63 San Francisco, United States
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My self-summary
I'm a kind, open-hearted, loving and creative person. I enjoy life and believe every moment is precious - to be lived fiercely! My spiritual belief includes the idea that life has meaning and is worth living. Personal growth, being present in the moment, and looking toward the future are of major importance to me.

Mentally and physically, I am healthier than I have ever been. At 63, I am continuing to grow and evolve. Life is getting better as I'm getting older. I am in a beautiful, open relationship and my partner is available to give you a glowing reference for me. I am open to exploring with you to find a relationship model that fits for us both, and to finding exactly what feels right for us in the moment. If we truly are meant to be, there will be no obstacle we can't overcome, as long as we are using direct, gentle and loving communication!
What I’m doing with my life
I am a published author. My focus is gonzo journalism, inspired by writers like Studs Terkel, Tom Wolfe, Hunter S. Thompson and Legs McNeil. My first book was published by San Francisco's own RE/Search Publications. My second book is an oral history of the life and times of an influential Pagan and polyamorous couple who have been together for more than 40 years. It was published in 2014 by Llewellyn.

To pay the bills I am a server and server trainer in a restaurant in SOMA. I find that work rewarding as I enjoy people and making them feel cared for.

I'm also taking acting classes and diving into the world of digital storytelling. I love the theatre - from the classics by Shakespeare, Chekhov and Shaw, to contemporary plays by Sarah Ruhl, Sam Shepard and Tom Stoppard, to musicals like HAIR, Wicked and Godspell. I'm looking forward to seeing SF Shake's production of "The Winter's Tale" later this summer.

I'm involved with the local Victorian ballroom dance community and enjoy going to the Edwardian Ball, and similar events. I enjoy alignment-based yoga classes, going to museums, bookstores and restaurants - I'm basically an urban kind of guy. I dig buildings, human beings, and having access to a wide variety of cultural activities and resources. My favorite vacation spots are NYC, London, Bangkok and now India. I spent a month in India earlier this year and really fell in love with the place. I travelled through the southern states of Tamil Nadu and Kerala. I am already planning to return next year, and probably many more times after that.
I’m really good at
... talking to people. I enjoy having in-depth conversations, and that is something I generally look for in any kind of a relationship.
The first things people usually notice about me
I have great passion for life, and I think it's usually very noticeable in many different ways.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
One of my favorite books is the novel "High Fidelity" by Nick Hornby. The main character in it keeps making lists of his favorite records until he has the insight that "it's not what you like but what you are like that's important." And that's true! Love is not necessarily connected to shared interests in books, movies shows or music. But discussing those things are a way to get to know each other, and a lot of fun, so with that in mind:

Books: Jane, the Brontes, Gaskell and other 19th century authors. Contemporary faves include Vonnegut, Irving, and Tracy Chevalier. Years ago I used to read fantasy and science fiction and was a regular at fan conventions. I love reading the NY Times and other newspapers from around the globe online.

Movies etc: I've studied film production and history and I've watched many classic films and TV shows - if you want a list let me know! I am currently watching "Game of Thrones" but only because I have someone to watch it with. I generally do not spend much time in front of the TV these days. (Actually, I don't own a TV. We watch it on a laptop computer.) If you were interested in spending time with me exploring pop culture I'm sure there are things that we could watch together.

Live performances in general are the most meaningful form of entertainment for me. As previously mentioned I like plays and musicals. I also enjoy going to concerts, museums, the ballet, modern dance, the opera, etc. I am looking forward to going to the Ethnic Dance Festival this month.

Music: As a baby boomer I listened to and saw many of the classic rock bands of the 60s, and after that got into jazz, folk, and punk, and went to a lot of show in clubs. When I moved to San Francisco I discovered the local Baroque music scene, and still enjoy that on occasion. I am currently listening to a lot of Indian music, inspired my concerts I went to when I was there. I am beginning to explore all the music that is now available through streaming on the internet that I have never heard before. If you have something that you'd like to tell me about I'd be very happy to listen.

Food: I buy fresh fruits and vegetables regularly at the local farmer's markets. When I go to a restaurant I like different ethnic cuisines or one of the Bay Area's many fine vegetarian restaurants. I don't identify as a vegetarian or a vegan but I have been eating a mostly vegetarian diet for many years and will likely continue to do so.
The six things I could never do without
I spend a lot of time thinking about
how to make every moment count.
On a typical Friday night I am
...going to a play. Most theatre companies in San Francisco are only able to perform plays on weekends, so if I'm not working on a Friday night I'll likely be in the audience for one of those.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I'm 63 years old and I'll admit it! I'm glad to be who I am and the age that I am. I know it says my age right here in my profile under my picture, but in public it's usually not discussed much. I'm happy to discuss it, and to have had the experiences that I've had and to have learned what I have. I feel better about myself, and about life, than I ever have, and I hope that will continue. In a yoga class that I recently took the teacher told us that "you are sitting in the middle of a sea of infinite possibilities." I agree. I didn't feel that way when I was younger. I am grateful to have gotten to this point in my life.
You should message me if
... you'd like to make a new friend and if you've got a sense of humor about all this.