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My self-summary
Hey, All. I'm a polyamorous bisexual feminist atheist.

Didn't there used to be an "available" option on here? I wish OKC would bring that back! I'm not single, but I am available.

I'm in an open relationship as a secondary partner. I may or may not be into finding a primary partner of my own right now. I AM interested in dating and I'm not opposed to developing (an)other relationship(s) which includes a great deal of trust, tenderness, and emotional commitment, but I feel no impetus whatsoever to *seek out* a life partner. There are so many other goals I'm more concerned with, and I already feel loved and supported by the great people in my life.

I'm very open with my emotions and I will potentially send you the longest texts you've ever received about subjects both serious and trivial (if you're into lengthy text conversations, that is), but I can't commit to a significant amount of hangout time right now. If you're looking for someone you'll be seeing three or four days a week, that definitely isn't me, unless you conveniently happen to be one of my neighbors. This would be true even if I WAS totally single.

Also, I think a casual sexy fling could be totally great. Please consider me for your casual sexy flings. ...But I must warn you that I'll want to converse at least a little bit beforehand; People are their most attractive when they're talking about the things they're passionate about.

Friends are cool, too. I like friends.

The disclaimer I should apply to all of this, whatever interest you may take in me, is that I can be pretty flakey about responding to messages on this site. But I've met some of my very favorite people in the world through it, so who knows what might happen if you and I start talking?

Eek, has this already become eyes-glazing-over-long? Which is also, arguably, overlong? I don't want to waste anyone's time, though.

So, with all that said, if you're still interested you can jump down to the "message me if" section. Or you can read this stuff I wrote in my profile a long time ago before I needed to stamp my profile with my non-monogamous label. Ahem:

Things I like: dumb/punny jokes, playing scrabble, window shopping, dancing (even if I don't do it well), wandering around the greenbelt, attempting to learn Muay Thai. I spend most of my hours in athletic apparel but I love opportunities to dress up. I love twirly, girly dresses. You'll never see me in heels or eyeliner, though.

I cook less than anyone I know.

I'm a feminist, so I'm very big on that whole "respecting others regardless of their weight, ethnicity, religion, sexuality, gender indentity/presentation, class, and ability status" thing. I'm very privileged in many respects but try to take ownership of that.

I'm a personal trainer and I think society places FAR too much emphasis on what our bodies look like and not enough on how they feel and what they can do. I want more women to get in to the weight room.
What I’m doing with my life
Working as a personal trainer. I LOVE my job. Helping people meet their goals and then set new, more ambitious goals is incredibly rewarding.
I’m really good at
-being patient
-being relentlessly cheerful. I mention this partly as a warning.
-bruising. From every little thing ever.
The first things people usually notice about me
Occasionally people will ask me where my "accent" is from, but I think it's just a twinge of residual speech impediment. I was in speech therapy from grades 1st through 6th and I don't think I totally eliminated it.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
books: Middlesex, Midnight's Children, some fantasy novels I read long time ago that I'm due to re-read. If you too passionately loved Robin Hobb's Farseer Trilogy, I want to meet you.

movies: The Man From Earth, Up, Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind.

The evolution of my favorite movies from childhood to now is as follows: The Great Mouse Detective & Disney's animated Robin Hood --> The Princess Bride & Nightmare Before Christmas --> Kiki's Delivery Service, Gattaca & Ghost World --> now. I still love all of those movies.

shows: Doctor Who, Mad Men, what little I have seen of Bob's Burgers. Carnival, even though I haven't brought myself to finish it yet because it was cancelled and I don't want to be stuck in a state of longing for more.

music: I really don't listen to much music. (I know.) My favorite musician ever is Jens Lekman. I also enjoy overly processed pop music, and I'm not ashamed.

food: I enjoy going out to eat delicious Ethiopian, Thai, and Indian food.

Currently my favorite places to eat in Austin are probably Ruby's barbecue (yes, Ruby's with a B - the one with the cat and the stewed okra and the amazing pulled pork) and Aster's.

At home, I'm generally quite content with things like cottage cheese and enormous, colorful salads. I also love Siggi's Skyr and like to treat myself to expensive designer apples.
The six things I could never do without
-my mp3 player. Because: podcasts.
-Burt's Bees chap stick
-exercise, especially lifting weights
-flat shoes
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
You know those little single serve cups of Coffee-mate they have at the HEB/gas station coffee bars? My super tacky habit is that I'll sometimes take a bunch of them to use later. The French Vanilla ones.
You should message me if
-You love cuddling but respect the fact that I will NOT want you to cuddle with me while I'm trying to sleep.

-You enjoy wandering around grocery stores together for extended periods of time (This is not mandatory in a match, though. That would just be silly).

-You are totally fine with the fact that I'm polyamorous and already in a relationship that's very important to me.

-You won't expect me to leave my boyfriend for you. I really like that guy and he's very important to me. IMPORTANT NOTE: this account is not an attempt to secretly lure you into having a threesome with us, so fear not on that front.

-You don't view love as a limited resource. Time, sadly, is very much a limited resource. But loving and/or being attracted to one person in no way diminishes my love for or attraction to another.

-You are fine with dating someone who most likely will never want kids and definitely won't want them within this decade. YOU can have kids soon, or already, but I'm not raising them.

-You're fine with -nay, WILL ENJOY - the fact that I can be very giggle-y ...even and perhaps sometimes especially in bed.