55Lafayette, United States
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My self-summary
I am an openhearted, energetic, and intellectually stimulating man - humble too. I also have an irrepressible sense of humor. Throughout my life, I have always found a few close friends and lovers with whom I have cultivated deep connections, and those relationships have enriched my life.

I relate well to women and am open to different kinds of relationships. The best is a polyamorous relationship in which intimacy is enhanced by trust and integrity. I also have female buddies, 'just friends', but good friends with whom we can be ourselves without having to wear masks. Yes, I also have male friends, mostly fellow musicians.

I play saxophone, clarinet, and percussion, mostly in kirtan/bhajan gatherings and also such genres as Gypsy, Cajun, and Middle Eastern maqam music. I maintain a daily hatha yoga practice, and I love to dance, so I have become an aficionado of ecstatic dance and Zumba, but even better is to cut loose on the dancefloor to live Funk, 80s or 90s music.

I have spent a significant part of my life residing in other countries. In my twenties, I lived with a Sufi teacher in Syria and published a series of ten books of his teachings. More recently, I have edited books for Mooji (Vaster than Sky, Greater than Space) and the Brazilian teacher Prem Baba (From Suffering to Joy: The Path of the Heart), and written a memoir about my sojourn in the Middle East. Recently I have been more drawn to the idea that if one were to create real functional community, that community would be the guru.

I have been practicing Taoist chakra energy channeling for many years.

I have been married for twenty years to a gorgeous blond goddess with a heart of gold, and we have an incredible 16-year-old son. About ten years ago, we decided to let our marriage metamorphize from a caterpillar into a butterfly by opening our horizons to new erotic and emotional experiences with people who understand that we are dedicated to each other but open to new love in our lives. By and large, it has been a very positive experience, as we are emotionally open and mature people and not inclined towards drama, but rather open communication and empathy. We have been attending New Culture camps, which are retreats based on a totally new paradigm of relating pioneered by the ZEGG and Tamera communities in Europe.
So, if you are even curious, don't let my being married stop you. If you like me, you'll like her, and if you like her, she'll like you.
What I’m doing with my life
Since returning from living abroad five years ago, we have been living here in Lafayette (near Boulder) and glad to be here, but I usually go to Oaxaca, Mexico in January and February to continue my musical pursuits and have a writing retreat. Recently, after visiting the intentional community Tamera in Portugal, I have been getting involved in Network for a New Culture based on creating a sustainable, loving way of life, based on trust and honesty. We attend the camps on the West Coast and look forward to bringing more activities to Colorado.
I’m really good at
Being a connected and responsive lover.
Being a good friend and a sympathetic listener
Being a loving dad
Translation and interpretation
accompanying guitarist/singers with my instruments in a harmonious way
vegetarian cooking (curry, anyone?)
Making chai
perceiving what my companion is feeling
The first things people usually notice about me
I'm a tall memorable Jewish guy with a big name!
Eye contact and (usually) a big smile.
Great shape
Hearty laugh
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Mooji, Eckhart Tolle, Ram Das, Paramahamsa Yogananda, Osho.

Stranger in a Strange Land
Isabel Allende
Joseph Conrad

French films
Classic cinema: eg. Marx Brothers
Folk, rock, bhajans
Indian and Middle Eastern food
Six things I could never do without
"Things": Water, Shelter from the sun, rain or cold. A passport. Some instruments, (or at least a bamboo flute).

"The Thing": love in my heart
I spend a lot of time thinking about
How lucky I am.
How we can heal the planet.
my own thought processes and emotions - stepping back to observe and understand.
How wonderful it is that, at least a few minutes at a time, I can stop the incessant chatter of the mind through meditation, and how nice it would be to get better at it.
How I can see God in everyone and become less judgmental.
How we can help the Arabs and Israelis make peace.
On a typical Friday night I am
At one of my favorite clubs: Jazz at Jacks or Hoffbrau.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I love to love and to be loved.
You should message me if
the possibility of getting close in a joyful sharing way sounds like something you could imagine, and you are attracted and intrigued by the spiritual and emotional potential in exploring a relationship with me.
The two of us