I love outdoor activities; biking, hiking, skiing, etc but also enjoy reading, movies, stimulating conversation with friends, fine dining, and cultural events like concerts and the theater.
I have two daughters that are 10 and 13 that absolutely rock! The older one is quite the tom-boy while the other is very much a girly-girl. I have them 50% of the time and they are a large part of my life. If that is a dealbreaker please let me know right from the start.
When it comes to love I’m a believer. It makes the world go round. In a relationship I’m a very physical person. If you’ve read the five love languages, touch is mine. A lover can take away sadness just by putting her hand on my arm, can defuse any argument by giving me a hug, and a kiss can become the entire world. With that said; I’m not interested in the casual hookups that seem so prevalent these days. Romance and sensuality are very important to me but only if I have deep feelings for the person I’m with.
What I’m missing is someone to share the joys and sorrows of my life with. I was married for 15 years and expected it to last my entire life. When it ended I took a fair amount of time adjusting to the idea of being single, clearing my head and my heart, and now I’m back in the dating world and trying online dating. like most, I'm looking for “matches” that are willing to get to know each other, see if there is any chemistry, develop a friendship, and see what comes of it.
Music is very important to me. I like everything from Mozart to Metallica and that includes dance, disco, country-bluegrass, blues, metal, alternative, and even a little rap. It would be hard to find a genre that I don't enjoy at least some music from. Sometimes classical playing in the background hits the spot. Other times your soul just needs to hear the blues. Again, it’s all about the mood. Ha, it sounds over-the-top but I have surround sound in my bathroom (I had extra equipment and it fit). Now I rock out singing in the shower in the morning or have a late night Calgon moment soaking to new age piano or Spanish guitar… and no I’m not gay. There’s just something sybaritically decadent about soaking in the heat with soft music… especially if there’s someone else in the tub! ;->
It’s pretty much the same with food. I enjoy finding and trying new things. It’s all good; Asian, French, Indian, Italian, Mexican, Middle Eastern, Thai, or a nicely cooked steak. Throw in a nice glass of wine, good companions, stimulating conversation, and dining can be a great part of life’s experiences.
-Technology (it's my career and I enjoy working with it but I don't let it rule my life, i.e. I don't text or surf on my phone when I'm spending time with someone)
-People, Friends/Family/My girls
I’m a guy so I don’t overanalyze things in my day to day interactions. I’ve learned the lessons of trusting my instincts and intuition, of letting go and going with the flow… but that doesn’t mean that I don’t enjoy thinking deeply about things.
Depending on the mood I find myself thinking about science, politics, religion, ethics, the future, the past, life, love, relationships, sex, humor, happiness and sadness, where we’re all going on this fascinating journey of ours. I love to think about how the world works and why it is the way it is. If you're a deep thinker that's a big plus.
You’re serious about wanting to actually go out in person with someone you’ve hit it off with online - it’s not like it’s a lifetime commitment, it’s JUST dinner! :-)
You’re at least open to the idea of a long-term relationship if the right guy were to come along.
You think a 20-50 mile bicycle ride along some of the metro area's beautiful bike paths is a great way to spend a Saturday morning (or slapping on the leathers and taking a motorcycle ride up to the mountains).
You have enough of a sense of humor to find a lot of the questions on this site funny, i.e.
Would you ever sleep with a serial killer? Can’t you just picture a pitiful, lonely-heart serial killer making “yes” a mandatory answer on this question and then skimming through profiles at 2am saying “Please, please, please…”? Ha, if you really want to freak someone out, send them a message asking if they are firm on their “No” for this question. :-)
Ha, OMG, after trying online dating for awhile I’m adding the below based on some of my experiences (yes REALLY). :-)
You should message me if…
- You aren’t a transvestite/transsexual (no offense, just not my thing).
- You won’t suggest moving in together after two dates.
- You aren’t currently involved with someone but keeping your options open.
- You don’t think that “everyone cheats, so monogamy is for fools”.
- You don't HAVE to have a drink EVERY day.
- You aren't looking for lonely men for webcam clients.
- You don’t have one profile to look for an LTR and another (with different answers) to look for hookups till you find the LTR.
- We don't live so far apart that it would take a lot of effort (or a passport) for us to ever meet.
Cheers and good luck everyone!