Jack_ofSpades
26 Independence, United States
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My self-summary
I'm not good at magic moments. I don't know how to make you swoon, or to feel butterflies in your stomach. All I know how to do is to enjoy you, appreciate you, cherish you, and be faithful to you. Hopefully, if you're willing to think that that's enough for now, the magic will appear on its own.

I'm a conservative, Christian man, looking for a woman who can be my best friend and trusted partner, and who would eventually like to start a family together. My perfect daydream of a life involves family dinners, game nights, church on Sundays, and reading to the kids in lots of funny voices at bedtime. I'm building a career right now that I believe should be able to support a wife who would never feel pressured to work full-time unless she actually wanted to. With all that said, it's probably going to be pretty tough to find that special girl, so let's start with trying to be good friends and see how it goes from there. I realize this lifestyle isn't everyone's preference, but if you've enjoyed reading about it, please take a chance and send me a message. I really am a nice guy, I promise :-).

To be honest, I'm beginning to get seriously tired of the dating world. It seems like the population of guys who are just here to spam girls with predictable, formulaic pickup lines is drowning out those of us who are actually here to find a real, meaningful relationship. If you're reading this, here's me in a nutshell: I actually am a nice guy, educated and well-read, employed and motivated, with an incorrigible and slightly clever sense of humor 😉, physically active, moderately sane, even somewhat hygienic, no kids or huge baggage, looking for a partner and a best friend, who is getting frustrated with being ignored because this site apparently makes it impossible to tell the difference between guys like me and the hedonistic trolls who are out for nothing more than vicarious masturbation.

In hindsight, that was actually one of my better rants :-) . Hope it didn't turn you off!
What I’m doing with my life
Building a career that can support a family, and getting my butt into church as often as I can. I geek out with a group of friends on weekends, playing tabletop games like D&D, and study martial arts and business management. I'm in a big transitional period right now, finding new music, tv shows, hang-outs, etc., so if you know a good coffee shop for hanging out, reading or writing, or listening to music, I'd love to hear it :-)
I’m really good at
I really like working with kids, teaching and playing games. I've also been told I give awesome hugs/cuddles. Other than that, I'm pretty decent at a lot of things, like playing my flutes, making myself laugh with horrible jokes, random trivia and movie references, bursting out into random songs for no apparent reason, etc.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Movies: Last Samurai, A Few Good Men, Dead Poets Society, Tangled (ask me about the first time I saw it!), Good Night and Good Luck, Indiana Jones (Especially 3), LOTR (I bow at Peter Jackson's feet), most Shakespeare (Branagh's Hamlet was awesome), Book of Eli, probably more but I'm having trouble thinking of them

Shows: MASH, Firefly, Red vs. Blue, Star Trek TNG, Supernatural, Mork and Mindy, Highlander, Home Improvement, Stargate SG-1. I'm one of those guys who prefers to watch new shows with good company, so I'd be quite happy to binge your favorites with you.

Music: Pretty much anything that won't blow out my eardrums is good. Clean is important, too. Most of my collection is acoustic folk-rock type stuff, but I also like a lot of YouTube artists like Lindsey Stirling, a little bit of country, classic rock, and a whole bunch of "contemporary instrumental" composers.

Books: Thousands and tens of thousands! A few of my favorite authors include Tolkien, C.S. Lewis, Robert Jordan, Daniel Quinn, Patrick Rothfuss, Michael Crichton, Alan Dean Foster, Isaac Asimov, Larry Niven, G.A. Henty, and many more
The six things I could never do without
A good pocketknife
My cowboy boots (I may be a city boy, but I earned those boots with mud, manure, and miles)
My laptop, where my imagination is stored
My car, and all the useful stuff it has in it
A good book or two or fifty (yup, bibliophile!)
A friend to make jokes with/about/near :)
I spend a lot of time thinking about
I've been getting into personality tests a bit lately. According to the ever popular Meyers-Briggs, I'm an INTJ. Pottermore has placed me in both Gryffindor and Slytherin, but I feel much closer to Ravenclaw. The 5 Love Languages book gives my list of priorities for receiving as Quality Time and Physical Touch at the top, Words of Affirmation and Acts of Service as high-mediums, and Gifts as medium at best. Last but not least, the Strengths Finder gives my strengths as Restorative, Connectedness, Intellecton, Adaptability, and Harmony, if that means anything to you
On a typical Friday night I am
I tend to alternate between extrovert and introvert, for some reason. If it's been a hard workweek, I'll probably be at home with a favorite movie or show and comfort food, but I have a good group of friends that I'll spend time with whenever I can force an open spot in my weekend.
You should message me if
If you think playfulness and fun are very important.
If you love cuddling, holding hands, and leaning on each other's shouders
If you enjoy the idea of "affectionate mischief" and a relationship filled with inside jokes and shared smiles.
If you enjoy making some form of art, be it music, drawings, etc., and want to share it with someone special.
If you want to make a real, positive difference in the world.
If you like learning new things.
If you don't mind initiating contact? I guess that goes without saying :-)
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