for your flight.
You should message me if
You idolize Dorothy Parker, Hypatia, or Catherine the Great.
You're not-so-secretly delighted by thunderstorms.
Any of your nearest and dearest have died of dysentery or been eaten by Chryssalids.
You think you know me from somewhere.
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