43Oakland, United States
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My self-summary
I'm a Canadian, settled permanently in San Francisco.
What I’m doing with my life
Working, and doing some living of it in my off hours.
I’m really good at
Air hockey. I don't play it much, because it's never a challenge. Believe me; I'd prefer to have a different random, unearned talent.

Speed reading. It's been a source of conflict in relationships with slow-reading academics.

Meeting awesome people. Probably the most frequent compliment I get is on having excellent taste in close friends.
The first things people usually notice about me
Physically? I'm 6' and 160 lbs, so it's probably that I'm kind of slender.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Music: A-ha, The Animals, Bad Brains, The Beatles, The Beautiful South, David Bowie (Official), Billy Bragg, Buzzcocks, Nick Cave, The Chameleons, The Circle Jerks, The Clash, Leonard Cohen, Consolidated, Elvis Costello, The Cure, Dead Kennedys, The Decemberists, Depeche Mode, Ani DiFranco, Dire Straits, The Disposable Heroes of Hiphoprisy, The Dresden Dolls, Dropkick Murphys, Duran Duran, Echo and the Bunnymen, Faithless, Forgotten Rebels, Front 242, Front Line Assembly, Future Bible Heroes, Furnaceface, Woody Guthrie, Billie Holiday, Hope Blister, Howlin' Wolf, Inkubus Sukkubus, james, The Jesus and Mary Chain, Joan Jett, Joy Division, The Kinks, Love and Rockets, The Magnetic Fields, Maxim Reality, Me First and the Gimme Gimmes, Me Mom and Morgentaler, The Mission, The Monks, Peter Murphy, My Bloody Valentine, New Order, Klaus Nomi, The Nuns, The Pogues, Pop Will Eat Itself, Prince, Psychic TV, Public Image Ltd., Radiohead, Ramones, R.E.M., The Sex Pistols, Sham 69, Sigur Ros, Siouxsie and the Banshees, The Sisters of Mercy, Skunk Anansie, The Smiths, Spirit of the West, Stiff Little Fingers, Talking Heads, Tears for Fears, U2, The Velvet Underground, Violent Femmes, Tom Waits, The Waterboys, The Weakerthans
Six things I could never do without
Leaving aside the obvious (air, water, food, gravity...) and the horrifying (motor control, human contact, toilets...):

1. Intelligent conversation -- one might think that number 5 would cover this, but...
2. Sex and physical affection -- I'm suspicious of people who claim to be able to go without this
3. Music
4. Wine -- I probably drink more beer, but I'd be really sad to never have a nice wine again.
5. The internet -- do you remember what a pain it used to be to look things up?
6. My self-respect.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
History, politics, philosophy, feminism, polyamory, international relations, sex, relationships, language, travel, old friends.
On a typical Friday night I am
These days I might be out exploring my new neighborhood (I just moved to Oakland), or out with Miss_Teak. Otherwise I might be out playing pool, out at a concert, out at a bar hanging out with friends, or in hanging out with friends. Some Fridays can be movie nights, but I'm usually out.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I'm not really all that interested in privacy, but I'm not sure what to put here. Suggestions?
You should message me if
You have a suggestion for what private thing I should be willing to admit.

I'm totally interested in meeting new people and making friends. That said, I'm not super-interested in *dating* anyone who doesn't have a few years of successful open/poly- relationships under their belt.
The two of us