I live in SF, and an often in LA and NYC.
I'm someone who recognizes the value of relationships and believes they are about giving rather than taking. My previous boyfriend called me "one of the most generous, caring people" he's known, and I'm very proud of that.
Personal growth is important to me, and it's important to me that my partner is comfortable with change, extremely positive, and supportive of goals. I tend to prefer people who equate optimism with realism rather than negativity with realism. As the saying goes, you're right either way. I grew up in sports, so I need someone who understands being a teammate.
I have a serious goofy side and sense of humor. I love to sing at the top of my lungs, enjoy things that others consider bad, and laugh at dumb jokes (often my own). While I'm into the new age personal improvement stuff, I also live by tried-and-true proverbs such as "man with hand in pocket feel cocky all day."
Sexual as well as emotional growth in a relationship is important to me. I'd like my bond with my partner to be equal parts heart and brain. Ideally, passion and dedication are intertwined.
That said, I'm beginning to understand that character is the most important of all traits in a partner. And, within character, I look for honesty. It's the foundation.
I read some blogs like Techcrunch and Towleroad.
Loved the movie "Beginners," and the quoted part in it from the Velveteen Rabbit:
"The stuffed rabbit asked, 'What is real? Does it hurt?' And the horse said, 'Sometimes.' 'Does it happen all at once?' 'It takes a long time. Generally, by the the time you are real, most of your hair has been loved off, your eyes dropped out, and you get loose in the joints. But these things don't matter because you are real. You can't be ugly except to people who don't understand.'"
I've read so many good books - I don't read a lot anymore but enjoy them when I do. More of a non-fiction than a fiction guy, though now the Joy Luck Club comes to mind, perhaps b/c of the my move West. If you haven't read the one-page prologue: http://bit.ly/Kafc7k .
That love is all there is,
Is all we know of love.
- Long, hot showers (solo - I just like to relax)
- Laughter and tears
- Learning about who I'm with and hearing what he has to say
- Crack cocaine
Work until 6pm, gym until 7:30, meet up with friends by 9.
I also love just relaxing / kicking back after a long day / kicking my feet up.
And: I broke some hearts, then mine was broken.