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My self-summary

Other than memories (many amazing, what a life so far!), I don't often like talking this much about myself - but, that's what this part is for, right? :P Jatropheus is me everywhere, wherever you see the name, that should be me (except Germany, no clue who that is).

I'm bisexual/pansexual (but not stereotypically horn-doggish) & in a polyamorous (open, honest, but not to be mistaken for easy, sleazy or slutty - not that there's anything wrong with that, it's just not me) marriage. Sorry this part is such a downer, comes with the territory, once these things have been introduced. First, I will NOT cheat with or on anyone. Someone else and my Wife do not have to meet or talk or anything (can if you want confirmation from her that she knows), but I will not hide anything or lie to anyone.
"Bi-tolerant" guys: don't bother, we really aren't desperate, and the offer to allow me to pleasure you is not at all tempting.
We also have kids, and don't hide anything from them, but also don't expose them to people until trusted.

I'm a musician (Bass, Vocals & Writing), an artist, writer, poet, martial artist, realist, philosopher... and surprisingly silly and geekish in interests, all else considered.

I'm not as egotistical as all this, but how else to describe myself? I'm intelligent, creative, compassionate, passionate, self and real world educated, considerate, honest, honorable, friendly, attentive, open minded, helpful, sympathetic, empathetic, emphatic, talented, patient, funny (but looks aren't everything), protective, lithe, sensual, thoughtful, understanding, insatiable, good company, sharp, sweet, warm, casual, well mannered and cultured yet unrefined, down to earth and realistic. I've been described as "rugged", "masculinely pretty", "graceful," and, "the Devil," among other things.

Oh, and did I mention modest? (Actually am, would never tell you any of this in person, I'd show you as it comes up.)

I didn't go back through all of the questions here yet, but did go back to cigarettes... frankly, the world literally (NOT figuratively, I grumble and grouse...) stinks too much otherwise.

I'll usually talk to just about anyone who's reasonable. I find it's easiest to view social interactions as give what you get and then some.

I dispute some of the personality traits here... particularly "more aggressive" (well, have faced off with gangs when needed, but that was defensive or derailing problems, not aggression) and "less kind." Seriously, I do a lot for other people (without concern for compensation), and more often than not put others' feelings & needs first. Maybe it's those incompatibilities between loopholes in wording and the way I see things, or expected answers and my level of self-awareness, or zombie survival quizzes... I know that good people do good things for the basic selfish reason of how it makes them feel. Sometimes, I do, too, but, often just because it's the right thing to do and my feelings & self preservation instincts have no bearing on that.

Eclectic and about out of space... find out for yourself.
What I’m doing with my life
Raising kids, first and foremost. Then, as always, learning, growing, improving & working on passing that on to others. Been interspersing all that with helping people out whenever they need it, especially with working on houses.
I’m really good at

As egomaniacal as it will sound, pretty much everything I apply myself at, which is pretty much everything. Creative, intuitive, cognitive/logical, physical...

I stink at bowling, cooking mac & cheese (yet, I can write & bake cake recipes from scratch), & am clueless when it comes to flirting.

The first things people usually notice about me
My very long hair and the way I move & carry myself. That's probably promptly followed by how I treat people; being rather friendly, helpful and protective (not defensive, possessive or jealous, just likely to put myself between others and dangers of any degree) are big parts of my nature.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food

(Books) anything by Douglas Adams, Piers Anthony, Robert Hienlien, Michael Chrichton, older Clive Barker & Stephen King; "The Belgariad", "Dragonlance" & "Casca" books, "The Keep" (not the movie though), "The Dracula Tapes," "Yours Truly, Jack the Ripper," anything resembling "expertology." Most of my reading nowadays isn't books, but research.

(Movies) Prefer dark humor, esp. thought provoking, lots, including "Cannibal, the Musical," "Super Troopers," "Evolution," "Mars Attacks," "MIB," "Frailty," "Fight Club," "Dogma," "V for Vendetta," "Natural Born Killers," "Head," "Repo; the Genetic Opera," Monty Python's, Jackie Chan's, Marx Brothers', Guy Ritchie's, the Boondock Saints, Hellboys, "Zombieland," "Cabin in the Woods..." soooo many more...

(Shows) Blacklist, Orphan Black, Arrow, The Flash, Doctor Who (up to 12), Torchwood, Misfits, Alphas, Arrested Development, anything with Gordon Ramsey, Castle, Psyche, Breaking Bad, Sons of Anarchy, Dexter, Deadwood, Warehouse 13, Criminal Minds, Firefly, Farscape, Lexx, first five or so seasons of Bones and House (romantic drama and character changes killed both), Psychoville, The Addams Family (yes, still), Family Guy, American Dad, Robot Chicken...

(Music) Wide range, especially heavier stuff, but almost all powerfully emotional, heart-felt, soulful; Wierd Al Yankovic!, The Beatles, The Monkees, The Rolling Stones, Styx, Otep, Skindred, Linkin Park, Meatloaf, System of a Down, Simon & Garfunkle, Kansas, Stray Cats, Brian Setzer Orchestra, Huey Lewis, Jethro Tull, Journey, Evanescence, Paramore, Billie Holiday, Twisted Sister, Dokken, Slayer, Venom, old Metallica, older Iron Maiden, Metal Church, Overkill, Pantera, Stephen Lynch, John Denver, Black Sabbath, Arlo Guthrie, Led Zeppelin, Lucifer's Friend, Adema, Celldweller, Combichrist, Slipknot, Alice Cooper, Suicidal Tendencies, Harvey Danger, Green Day, Big Wig, The Ramones, punky, bouncy, good, friendly, violent fun kinda stuff, or intricate, or raw and real, or any combination thereof...

(Foods) I'm easy to get along with for foods... and cook a lot, particularly Italian & desserts.

Six things I could never do without
My family. Really, they're it. Anything else (not counting oxygen, water, and the like), I can live without or replace. I can make anything I need... Even tools, could start off caveman style with rocks and work my way up. If civilization collapses, I'll have electricity again soon after (have no bunker or anything, lol, I'd make means).

What items I might miss most (if somehow lost) is another matter...
My laptop is up there, and the Internet, movies, games, books and my tools.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
On a typical Friday night I am
Trying to sleep like a more normal person...
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
Admitting it publicly means, by definition, it's not private anymore. Talk to me and I'll admit just about anything (well, of course, anything true). While respecting propriety, my feeling is that shame is for those who have reason to be ashamed, and there's no reason for me to do anything that I could have a problem with. (Naturally, that's more about not caring, but also works in regards to my own moral code, which mostly deals with never victimizing anyone or allowing anyone else to if I could do anything about it.)
You should message me if
You feel like it.
The two of us