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My self-summary
OK – This rewrite/update is long overdue, so I am borrowing from my past profile, adding my current thoughts, and poaching from some conversations I’ve had this year to cobble together something coherent about me and why I’m here.

The end of 2014 and beginning of 2015 has been a huge rushing out of changes for me. I can say that I’m still the same kind of person I’ve been, but with a different sense of optimism than I have felt in the past. 50 is a strange year in the life – it’s when all the trends you’ve been seeing for a deade are now solid reality: I’m not so quick as I once was, nor as dark-haired, nor thin, nor as dark or harsh as I had been. I’m much better at letting things roll off my back, and less apt to take offense or draw conclusions than when I was younger. I’m still open, and fully willing to embrace and examine emotional states (both mine and a partner’s), and I am looking for a partner in life, but I would really like a friend who wants to enjoy the learning process with me. I’m busy with reconstructing my career, after decades of being a software trainer, professional classical musician, a muscle therapist, and a host of other types of business. I keep coming back to teaching and to growing things. Horticultural instructor? I don’t know. I’m giving it time.

I live in the suburbs of Philadelphia, about 30 miles from the center of town. I’m very much a country boy and need to be around the land, the farmland and the trees. I despise the truly suburban areas of mindlessly “developed” zones with no practical culture. My years living downtown in Philadelphia, and working in many urban locations across the country were great fun, but I’m not that kind of young person anymore, and I can always visit easily. I’d like to find someone around who finds town life and countryside more appealing than the speed and intensity of the city, but who also seeks the culture and entertainment of urban life.

I usually have a terribly bleak outlook in the winter months, owing to SAD (Seasonal Affective Disorder.) This year it seems to be responding to changes in my nutrition, large doses of Vitamin D, and to a 1000 watt lamp which extends my daylight hours. My spring, summer and fall hours are much dedicated to growing a food garden (about ½ an acre or so at this point.) I would love to plan for a dog and chickens to fill out the layout, but I spend a lot of time helping my family as my folks get older, so I’m saving the extra dedication it would require for the next chapter in life.

I spent the better part of four years living in Santa Fe, New Mexico and I am frankly entirely homesick for it. Once you’ve lived the Rocky Mountain life it’s impossible to shake it out of your system. I would very much like to meet someone open to the idea of being there at least for some point in the future. I would so much like to visit and it's long overdue. My very best of friends are still there, and though I like the folks around here, I feel like I'm just lingering. I am in PA for "the duration" as they say. I came back to help my folks as they get older (my mom's in her 'second childhood' right now), but it is sort of like putting my “whole” life on hold. Anyway, I really want to plan a trip to NM this year, impose on some friends during opera season in Santa Fe and just get back to that first chakra earth energy that I always felt being out there, and I don't know, lie in a pool at Ojo Caliente…

I like independent-minded, smart guys. I have a visceral attraction to blonds that I can't explain - maybe because I'm dark and my first crush was a beautiful blond guy - but it doesn't make my choices for me, it's just a chemical thing.
What I’m doing with my life
I'm a professional, classical, choral and vocal musician, a massage therapist specializing in working with musicians, and I do computer consulting with various professions.

I've always been a student of body language, and I can usually note what ails someone by looking at how they walk and hold themselves.
I’m really good at
Music, Gardening, Cooking and Massage. Sensual arts, I guess you could call them.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I am very much a reader, I love history, historical fiction, and I have read plenty of Science Fiction. I am more apt to read non-fiction these days about European Medieval History, Food and Cooking, any books on how we perceive the world through our senses, and anything written by Rebecca Goldstein, whom I consider genius. I am reading and listening to everything I can get ahold of from Marshall Rosenberg. His Non-violent Communication is something I would very much like to make part of my life from this point forward, reflecting on it fills me with hope and satisfaction.
I am a big fan of TCM, I own DVDs of many films from the 1930s and 1940s which I enjoy immensely. I see few modern films in the theatre, although I can enjoy someone else's enthusiasm when I get invited along.
My music tastes are broad, but I especially listen to classical music of many styles, I perform many of them personally. I enjoy vocal and instrumental jazz and listen to Dianne Reeves or Anne Hampton Calloway singing anything.
I appreciate good food from many ethnic traditions. I can do passable imitations of Indian, French, Italian, Moroccan, Levantine, and Chinese cooking.
Six things I could never do without
Reading, singing, intelligent conversation, companionship, trust, and a place to garden - extensively.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
I think my mind just never stops bouncing from topic to topic. I love analysis, and I love beauty, and the intersection of the two.
On a typical Friday night I am
Home, working in the garden, lounging in the hammock, chatting with friends online, making new friends online, cooking a meal, preparing for students on the weekend, practicing my music for the jazz choir, the medieval choir, or whatever, and then curling up around a good book, the cats, whatever's close by.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
My partner's death in 2006 was a massive blow and I did feel for a while unable to stretch too far from it, but aging and struggling through the ill-timed move back to Philadelphia have reset the standards; I have learned a lot about my resiliency, and about the things I seek from others, and, most importantly the methods I use to ask for what I need from others. It has taught me a great deal about the way my childhood and family lessons left me ill prepared for the adventures of adult emotional and sexual relations, but maturing, dare I say reaching mid-life, has made me even more content and eager to see who's willing to take chances, explore, and play. I'm especially looking forward to see who is interested in setting up a relationship in my life, of whatever sort - and so far the individual candidates of all types have been very appealing - I can only hope I am challenging and pleasing them equally, and I am looking to keep that optimism growing in coming encounters.
You should message me if
When you decide there's a chance we intersect on some interesting tangent or in some big way, just drop me a line and let's see how we can connect. I'm interested in getting to know more.
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