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My self-summary
Introverted non monogamous kinky otaku science geek seeking others with overlapping interests for conversation and activities. Seeking someone who is part real, and part imaginary, since such people tend to be complex.

If you are non-monogamous, kinky, gamer, intersectional, feminist, trans, gender-queer, fujoshi, goth, or just a nerd with your own fun stuff to share... I invite you to drop me a line. I am always looking out for interesting people, people who build their identity around what they love, rather than defining themselves by who and what they hate. People who are nice, intellectually curious, open minded, sex positive, and most importantly who have found a healthy balance between adult responsibility and childish fun. A kinky streak does not hurt unless, well, it kinda does, but only when one asks nicely first. That being said, if "50 Shades" or "Gor" are your guides to kink, we are probably not going to be on the same page, even if I will admire your literary fortitude.

I am not here for anything specific in that I do not have a script regarding how relationships should develop or what milestones need to be aimed for. I prefer a more organic process and see where the connection goes. Though to be honest, I actually am on here mostly for the waffles, and I am starting to lose patience since not a single slice has shown up yet. I think those poly people were lying to me....

I do not have a solid self identification within the rather broad domain of 'non-monogamous'. Each of the terms floating around has many usages and problems, and depending on who you are talking too they can mean radically different things. Though I am kinda digging 'intersectionalist non monogamy'. Non-monogomy is probably best chatted through to see if people are on the same page rather than guessing from language.

I also hesitate to describe myself as a 'gamer' at this point, since GamerGate and the amount of casual support it got kinda soured the community/identity for me.
What I’m doing with my life
I started life misspending my youth, progressed to questionably allocated college time, followed up by a poorly spent adulthood, which I intend to continue to misuse at every opportunity for many years to come. There will probably also be cake.

Professionally I work in research, trying to figure out how to get simulated people to hate each other in just the right amounts. It is actually a lot harder than you would think.

I generally spend my free time time reading, watching anime, DIY home improvement, photography, and Minecraft.
I’m really good at
Photographing things that are too slow to run away; buildings and trees and such; things that do not give me odd looks when I turn out the lights and point strange glowing objects at them.
The first things people usually notice about me
I am told people tend to notice my hair. It is fairly long and usually keep in a bun since it gets caught in things if I leave it down. While I suspect said hair entanglement with various inanimate (and occasionally animate) objects are amusing for spectators, it is inconvenient for me.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Let us see. For books my favorite authors would have to be CJ Cherryh, Larry Niven, Lois McMaster Bujold, and David Weber. I have been trying out Catherine Asaro but have some mixed feelings there. Really excited about Ann Leckie and hope she writes more. On the whole I do not really have individual favorite books, I prefer to inhale entire series or universes (when authors play nice together).

For TV I have mostly been working my way through my backlog of anime fansubs. Outside that I tend to jump between documentaries or mindless cartoons as background when doing hobby type things. I am really enthusiastic about the cluster of series like Adventure Time, Steven Universe, Gravity Falls, Star vs the Forces of Evil, Bee and Puppycat, Bravest Warriors, etc. I have mixed feelings about Rick and Morty, but am curious to see if the show improves if they hold to their promise to actually *gasp* hire a woman writer next season.

Food.... Japanese, Indian, Thai, those seem to be top of my yummy list.

Music... mostly dementia and filk, though I have a few others like Jethro Tull, Splashdown, Switchblade Symphony, Concrete Blonde, Eve's Plum, Jack Off Jill, Vanessa Mae, The Piano Guys, Laura Shigihara, Live on Release, Eve's Plum.. but mostly stuff that would appear on Dr Demento or The FuMP ^_^
The six things I could never do without
A speck ,
On a flea,
On a tail ,
On a frog ,
On a bump,
On a log ,
In a hole,
In the bottom of the sea

Ok that is more than 6 things, but I don't actually believe in frogs and that cuts out two right there.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Blue/Orange morality.
On a typical Friday night I am
Frequently I see profiles extolling the virtues of going out and having fun on Friday night. This is not really my thing, instead I prefer a little maniacal chortle along with some twisted sadistic sport. Thus I spend my friday nights scheming unimaginable horrors for which to inflict upon the innocent so that I might savor their suffering.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
In reality, since the last 15 minutes of my work day on friday is often noticing some horrible flaw in some model, which then consumes me for the rest of the evening.
You should message me if
In this space people often say that you should contact them if you want to.

I think I will take a different approach and say 'contact me if you don't want to.' Starting conversations with strangers can be stressful and I know us shy introverted types often really do not want to deal with those awkward initial messages even though we do like the connections that can develop from it.

So I invite people who are uncomfortable with the idea of starting a conversation, but think we might get along, to say hello. I am always looking for a cute excuse to wander around a museum for an afternoon or explore some park with a couple cameras. If nothing else, I tend to be a good person for those who do not have many spoons to spare.

I would also suggest checking out my SO cheerfullygoth who is a spiffy person, is also poly, and is looking for new connections of her own. I am also involved with VeganPhD, who's profile is no longer active.