49 Asheville, United States
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My self-summary
The crappy relationship status only gives me three choices. I am polyamorous, separated pending a divorce and am involved in an awesome open relationship with an amazing person. The three main facets of my life are remodeling, Judaism, and the fetish lifestyle. I LOVE scaring the hell out of pansy-ass vanillas when I play in public. I consider any performance where the audience needs aftercare a success. "Hey, what's he gonna do with that mousetrap...Oh God!" *giggle*

A lot of people on this site ask for honesty. I believe what they really want is someone forthcoming about themselves while they get to retain the luxury of keeping their own flaws private. I am honest. Prove it? How's this? I have a felony conviction for a sex crime from 20 years ago. If that chases you away, good. I'm probably too risky for you and I don't like people that will throw me out without knowing me and my story.

I'm a social activist. I focus on feeding and housing the homeless. Women's issues like rape, consent violation, abuse, gender-based discrimination and others are also deep concerns of mine. I am currently busy assisting an older friend of mine with his daily living due to his failing health.

I'm a heteroflexible, cis-gendered male of primarily Asian descent and am radically inclusive, though not pansexual.

I'm a card-carrying member of Mensa, I would be in good standing if I felt like wasting the money to bring my dues current.

I have a step-daughter who is grown and gone. She has two children of her own now. So no kids around the house. The details table to the right is really lacking.
What I’m doing with my life
My life is under renovation, specifically, divorce, reinventing my business, discovering a new lifestyle and a new community. There's a lot on my plate, so I'm looking for new friends and friendships to grow. A few of my friendships have turned romantic, so, who knows?
I’m really good at
Strategy games like Chess and Go are my favorites. I'm also good at my occupation, renovation/remodeling. Another surprising discovery is that I am a pain slut. I can take a beating like no other. I am also good at math and problem-solving.
The first things people usually notice about me
People usually notice my smile and friendly disposition. Some of my female friends tell me that my butt is pleasing to see. I'm taking their word on that. My hair is also something people notice quickly.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
My favorite books are The Bible, The Silmarillion, The Lord of the Rings, The Hobbit, The Encyclopedia of Knots and Decorative Rope Work, The Dictionary of Signs and Symbols, math and science textbooks, Piers Anthony, Hitchhiker's Guide to the Galaxy, Tao Te Ching, Qu'ran, Bhagavad Gita, and would love to get my hands on a copy of the Mahabharata.

My favorite movies are The City of Lost Children, Meet Joe Black, Star Wars, Star Trek, Pirates of the Carribean, Alien and Predator movies, kung fu movies including Kung Fu Panda.

My favorite music genres are Goth/Industrial/EBM and pop/dance/house. Assemblage 23 and Switchblade Symphony are two of my favorite bands.

If I must watch TV, then The Big Bang Theory is best.

My favorite foods are French and Japanese cuisine.
The six things I could never do without
God, Family, Friends, Congregation, My social networks, Freedom
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Introspection, not just thinking OF myself, I think about how to grow and to cultivate my character, building honesty, thoughtfulness, generosity, and checking my ego occasionally. I spend a lot of time thinking about my friends and their needs as well as social issues and concerns.
On a typical Friday night I am
Home lighting Shabbat candles, saying blessings, and hopefully, having a nice meal with pleasant company welcoming the sabbath.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
My felony conviction. In order to truly understand me, you have to know how my conviction has shaped my life. Without that, you only get half the story and no real appreciation of who I am and how far I've had to come.
You should message me if
You are interested in hearing my story or you have any kinks at all and want to play. Sex only if it's negotiated beforehand. If you are as honest and forthcoming as I am. You love any or all of the following: cuddles, snuggles, wine, chocolate, gentle hair pulling, rope, chain, padlocks, paddles, mousetraps, rubber bands, collars and leashes, and you can follow simple instructions. By the way, all of the above can be either giving or receiving.
Alternatively, message me if you want simple friendship and polite conversation.