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My self-summary
I’m like the shack on a rocky promontory where the stars like to go when they’re in the mood to abscond from the night sky to come down and play—as weather-beaten as I am wise, and eternally winsome.
What I’m doing with my life
My curse is that I am a strong personality. Women I typically attract are into Don Draper meets Dead Poets Society. But I’m the poor snot who has to live those things and aspires to actually shake human experience to its foundations. I guess I look preppy. It’s a heinous costume I have to bear.

In principle, I despise jobs and the workaday life. I broke my teeth and paid my dues in the down-and-out DIY contemporary art world. Then, I failed into the high-end Museum and Auction and High Fashion worlds, which made me very confused. Now, I am in books and happy as a clam. I feel blessed (like it’s a trick of which I am not worthy) to interview my favorite authors anytime I want. They don’t say no. Or, God forbid, review them. It’s a workaday life that I lead now, not so very interesting, perhaps, from the outside.

I am relatively unfamiliar with the word no. For this reason, I can be very empowering to people, especially those who hover on the edge. In some ways, this also makes me a little bit dangerous, even though I have a really good heart and would never ever encourage anyone to do something dangerous or hurtful to themselves or someone else—this being an important distinction for me that distinguishes me from some of my colleagues and peers.

Maybe this makes me a good badboy. I just happen to think that there's more going on in this world than mainstream culture dreams of, although I'm still hooked on the core values.

My limits are high. I can tolerate difficult people like nobody's business, especially creative wonderful geniuses. Most people can't, so I often get to keep them. But I give many more points to people of grace and dignity and would probably prefer to connect with someone who just walked off the set of Little House on the Prairie.

I survive by grooming myself and acting polite. I work as a marketing creative at the highest end of the luxury spectrum, like a house slave. That world I serve is like a book I'm reading, not my life at all, and most of my intellectual antics at night tend to be as inappropriate as possible to that kind of propriety. I mean, sh*t, I actually used to have to write etiquette.

In my last chapter, I was a writer by day and an impresario and a raconteur at night. I curated art and criticized it and even made it. I tried selling it too, but I was never very good at that part.

When, after a decade+, I finally lost my superpowers, I took pause to reflect and realized that I done the same exact thing for all that time, mostly out of habit, and for all of it I had paid absolutely no attention to what anyone was doing unless they walked directly into the purview of my immediate creative concerns (I think maybe that's the long-winded way of saying, I was having fun). I was so busy trying to make the world just a little bit more entertaining, as though nibble by nibble we would get to something profound.

So, now I'm trying to take a step back and figure all that out. This is a process and it involves meeting new people and getting new perspectives. More specifically, I want to have a crush on someone and I want it to last forever.
I’m really good at
Encouraging people to have big ideas
The first things people usually notice about me
I'm not like them. It's weird. I know. I'm just not, no matter how hard I try. Some people like that, and others don't. I'm famous for making bad first impressions, but my detractors usually wind up adoring me (~forgiving me?~) when they realize I'm not kidding. I really am that earnest.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Movies that my imagination often returns to: Black Orpheus, The Bicycle Thief, The Razor’s Edge (1948), Night of the Iguana, Frankenheimer’s Seconds, Joe Versus the Volcano, Flashback, Return to Paradise, The Princess Bride, Total Recall, American Beauty, Flashback ;-), Kaos (Taviani Brothers), Delores Claiborne, Memento, Liquid Sky...

Books are where I am most at home. Currently loving Zoo City by Lauren Beukes. South African author destined to be the next big 'ting'. I'm interviewing her next week and very excited about that.

Some of the genres/authors and books that have had a big impact on me include: St. Exupery, Charlotte’s Web, Candide, Don Quixote, Thomas Hardy, Klaus Theweleit’s Male Fantasies, Jonathan Carroll, Dostoyevsky’s The Idiot, Poe, Coleridge, Mary Shelley, historical fiction, Luc Sante’s Low Life, Cormac McCarthy’s The Road, Magic Mountain, John Barth (particularly Giles Goat Boy), The Black Dahlia, Moby Dick, Roald Dahl, Huckleberry Finn, theory, Virginia Wolfe, Robert Coover’s Spanking the Made, Graham Greene…

I am a foodie and an omnivore. Seriously into learning how to boil water properly.

My favorite meal is breakfast. I have a very healthy curiosity about new things and am especially fond of seafood (steamers, top neck clams for lunch most days, percebes which are also called gooseneck barnacles, smoked fish, the toothier the better). Dim sum, yes. Middle Eastern, yes. Rustic Italian, yes. Asian fusion, yes. Indian, yes. Regional American comfort food, yes. In restaurants, a chill, relaxed vibe is important to me.

TV: Not so much. I’m a big fail here. Haven’t quite figured out how to get into it, but am open to trying. I do Game of Thrones, Vikings and Walking Dead on social occasions.
Six things I could never do without
I've been there. Sometimes it's enough to know they just once existed.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
The poetry and justice of unexpected archeological discoveries.
On a typical Friday night I am
Imagining a new way to stage The Dance of the Seven Veils.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
Years ago on Pacifica I heard that when you hear a bird singing at night, it's a male without a mate. That touches my heart. I guess I'm lonely too.
You should message me if
I leave that to you. I love getting messages, the more sincere the better. Please know, if you do and I don't respond, it's probably because I am distracted—off chasing squirrels.
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