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My self-summary
Good day. My name is Jamie. After writing just those first two sentences involving my name and my greeting, I literally stared at the screen for two minutes (which is kind of a long time considering that I am an expert on the subject matter ((ya know, cuz I'm me)) This was necessary to say because I felt the need to justify my use of the word 'literally.' Like the person that says I hit hit him so hard I literally took his head off. No, you hit him so hard you took his head off. Figuratively:) puzzling over how to start this self summary. I couldn't figure out a normal way, so (obviously) I decided to break down the barrier with narration. It worked quite well, because now the words are flowing very well. And that is the point. Plus, I realized that none of this is permanent. As in, all these essay things can be in a perpetual state of revisement, which takes all the pressure off. Now, I know I'm supposed to be talking about myself, but didn't my narrative rant tell you as much about me through context than would some blatant statements about The Me. Well, of course it did. Right? Anyways, I've never been on these types of sites before, but I see absolutely no reason not to be as honest as humanly possible. I don't mean to say that that is exclusive to these sites, and shouldn't be applied to real life as well. The truth I mean. But, I've wasted a good many years trying to please others by being what I thought they wanted me to be. Hell, what I thought I wanted me to be I think, perhaps a lot of people have done that. Unknowingly sabotaging a relationship by, in the beginning, not being your true self. Then, when time passes and a level of comfort is reached, one's true self shines through. And we all know the end of that story. Yep. We love the person, but damn it all, we just don't LIKE the person anymore. So, yeah. I've learned to just be me no matter how inclined I might be to do the old "song and dance" and get their approval. Because, we humans sure do want it. On some level or another. We do have a twisted desire to get that approval. Acceptance.
I'll start again. I'm Jamie. I'm a laid back guy, I've got several really good friends that I treasure more than just about anything in the world. I am not good at sitting here listing my traits, but I don't guess anybody is super comfortable with it, so I'll just do it too. Ok, I'm pretty modest. Which feels pretty silly to say, because the humble man wouldn't really call himself humble. But I'm sure that in situations like this, there is some kind of an unspoken exemption. There's one! That ain't so hard. I've got this. Lets see, more about me...
What I’m doing with my life
My main goal in life is overall happiness. I believe that, above all the other goals in one's life... Short and long term goals, being happy wherever you are is what life is about. It's important to understand that happiness is not some destination we are trying to get to. If you look at life like that, you're gonna stress yourself out, life is gonna pass you by, and one day you'll achieve your short and long term goals and be pretty disappointed when you didn't just all of a sudden turn happy. Ya gotta remember to enjoy the ride. Relax! Laugh at as many things as you can, because there is a lot of funny shit out there. Blast! I think I'm getting off topic here. I go on rants frequently in case you haven't noticed. Anyways, moving on. I am an appliance repairman. I love my job. Which is a very special thing, and I do not take it for granted. I've had a good many jobs over the years, and this is the only job I've ever loved. Well, immediately after high school I joined the Marine Corps, and I loved that. But not in the same way. I loved the Marines because I love my country, I believed in what I was doing, and I was proud of what I accomplished while I was in. I didn't exactly love my life, though. Marines, typically, are dick heads that yell before they think,and that kind of lifestyle wasn't at all conducive to my way of thinking. Anger was an unavoidable byproduct of a primitive culture where stripes had more to do with decision making than logic and common sense. Here and now, however, is where I want to be. I'm not done growing and reaching for improvement professionally, but after all these years of back breaking grunt work for pennies, I'm happy and relieved to have found a profession in which I get to use my brain as opposed to my back. Merely not dreading going to work would have been enough. I never thought that this dog would have his day and get a job he actually looked forward to. And go figure... all those shit jobs I had over the years ended up playing an important role in my eventual happiness. Without them, I wouldn't have had the perspective necessary to fully appreciate a good career. Bam.
I’m really good at
I do alright. I'm loyal to those I love, and will stand up for them at all costs. Tooth and claw. I'm pretty funny, too.
The first things people usually notice about me
I'll tell you yours, you tell me mine.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I love to read, though how much I read varies from time to time. I like fiction normally. I love Stephen King first and foremost. The Dark Tower Series was genius. Chuck Pahlaniuk's body of work is great. And I'll even admit, I've read the twilight series. It was actually pretty damn good! I love rock music mainly. All types. When running or lifting I really like metal. Nothing is better than some good metal. August Burns Red, DevilDriver, Lamb of God, Unearth, just to name a few. And of course, Tool is by far the best band to happen. But, y'all already knew that. It just had to be said. On the lighter side, Radiohead touches me in that special place. I saw them the last two times they came to the area. This last one at the AAC, was one of the best concerts I've ever seen. It really was like watching humanity at its most beautiful up there playing sounds for me. Sigur Ross, Neutral Milk Hotel (the song In the Aeroplane Over the Sea is one of the most beautiful songs ever. Check it out right now. Please? Like me or no, but just go download it. It makes me happy to listen to it. :) And of course Modest Mouse.
Food, I'm not picky. I like all of it and will try most anything. I hate bologna. Fuck bologna.
The six things I could never do without
-My best friends
-My Sister and Mother (the sweetest two women in the world. No shit.)
-that feeling you get when you make people laugh.
-oxygen (get it?!)
-originality (get it!?)
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Everything, really. Sometimes I torment myself by delving into the past. Beat myself up over past fortunes squandered. Or treat myself to dreams of the future. Things I'd like to do, and the like. Or any other random ass thought that may pop up in there. Did the question just want one thing? If so... Hm. Ok. I spend a lot of time thinking about fight scenarios where I protect a friend from some ass hole who was way out of line. Everybody cheers. The crowd hoists me up. Carries me out of the grocery store (this particular scenario happened at a super market) on their shoulders. Well, that's kinda embarrassing to admit. Shoulda put that on my personal thing to admit. Drats.
On a typical Friday night I am
...either weary from the labors of the week and decide to relax at home, or am invigored by the prospect of the forthcoming weekend and cast out to squeeze every drop I can from the sweet sweet fruit of possibility.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I'm deeply saddened by the struggles of the migrating African Elephant. Sometimes the painful realities of life are just too hard to face.
You should message me if
Look, if you have a strict checklist of criteria by which your suitor must adhere, I'm not your guy. I am bigger than any one of my traits. I'm just me. I'm chill and laid back, and interested in the same. I'm all about sitting down, no pressure, just maybe grabbing a drink and a laugh, and meeting a friend.