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My self-summary
I'm newly living in Gangnam, Seoul since September 2016, working at a major company here. That's following up six months of travel in Southeast Asia. Yes, I'm looking for romance, but I'm also looking for friends here in my new city.

All of this comes at the end of 22 years of living in New York City, finishing a master's degree in Asian studies, in which I wrote my thesis about Westerners who've become Korean shamans, and a long stint as a corporate person at Google, where I did nothing all that exciting. But hey, Google.

I want to meet and connect on the way. I believe in intimacy, open hearts, exploration, juiciness. I want to form genuine, deep connections, though I know they might be fleeting. That feeling of being vulnerable and open and totally in love? Yeah, that.

Backstory: I grew up in Northern California, the child of hippies who became Orthodox Jews. I came to New York for college, and I stayed. After college, I went to India and Nepal for four months, and a few years later I taught English for a year in Korea, then went back to India and Nepal for six months. I'm excited to get out into the wider world again.
What I’m doing with my life
Adjusting to my new life in Seoul, Korea. I'm also passionate about North Korean human rights, and I work with Liberty in North Korea on the issue.
I’m really good at
Writing, editing, grammar. Knowing obscure facts. Synthesizing ideas. Thinking up new ones. Making you laugh.
The first things people usually notice about me
That I know something about whatever country they're from. That I'm a white guy speaking Korean.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books: Infinite Jest by David Foster Wallace, The Heart of the Buddha's Teaching by Thich Nhat Hanh, anything by Oliver Sacks or Peter Hopkirk. And now that I'm out of grad school and have some time, I can go back to reading The New Yorker and The New York Review of Books again.

Movies: Not really that big a movie buff, but I could watch The Big Lebowski over and over. I like movies that stand out as different and unique: The Party, This Is Spinal Tap, Being John Malkovich, anything by Bong Joon-ho.

Music: I love Beck, Radiohead, Talking Heads, Indian classical music, Air, Korean traditional music, Led Zeppelin, James Brown, Nusrat Fateh Ali Khan. I'm sort of all over the map.

Food: I'll try most things and have widely varied taste (as I do in so many areas of my life).
Six things I could never do without
Friends, something to read, the dream of the perfect burrito, good shoes, art, music.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Politics. Korea and Korean shamanism. International affairs. History. BDSM. Spirituality. Art. Music. Southeast Asia. Buddhism and its history.
On a typical Friday night I am
I don't think I'm going to have many typical Friday nights for a long time. But I like to be with people, socializing, enjoying life, exploring new places. So I'll probably be doing that.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I don't drink or do drugs, and haven't for over nine years.
You should message me if
You're awesome. You think I might be awesome. You'd like to meet up wherever I am and you are.
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