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My self-summary
Old school. If I make a mess, I clean it up, figuratively and literally.

Working-class NY wry bred. Mensch with Brooklyn street-smarts. Prefer genuine over "cool." Know how to build a fire. Gently irreverent & skeptical by nature and training, but have no use for cynicism. I DO sometimes smile, but I could never do it on demand for a photo. Have always been allergic to narcissism in all its forms.

It may not be fashionable, but I haven't lived to this ripe age without having formed one or two opinions. That doesn't make me judgmental, it simply means I haven't gone through life with my head in the sand.

Don't know what you might make of this: It's not that I don't have an appreciation for the finer things that life offers, but I'm more about the inner self than about lifestyle. My happiness & contentment come from within, not from without.

Loving father, uncle, great uncle, brother, & cousin. Loyal & constant friend & colleague.

No tats, ponytail, or earring -- no artificial sweeteners.
Housebroken. Available with optional pulse.
What I’m doing with my life
Working on my unauthorized autobiography.
Taking the stairs.
Showing up.
Being the last one on my block.
Donating blood.
Retracing my steps.
Biting my tongue
Zagging instead of zigging.
Lowering my expectations.
Reacquainting myself with the emoluments clause....
Extreme vetting.
Wondering what else is so complicated?
Asking for a show of hands.
I’m really good at
Naming all those damned tunes.
Holding contradictory ideas in my mind at the same time.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
It don't mean a thing if it don't got that swing....

Too few to mention....OK, a very partial sample of my musical preferences, in no particular order, except for Ludvig and Duke.

Beethoven! Ellington! Patsy Cline, Dave Frishberg, Jobim, William Bolcom, Basie, James Taylor, Satchmo, Bix & Bing, Merle Haggard, Moody Blues, Bird, Prez, Barber, Nat Cole, Van Morrison, Billie, Ella, Ben Webster, Clapton, Schubert, Ray Charles, Satie, Debussy, Blossom Dearie, Peggy Lee, Elgar, Nancy Lamott, Mahler, Chopin, Sibelius, Bulgarian Woman's Chorus, Papa Bach, Puccini, Shostakovich, Kelly MacCay, Bartok. Art Tatum, Bill Evans, & Bill Charlap. Fats Waller, Stephen Foster & Stephen Sondheim, Bobby Darin, Keely Smith, Django & Grappelli, Bernstein, Gottschalk. Brahms. American Songbook Royalty. Anthony Benedetto -- with and long before Gaga. Film scores.

Beyond music: Regular visitor to the Met & other museums: (LOVED the George Bellows exhibition a few years ago -- went 5 times!) Whiskey in winter, vodka in the summer. Wine with food. Architecture. NPR since Marconi. Mountains & forests, oceans & sand. Coffee. Baseball. Wilder, William Wyler, Sturges, Lubitsch, Fellini, Ford, Bergman, Bunuel, & Jacques Tati. Film noir & B-films. Wordsworth, Shakespeare, Dorothy Parker, Flannery O'Connor, Baudelaire, Melville. Leviathan. Fred & Ginger. Nick & Nora. W.C & Groucho. Musky Cabernets & Zinfandels. Oscar Levant & Robert Benchley. (Two-stroke) Saabs & stick-shifts. Autumn in New York! The Big Bang in reruns.

I no sooner finish one book than I start another. This way, I can usually get through my two-book-a-year quota.

Six things I could never do without
A good nail clipper. Seriously.
A cache of bookmarks. Seriously.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
What's in it for me?
Am I getting enough fiber?
Which way is up?
How much is too much?
Should I employ delusion as a life strategy?
Why is Victoria keeping so many secrets?

On a more somber note, the loss of the national treasure that was Gwen Ifill. Just when we needed her most, as each passing day only underscores more.
On a typical Friday night I am
I removed Fridays from my calendar. Since then, it's "TGIT!" and weekends begin a day sooner.
You should message me if
You're a Jewish Wench seeking a masculine Mensch; a scarlet woman seeking a libertine man -- a man with a dry & mischievous sense of humor. And you'd like appropriate male company at the ballet, or a romantic weekend at a B&B. And you enjoy kissing. For starters.

But please be from the NY Metro area. Or Paris. Trumpeteers are excused.

If I looked at your profile but didn't contact you, it doesn't mean I am not interested. In fact, I don't initiate contact anymore. Why? Very simply because even personal, thoughtful & polite messages to age-appropriate women almost never garner replies. Would YOU keep trying under those circumstances? I doubt it.

If you DO write me, like most men, I will reply. If you cannot bring yourself to initiate contact, either you're not the right woman for me, and/or you wouldn't have responded to my message had I written you first anyway.

Bonus survey: Please complete this sentence -- even if it's all you write.

"Real men don't ___________."
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