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My self-summary
Born and raised in the south. I'm easy going and get along with almost everyone. I have a satisfying career, enjoy life, wake up happy every morning, and love to laugh. I'm a little old fashioned in some ways (chivalry’s not dead) but fairly progressive in others.

I love outdoor activities; biking, hiking, skiing, etc but also enjoy reading, movies, stimulating conversation with friends, fine dining, and cultural events like concerts and the theater.

I have two daughters that are 10 and 13 that absolutely rock! The older one is quite the tom-boy while the other is very much a girly-girl. I have them 50% of the time and they are a large part of my life. If that is a dealbreaker please let me know right from the start.

When it comes to love I’m a believer. It makes the world go round. In a relationship I’m a very physical person. If you’ve read the five love languages, touch is mine. A lover can take away sadness just by putting her hand on my arm, can defuse any argument by giving me a hug, and a kiss can become the entire world. With that said; I’m not interested in the casual hookups that seem so prevalent these days. Romance and sensuality are very important to me but only if I have deep feelings for the person I’m with.
What I’m doing with my life
As I mentioned I have a career that gives me lots of personal satisfaction. It is intellectually stimulating, allows me to be creative, and at the same time helps a lot of people. Like anyone else, my “job” takes up a fair amount of my time but I make sure not to allow it to consume my life. I make time for my friends, hobbies, and my girls. I believe that a good balance between professional and personal life is a must. I also feel a strong need for continued growth in my life. Sometimes that means additional education, political activism, arts and spiritual endeavors, charity work, etc.

What I’m missing is someone to share the joys and sorrows of my life with. I was married for 15 years and expected it to last my entire life. When it ended I took a fair amount of time adjusting to the idea of being single, clearing my head and my heart, and now I’m back in the dating world and trying online dating. like most, I'm looking for “matches” that are willing to get to know each other, see if there is any chemistry, develop a friendship, and see what comes of it.
I’m really good at
Making people laugh, balancing intellect with intuition, getting along with people, being empathetic.
The first things people usually notice about me
Probably my smile. If they are empathetic they probably notice my open friendliness and honesty (and maybe the mischievous twinkle in my eyes).
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Movies, music, books… It’s all about how they either make me think or make me feel, and it all depends on the mood. It’s amazing how a book can stay with you, sometimes for years... How they can shape your outlook on life. The ability of an author to reach out and grab you, to subtly use prose, poetry, and humor to guide your thoughts and emotions is an amazing thing. I’m a voracious reader. As long as it’s well written I can enjoy almost anything; from history and science, to tales of tragedy, mystery, or accomplishment. Good movies are the same. They can grab me and make me think or feel deeply. I'd love to talk about favorite books/movies in person but it would be too much to list here.

Music is very important to me. I like everything from Mozart to Metallica and that includes dance, disco, country-bluegrass, blues, metal, alternative, and even a little rap. It would be hard to find a genre that I don't enjoy at least some music from. Sometimes classical playing in the background hits the spot. Other times your soul just needs to hear the blues. Again, it’s all about the mood. Ha, it sounds over-the-top but I have surround sound in my bathroom (I had extra equipment and it fit). Now I rock out singing in the shower in the morning or have a late night Calgon moment soaking to new age piano or Spanish guitar… and no I’m not gay. There’s just something sybaritically decadent about soaking in the heat with soft music… especially if there’s someone else in the tub! ;->

It’s pretty much the same with food. I enjoy finding and trying new things. It’s all good; Asian, French, Indian, Italian, Mexican, Middle Eastern, Thai, or a nicely cooked steak. Throw in a nice glass of wine, good companions, stimulating conversation, and dining can be a great part of life’s experiences.
The six things I could never do without
I consider myself to be strong and adaptable so I don't know that I would say "couldn't live without", but these are things that I enjoy and are important to me in my life.

-Music/Books
-Technology (it's my career and I enjoy working with it but I don't let it rule my life, i.e. I don't text or surf on my phone when I'm spending time with someone)
-People, Friends/Family/My girls
-Laughter/Playfulness
-Romance/Passion/Sensuality
I spend a lot of time thinking about
How nice it would be to finally delete this profile. :-)

I’m a guy so I don’t overanalyze things in my day to day interactions. I’ve learned the lessons of trusting my instincts and intuition, of letting go and going with the flow… but that doesn’t mean that I don’t enjoy thinking deeply about things.

Depending on the mood I find myself thinking about science, politics, religion, ethics, the future, the past, life, love, relationships, sex, humor, happiness and sadness, where we’re all going on this fascinating journey of ours. I love to think about how the world works and why it is the way it is. If you're a deep thinker that's a big plus.
On a typical Friday night I am
If I have my girls we’re probably playing. If I don’t I’m either relaxing at home, doing something with friends, or out on a date.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
Casual dating is fun and I see the appeal but the most awesome thing I've found in my life is the emotional intimacy I've had when in a committed relationship with an intelligent, playful, caring, sensuous woman. Long term, that's what I’m looking for.
You should message me if
You are an intelligent, happy, and passionate lady with a variety of interests, like kids, and your taste in men runs toward intelligent, funny, empathetic, playful, and romantic.

You’re serious about wanting to actually go out in person with someone you’ve hit it off with online - it’s not like it’s a lifetime commitment, it’s JUST dinner! :-)

You’re at least open to the idea of a long-term relationship if the right guy were to come along.

You think a 20-50 mile bicycle ride along some of the metro area's beautiful bike paths is a great way to spend a Saturday morning (or slapping on the leathers and taking a motorcycle ride up to the mountains).

You have enough of a sense of humor to find a lot of the questions on this site funny, i.e.
Would you ever sleep with a serial killer? Can’t you just picture a pitiful, lonely-heart serial killer making “yes” a mandatory answer on this question and then skimming through profiles at 2am saying “Please, please, please…”? Ha, if you really want to freak someone out, send them a message asking if they are firm on their “No” for this question. :-)

Ha, OMG, after trying online dating for awhile I’m adding the below based on some of my experiences (yes REALLY). :-)

You should message me if…
- You aren’t a transvestite/transsexual (no offense, just not my thing).
- You won’t suggest moving in together after two dates.
- You aren’t currently involved with someone but keeping your options open.
- You don’t think that “everyone cheats, so monogamy is for fools”.
- You don't HAVE to have a drink EVERY day.
- You aren't looking for lonely men for webcam clients.
- You don’t have one profile to look for an LTR and another (with different answers) to look for hookups till you find the LTR.
- We don't live so far apart that it would take a lot of effort (or a passport) for us to ever meet.

Cheers and good luck everyone!
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