36Syracuse, United States
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My self-summary
I've met a wonderful lady who I am now happily married to (OKCupid success story!) and I am not in the market for romance. I am, however, absolutely still open to meeting cool new friends (male or female) and good conversation.

I am a quiet, laid-back, slightly introverted kind of fellow. I try to remain grounded and keep focus on the truly important things in life. I prefer the understated to the extravagant and appreciate simplicity and practicality.

I am not religious, but place great value on personal honor and integrity. Being a good person is very important to me. It truly bothers me when I occasionally fail at that.

I'm a fairly intellectual and progressive person, however, I hate how snooty that it makes me sound when I say that. I respect the capability for independent thought in people. I have little tolerance for poor spelling and grammar and none for intolerance and ignorance, especially the willful variety. I believe that the willingness (and love of) learning new things and bettering one's self is one of the most important things in life.

I enjoy going to festivals, seeing shows, hanging out at a quiet pub with good people, eating out and trying something new and exciting, playing volleyball and lots of other things. I am a big advocate of buying local and supporting local businesses. I enjoy going to get tea and coffee; I've recently made it a habit of reading for pleasure again and I thoroughly enjoy camping out in a cafe with a book and beverage. I'm also a big fan of local theater/musicals.

I love stories, regardless of the format they're in; books, movies, television, video games, graphic novels... I live for a good story. I'm a little bit of a geek, as my MBTI personality type is INTJ. I am much wittier than I am good-looking, so I definitely thrive in quiet environments where I can make conversation, tell stories and generally attempt to be charming and funny.

Friendship is one of the most precious things to me in life. I am logical, rational and I have a deep appreciation for the slightly quirky and eclectic.
What I’m doing with my life
Working, playing, having good times with good friends. Always learning and trying to better myself, both personally and professionally.

Some of my future goals include:
Buy a house: I've officially outgrown my apartment and the older I get, the more I feel like I'm living in a dorm. Update: I bought a house! It is cold and creaky, but it is mine and I love it.
Develop some more artistic/crafty skills: Carpentry and woodworking, mainly. It's been a lifelong desire to learn to make things out of wood. Now that I have room for my own shop, my only excuse is laziness.
Start practicing Yoga: Seems easy enough.
Start growing things: It's time to start a garden. We don't have a ton of yard space, but enough for one or two raised beds.

I just finished up the Expanse series by James S. A. Corey (what was currently printed at the time) and am now delving into some urban planning books that I've been meaning to read. Up first is The Death and Life of Great American Cities by Jane Jacobs.
I’m really good at
Thinking. And spelling. Being (overly?) analytical. Also cooking, maybe. Volleyball, if you're being generous with the word "good". I'm also a semi-capable singer.

Oh, napping. I'm a truly gifted napper.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books: Neil Gaiman, J. R. R. Tolkien, and George R. R. Martin are my favorite authors, but I've been a lifelong bookworm and I'm a fan of many. My favorite genre is Fantasy with a smattering of Sci-Fi. Historical Fiction is fun too. In non-fiction, I like reading about urbanism, city design, and transportation planning. I also enjoy a few graphic novels such as Sandman, Fables, and Hellboy. If I had to pick one single book as a favorite, it would be The Once and Future King.

Movies: I don't watch a whole lot of films nowadays. The older I get, the more I'm drawn to small artistic films as opposed to Hollywood blockbusters. The last movie I've seen (as of writing this) was The Swell Season documentary. If I had to list my all-time favorites, I would go with: V For Vendetta, the Lord of the Rings trilogy, Stardust, The Princess Bride, Hellboy, Point Break, Once, The Big Lebowski, Serenity, Vicky Cristina Barcelona... and so forth. There are a lot of classic films from Hollywood's golden age that I'm interested in watching, at some point.

TV: My TV is usually on as background noise, if nothing else. I tend to tune to either PBS. But as for my actual favorites: Rick Steves, Jacques Pépin, any sort of carpentry/woodworking show, Game of Thrones, The Shield, Breaking Bad, The Wire, Community, Mad Men, Firefly, Futurama, Freaks and Geeks, Terriers, Good Eats, Outlander, The Knick, Fargo (the show), Black Mirror, Downton Abbey, Doctor Who, Venture Bros.

Music: I'm mostly an NPR kind of guy these days, but I listen to quite a bit of music at work and, occasionally, at home. Folk, bluegrass, Americana, blues, 60s/70s rock, vocal jazz & lounge, classical/orchestral, occasionally a little ambient music.. I really like simple instrumental music, too: violin, piano, flute, cello. I love almost anything with great vocal harmonies.

From my Pandora stations, I tend to enjoy: Alice in Chains, Alison Krauss, Amon Tobin, Beats Antique, Bing Crosby, The Black Keys, The Black Lillies, Blind Melon, The Budos Band, Caravan of Thieves, Crooked Still, Dean Martin, The Decemberists, Gillian Welch, Gov't Mule, Heart, The Heavy, The Ink Spots, JJ Grey & Mofro, Larkin Poe, Mumford & Sons, Natalie Merchant, The National, Nick Drake, Nickel Creek, Norah Jones, Perry Como, Pete Seeger, Rubbelbucket, The Steeldrivers, The Wailin' Jenny, Willie Nelson.. and many more, obviously. But, honestly, my favorite music is music that I haven't heard before.

Games: I don't have a whole lot of time for video games anymore, but I do like franchises like Dragon Age, Fallout, old Final Fantasy, and the Sims. Retro games are really cool too. As for board games, I like party games that can incorporate lots of friends. I like Carcassonne, Settlers of Catan, Quelf, a plethora of others, as well as good old-fashioned Chess. But I really love tabletop RPGs (like D&D and Pathfinder), since I never got to play them as a kid. (Thanks, Mom!)

Food: Everything. There are no cuisines and very few foods I don't care for. I'm a moderately adventurous eater, I love bold spices, and I love being in the kitchen. I just love good food. I occasionally enjoy eating out and supporting local restaurants and business, I avoid horrible chain restaurants as much as I can. I am always interested in learning new recipes. I truly enjoy cooking a healthy and tasty meal. Baking, however, can go right to hell.
Six things I could never do without
Great friends
Engaging stories
A good sharp chef's knife
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Everything. I'm an INTJ, thinking is what I do.
On a typical Friday night I am
Not fighting for service at a loud and crowded bar, that's for damn sure.

What I'd LIKE to be doing is going straight from work to happy hour at a relatively relaxed place, perhaps sitting outside if the weather is nice, hanging out for a few hours with good friends, getting some food and then... a movie? A play? A game? Or maybe heading home because I'm off to some sort of festival Saturday morning. That sounds nice.

Going out to dinner, grabbing tea or coffee with a close friend, going to a buddy's house to shoot each other on his TV or play a board game, all of these sound like a perfect Friday night to me. Or coming home and spending a Friday evening snuggling with my lovely wife and our cats. It all sounds great!
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
At some point in my life, I made the decision that secrets were not something I wanted to have a part of. Certainly, there are things that I choose not to discuss in polite company, but I choose to be open and honest. It paves the way for a clear mind.
You should message me if
I feel like I should take this opportunity to highlight what I'm truly looking for in someone:

Someone who shares my appreciation for the small and subtle things in life. Someone with an appreciation for art and quality living. I really don't think I'll be able to relate to the type of person who lives for clubbing and watching reality TV. I need someone who is focused on living a good and meaningful life.

Someone who shares my love of adventure and exploration. Whether that is a desire to fly off to another continent, going on a road trip, or even just walking or driving around Syracuse and taking in the sights, this is something that is near to my heart.

Someone who is committed to a relatively clean and healthy lifestyle. I used to be very opposed to dating vegetarians (as I am omnivore), but now it is something I prefer. I have a lot I would like to learn from someone in this area. Major bonus points for being into yoga, meditation, martial arts or that sort of thing.

Someone who is understanding, caring, opening-minded, non-judgmental, honest, dedicated... these are qualities that should be a given, but are unfortunately rarer than I like to think about.

At the end of the day, I suppose what I'm most looking for is just a good person. Someone who shares some of my interests and passions, but diverse enough to learn and explore with me. Life is an adventure!
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