Jay_Black
32 Mission Viejo, United States
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My self-summary
[Profile Current Under Reconstruction. Pardon Our Dust]

I'm not on A-List, so if you 'Like' me, I can't see who you are! Please, just message me after you do, I'd love to get to know you more!

Alright, lets get the important thing out of the way first: Yes, I am in a consensual non-monogamous marriage. No, I'm not lying, yes you can even ask my wife and talk to her if you want. We do have some rules, such as we each have a say in each others alternate partners.

I looking for...well...honestly I don't know what I'm looking for. I'm looking for someone who can be equal parts awesome friend and lover. Someone who's totally cool with just coming over and watching movies, laughing and playing board games or card games with me, my wife and my kid. Someone whose hand I can hold, or who holds onto my arm, while my wife is holding onto her other partner or simply holding my other hand. A person who thinks its fun to sit on the couch in our undies (or less), playing videogames and talking smack. I want you to come fight zombies with me, then curl up around me in my tent at night.

I want someone who can be equal parts friend and lover, confidant and conspirator, Rocky and Bullwinkle, you know?
What I’m doing with my life
First and foremost I'm a stay-at-home dad, and that takes up the majority of my time. I cook, I clean, I take care of my girls. It's something I really enjoy.

I'm also a self-published author, distributing through Amazon, and a amateur game designer/writer.
I’m really good at
Oy, this is a tricky one...

I come up with a lot of fantastic, deep ideas and can talk about them for hours. I'm a great shoulder to cry/lean on, being turbo empathetic means I will always get where you're coming from. I design some pretty neat props and costumes for LARP and cosplay...

I'm sure there's more, I've just always been awful at talking myself up.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books: The Ender's Game series by Orson Scott Card, A Song of Ice and Fire by George RR Martin, Dune, almost anything by Michael Chriton, HP Lovecraft, World War Z

Shows: Battlestar Galactica (The newer one), Game of Thrones, Babylon 5, Ancient Aliens, Firefly, Defiance, Vikings

Music: 90's Metal (KoRn, Limp Bizkit, Manson, etc), Dubstep, EDM, Electronica, Classical, Gregorian/Buddhist Prayer Chants

Food: Suuuuuushi <3...but really I'll eat just about anything.
The six things I could never do without
In no particular order:

1) A notebook and pen - I need something to get my ideas out onto.
2) My E-Cig - I used to smoke a pack and a half a day for over 10 years, I changed over to vaping for my daughter.
3) A Good Game - Escapism is important, I happen to enjoy getting mine through gaming.
4) My Pug - Tesla is my best buddy.
5) Good Friends - Having a crew really makes things easier and makes life better.
6) My Wife & Daughter - The most important women in my life.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
* Viable plans for when the Zombie Apocalypse happens.
* How can I also become the God of Tits & Wine?
* WTF is Tesla whining about now?
* Where did I put that paintbrush?
* What character should I play next?
* How the hell did Timmy survive anything? Seriously, his parents were inattentive and awful. If it wasn't for freakin Lassie he'd be dead soooo many times over.
* Conspiracy Theories and being comforted by the fact that there are crazier people than me in this world.
On a typical Friday night I am
* Hosting a get together at my place with good friends, food, games and silliness.
* Netflix & Chilling (Legit chilling, not that other version, though that does happen too)
* Rolling Dice, Killing Monsters, Takin their stuff.
* Running from Zombies
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I struggle with PTSD. I'm clinically diagnosed and been working through it for over 16 years.
I have Low Testosterone and take meds for it.
I have a Fetlife profile.
You should message me if
I sound interesting? You think we'd get along and want to sling Magic cards or throw down on Killer Instinct. You're looking for someone who can be both an intimate connection as well as a good friend. You want to rapidly expand your social circle. You're wondering why I run away from zombies on Friday nights specifically. You want good conversation, or just need a friendly distraction.
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