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My self-summary
you don't have to be rich / to be my girl
don't have to be cool / to rule my world
which is not to imply—by any means—wealth or coolness would disqualify you from my affections, merely that such attributes are as immaterial to our compatibility as, say, the relative position of constellations during the hour one's birth. Indeed, I am far more influenced by your capacity for spending time developing a romantic rapport together, and your
[funky guitar lick]

What I’m doing with my life
I'm the founder and head chocolatier of a gourmet chocolate co-operative. Just typing the above sentence triggers my instinctual eye-roll, but I've had the full New York smörgåsbord of jobs in the last 9 years and I've never been more psyched about anything I've done for money. In the long term, I'm less interested in chocolate itself than I am in transformative economics and building the systems that can replace capitalism, but this seems a good place to start. Also our chocolates are *really* good.

(Also I play music and do activism for towards the goals of feminism, queer liberation, the abolition of prisons, and other justice-y things)
I’m really good at
cooking, listening, bad puns, cuddling, harmonizing, explaining why things are racist/sexist/otherwise shitty in relatable ways people can understand and internalize, grammar, laughing, bursting into song at the slightest provocation.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books: The Master and Margarita, Lord of the Rings, James Baldwin, Dune, Batman, Kurt Vonnegut, Ursula K. LeGuin, Alan Moore, Isabel Allende, David Mitchell, bell hooks, Oscar Wilde, and Bill Bryson

Movies: Star Trek and/or Wars, Muppets, The Big Lebowski, My Neighbor Totoro, David Atttenborough documentaries

Shows: Steven Universe

Music: Literally everything. As a horn player, I'll always have a burning love for ska. I think Kendrick Lamar is incredible and should've won the grammy, even though 1989 was a fantastic record. Sam Cooke is the only person whose voice I'd rather have than mine (him and the first Hank Williams are the only two people who can get me to *kind of* feel religion when they sing about Jesus). If I could pick only one band from the classic rock era, it'd be Queen. But really I love playing and singing together with people as a social activity most of all.

Food: All the noodles. Also curry, spinach, avocados, lasagna, Mexican food carts in Queens, garlic, mangoes, mapo tofu, and the entire brassica genus

Street food and comfort food of any culture I can think of. Dishes that have stories associated with them. Culinary puns.

I've worked as a cook or chef at places ranging from from a vegan hippie commune to a barbecue smokehouse, and love sharing and learning culinary techniques/history/theory/legends.

Six things I could never do without
Other people, uncertainty, books, garlic, some kind of musical instrument.

OK, that's five; I'm low-maintenance.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
The etymological origins of words and clichés.

How can I be romantic without relying on the fucked-up machinery of consumerism and patriarchy?

If Catholics have communion wafers that transubstantiate into the body of Christ when they're eaten, is it still Jesus when they crap it out?

How everything functions within the global cultural-economic system and how it contributes to perpetuating oppression and destroying the planet. (Also whether I need to adjust my tinfoil hat)

Is it possible to be hetero and queer? Would it be disingenuous to identify as such?

Am I still a punk? Or a hippie? Or some kind of strange mutant hybrid?

If I was somehow transported back in time, what miracles of modern science could I produce in order to prevent myself from immediately being jailed or killed for looking funny?

On a typical Friday night I am
Making music.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
My teens and twenties were full of awesome shit, but dating, romancing, and sexing got put on the back burner, so I'm kind of new at this whole thing. I'm excited to explore and learn, but I'm in a different place than someone my age who's had a more normative life trajectory.
You should message me if
You're willing to reject the notion that men are supposed to send the first message, because fuck the patriarchy.
The two of us