The earliest memories I have of being a Dom were in kindergarten. I was always that little boy on the playground who managed to be The Doctor when we all played. In fact, I was the one who instigated it most of the time. And while I have had a few breaks from being a Dom over the years, mostly in an effort to find myself, I remain a strong, loving, sometimes playfully scary Dominant still. And while I still enjoy spending time discovering more about myself, at this point, I know who I am, I know what I want from life, and I know what I want with my partners.
I've lived most my life here in the bay area, although I've lived in London, San Diego and LA for short periods of time. In 2005 I finished my Masters in Business Administration, and I love riding my motorcycle. I taught my wife to ride a few years ago and she recently purchased a really great bike. Among my favorite fetishes are, etiquette books, strong and intelligent women, silver tea sets. I'm also really into staying healthy and plan to live to be 110 and in good health all the way. To accomplish that, I work out at the gym 3-5 days a week and really love it, and eat really well about 90% of the time. Occasionally though, I cut loose from the healthy food with some dark chocolate and scotch, pizza and other yummies.
I am a Daddy, Dominant, and big hearted
Just a note on my poly experience since people often ask. I've been poly all my life. I can recall memories from my earliest childhood, trying to fathom why if someone loved one person, that would prevent them from also loving another person at the same time. I also never understood why anyone would want to tell someone they love, that they can't also love someone else. It still doesn't make sense to me. All the relationships I've been in have been poly, except for my first one when I was 17. I've had some amazing successes, and learned many lessons along the way. I'd say I'm a seasoned polyamorist which reminds me of the saying that seasoning requires heat and time.
My wife and I, along with her boyfriend and his girlfriend, all bought a duplex together in Berkeley so I have that level of commitment to polyamory as a chosen way of life. It also speaks to how much space we make in our life for those we love.
Lastly, one of my biggest life callings is creating safe opportunities for people to discover who they are within the realm of Kink/BDSM, and all that fall under that umbrella. I do this by being a mentor, a coach, a play partner, and a Leather Daddy to those who have questions and are curious about exploring this part of themselves. I am also a community organizer and have been putting on public and private and public kink parties since the late 1990s.
For someone who is a Totally Hard Ass Dom (smile/joke), I am an equally great hugger and cuddler.
I also teach classes on D/s negotiation as well as organize leather play parties and events.
Stranger in a Strange Land
The Market Place
Harvard Business Review (Yea, I'm kind of an MBA pervert too...)
Any books on theoretical physics by Lawrence Krauss
Logan's Run, Omeaga Man, Soilent Green, Zardoz, Fight Club, 2001, THX1138, Alien, Just about any Sci-Fi from 1940 - 1979, The Day The Earth Stood Still (1951) and my vote for the best Sci-Fi movie ever, Blade Runner, Planet of the Apes (original)
Dr. Strangelove, Shaun of the Dead, Any Monty Python movie, This is Spinaltap, Trainspotting,, Lock Stock and Two Smoking Barrels, Duck Soup, 12 Monkeys, Wes Anderson films
Period movies like Elizabeth, Orlando.
Hotties that get my blood going
Citizen Kane, Lawrence of Arabia, Clockwork Orange, Rope, Sparticus and any of the Charleston Heston/gladiator films of the 1950s, Casablanca, Maltese Falcon, The Philadelphia Story or just about any Katherine Hepburn film
The Sound of Music, My Fair Lady, Singing In The Rain
Boogie Nights, Silence of the Lambs
The Daily Show, The Colbert Report, Science Channel, History Channel, South Park, Battlestar Galactica,
The Prisoner (Original Series), House of Cards, Top Gear
People I love, although that's not one thing.
Conversations that engage my intellect
- Going to a fun, sexy, private play party.
- Taking some down time at home after a long week.
- Hanging at home, watching a with chosen family
I'm also a big cuddly snuggler a lot of the time. But don't tell anyone! I don't want to give away my tough, Domly exterior! :) Also, never ask me about my stuffed animal collection! OK...go ahead. A Tough Ass Dom like me can take it ;)
And feel free to message me for no good reason at all. I love random meetings with people.
One last note, the OKC should offer fuzzy age ranges for someone the "I'm looking for" section. Don't take those ranges as limits in either direction. When it comes to age, what I'm looking for is someone who is old enough to consent to the nastiness I want to do to them, intelligent enough to get it, and young enough to play. I've had great experiences with people of all ages.
I also have a FL profile at Daddy_James.
If you don't know what FL is, feel free to ask.