36 Redmond, United States
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My self-summary
I love being alive. I want to learn and see as much as possible. I always like to have something to look forward to, a trip or a project or just a cozy night with friends.

Updated info:

I'm at an awkward stage in my dating / non-dating life right now. I'm married, and we have been polyamorous for many years, but after my last break up, I'm reevaluating whether I want to remain poly or whether I would prefer to go back to mono (or being a "closed poly dyad," perhaps). I found the endless calendaring, the late-night talks smoothing over the feelings of an SO of a metamour, the awkward "which person do I bring along to this wedding" social crap, and plenty of other elements of poly pretty damn annoying. But. There are some things I miss. I liked being weird. I liked the perspective that groups of people are free to make their own rules as long as everyone consents. I like being real about the fact that it's totally possible to love more than one person at a time, and that doesn't mean anyone has to break up. And, frankly, I'm kind of into threesomes (as long as I'm emotionally close to everybody and didn't just meet via a sad pre-orgy Denny's dinner).

Also, despite knowing that I'm bi for many years, I've never had the opportunity to actually date a girl. It's something I've always wanted to try.

So. It has been over a year since the last break up, and I feel like I've almost got my shit together. Almost. There are still a couple things I need to tie up before I would be willing to start anything serious. In the meantime, I want to make some new friends. If some of those friends happen to be women-who-like-women, find me attractive, and might one day down the road be interested in dating -- or just having a non-post-Denny's threesome -- hey, sign me up.
What I’m doing with my life
Going to law school

Playing with my little girl and new baby

Failing to execute my elaborate plan of becoming an unpublished novelist
I’m really good at
Plotting with a partner in crime
Listening -- as long as you'll forgive me if I slip and offer advice

Kingdom Builder

I used to be really good at Super Nintendo and RockBand, but I've gotten rusty.
The first things people usually notice about me
My amusing t-shirts and awesome socks
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I'm currently Netflixing West Wing, Star Trek DS9, and Lucifer. I'm looking forward to the next season of Grace & Frankie.

I love Terry Pratchett.

Firefly was awesome (I didn't like Serenity as much -- it had its moments, but it wasn't non-stop perfection like Firefly).

I have wide musical taste. I used to say everything but country, and then I went to college in the midwest and had to flex on that.
The six things I could never do without
My family and friends
Good cheese -- This is a lie. I found out I can't eat dairy anymore, and I did not in fact die.
A warm, soft place to rest
A purpose
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Sleeeeeep and getting more
What to do about climate change
On a typical Friday night I am
Varies. This last one I was at the symphony.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I'm the type of person who thinks it's cool to memorize prime numbers or digits of pi, but I've never managed to do so myself.
You should message me if
You're poly or cool with dating someone who is poly, into women, and preferably a woman yourself. (I'm not completely opposed to talking with dudes, but any dude who is generically putting on the moves probably won't get a reply. Women who are generically putting on the moves will at least get a howdy.)

You're totally okay with it if we end up just being buds. I'm looking for people who won't feel misled if we end up being friendsies and yet won't feel insulted if I start hitting on them in a few months.

You are patient and willing to listen to me ramble about law school and/or my kids.

You would never in a million years send me a dick pic. Unless it's a picture of someone named Dick. Those are acceptable.