36Chandler, United States
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My self-summary
A polyamorous feminist gamer/geek/dancer/student. I love new tasks, challenges, and open-minded conversations. Fun and variety are necessary things in my life.

I have multiple partners. For those in shock, look up that second word of this section. Everyone's aware and happy.
What I’m doing with my life
Working and learning new skills on the job every day. Spending time with friends and who I consider family. Gaming to get some time away from the hustle. Spending time with my GF, Otka.
I’m really good at
Computers, and making them do the work for us.

Techy/geeky topics and trivia.

Ballroom dancing.

Being a student.

Reading people.
The first things people usually notice about me
I've never really asked, but others seem to trust me easily. Perhaps I set them at ease, or am projecting calm. Most of the traits others seem to end up liking from first impressions are all social in nature. If I asked more, I'd probably have a better list to put here.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books: much of Larry Niven's works, some Neal Stephenson, enjoyed the Kushiel series.

Movies/TV: V for Vendetta, Firefly/Serenity, Star Trek, Star Wars (yes it is possible to like both!), Bones, House, Mental, Black Swan, Dexter, Perception, Dr. Who, and more.

Music: Lots of things excluding twangy country and angry rap, but including things like Great Big Sea, Bon Jovi, Flogging Molly. I've got a giant collection that I'll put on shuffle-all sometimes.

Video Games (I include these because like other forms of entertainment/art, preference in games can allude to certain traits in people): Have played a lot, but some favorites include: select final fantasies (and similar play styles like Chrono Trigger); ace combat series; assassin's creed series; guild wars (but not WoW!); and almost anything that involves two or more people that isn't a shooter.

Board/card Games: Robo Rally; Illuminati; infernal contraption; and more;

Food: Depends on mood, but give me a nicely done steak, or a great Italian place, and I'm good.
Six things I could never do without
I love banter. I don't mean competitive debates, I mean banter. Must include wit.
Friends who can mentally engage in a conversation.
A project.
Any physical activity more demanding than walking.
A connection to the net.
Someone to go out and have fun with.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Where things are going, where they've been, and reading between the lines. That *is* generic, but my mode of thought describes me better than what I'm thinking about.

I enjoy watching sea-changes in perceptions for their implications in the future.

I like thinking on relationships as it gives me insight into both sides and the relationship itself.

Over it all, my fascination with the past's contribution to the present and the near future's potential on the farther future describes how I think, but it isn't what I always talk about.
On a typical Friday night I am
Typical is hard to define these days. I do need to get more dancing in my life, but it isn't regular yet.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
Is at the top of this profile. Not everyone agrees with the choice of lifestyle. I don't advertise myself in a lot of places, and that is something that's caused waves before, so it gets advertised a lot less.
You should message me if
You are: not possessive; open-minded; intrigued; a person with more than two layers; a gamer; able to read between the lines; like geeky; want sensuality; someone who shares any of my interests.

Or you want to - really, there's nothing wrong with being the first to message. Awkward, yes, but that's what conversation is for.
The two of us