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My self-summary
I'm a blind-ass nerd who makes up for my inability to not walk into walls by keeping up a steady stream of hopefully interesting chatter. It's echolocation, see. Like a bat.

But yapping that much is hard work and what I really want to do is meet people whose stories are so interesting that I can just stop and listen. I'm lucky enough to know a lot of incredibly cool, talented people with interesting perspectives, but I'd like to meet more.

(And, yeah, maybe take some of them out for coffee or Indian or maybe even holding hands in a movie theater like kids.)
What I’m doing with my life
A few years ago I had some nerve damage that cost me a good portion of my eyesight. It's gotten better, somewhat, but I don't know if I'll be able to drive again. I'm figuring out where I can go from here, and part of that involves a general program of self-improvement, because there's really no time like the present, and I finally have the time to focus on it.

And when I'm not focusing on it? I go on long walks, I read square-ass magazines like the Economist and the Atlantic, I spend time with my friends and loved ones, and I write.
I’m really good at
Reading and writing. Math. Board games. Talking too much. Cooking food that tastes pretty great in direct and terrible proportion to how bad it is for you. Ask me about my spinach-and-feta-stuffed cheeseburgers sometime.

I've been told I'm a good curator; I enjoy helping people find things (books, music, movies, or whatever) that they'd enjoy. Criticism is something I've done for money in the past and might do again in the future.

I think I'm pretty good at keeping my cool in rough situations, but that honestly seems like something that someone else would have to judge.

I try to treat people with respect and empathy and I think - I hope - that I do a good job of it.
The first things people usually notice about me
These days it's the glasses. I wanted ones that looked like Gary Oldman's in "Tinker, Tailor, Soldier, Spy," because I really like that character and look up to him. I've always chosen odd masculine role models.

People who haven't seen me in a while are noticing that I've lost some weight, which is pleasing to mine ears; and I'm working to hear this even more. It's a work in progress, but it is in fact progressing.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books: Cloud Atlas by David Mitchell, Blood Meridian by Cormac McCarthy, The Maltese Falcon by Dashiell Hammett, Babbitt by Sinclair Lewis, Tinker Tailor Soldier Spy by John le Carré, the Aubrey/Maturin novels by Patrick O'Brian, Farewell My Lovely by Raymond Chandler, Foundation by Isaac Asimov, Lolita by Vladimir Nabokov, Neuromancer by William Gibson, Wonder Boys by Michael Chabon, Trainspotting by Irvine Welsh, The Corner by David Simon, Clockers by Richard Price, Foucault's Pendulum by Umberto Eco, if on a winter's night a traveller... by Italo Calvino, Perdido Street Station by China Mieville, and The Book of the New Sun by Gene Wolfe.

Movies: The Apartment, L.A. Confidential, Metropolitan, Chungking Express, A Better Tomorrow II, masculin/feminin, The Seventh Seal, Die Hard, Robocop, Once Upon a Time In the West, Blade Runner, Chinatown, Raiders of the Lost Ark, Ottoamezzo (8 1/2), Seven Samurai, Best in Show, Lawrence of Arabia, Terminator 2, Repo Man, Moonrise Kingdom, Fargo

TV: Mr. Robot, Stranger Things, Daredevil and Jessica Jones, Crazy Ex-Girlfriend, Orange is the New Black, The Grinder (THE GREATEST OF ALL TIME), Parks and Recreation, Frasier, NewsRadio, Arrested Development, The Wire, Twin Peaks, the Kids in the Hall

Music: Elvis Costello, REM, The Smiths, The Cars, The Cure, Tears for Fears, New Order, The Jam, XTC, David Bowie, Bruce Springsteen, The Decemberists, Miles Davis, Tony Bennett, Aimee Mann, Kenny Rogers (no hurtful comments, please) and a smattering of classical that could stand to be expanded. Post-punk, New Wave, cool jazz, earnest power ballads, trance.

Food: Indian, BBQ, Salvadoran, sushi - and I recently discovered the joys of Polish cuisine. Now I'm really sad that we can't get good pierogies in KC (if you know a good place, please tell me!). Oh, and every month or so I need to get delicious garbage takeout Chinese or I might die. It's science.
Six things I could never do without
Books, films, music, friendship, solitude - and, as Cyrano said, my panache.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
The terrifying number of people - not all of whom can be insane - who are happily willing to vote for a thoroughgoing fascist. I worry about whether democracy as a concept can survive in the 21st century.

When that starts giving me a headache, I think about how my cat's fluffy belly probably needs a rub.
On a typical Friday night I am
Getting up to some serious nerd shit.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I am totally judging your book collection right now.
You should message me if
I guess, fundamentally, I'm interested in people who give a shit about things. Passion - about art and expression, about politics and the world, about interests and relationships - is so much more interesting than passivity. I care a lot less about whether people have ticked off all the boxes for Mandatory Adulthood than that they've got something besides sheer habit that gets them up in the morning.
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