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My self-summary
Ok! So I am new to the area and looking to make some new connections. I am a shy but friendly science nerd, I love geeking out to things and love when other people have their own stuff they get enthusiastic about. For me that is science, clothes/costumes, DIY home improvement, photography, games, and anime.

I am always looking out for interesting people, people who build their identity around what they love, rather than defining themselves by who and what they hate. People who are nice, intellectually curious, open minded, sex positive, and most importantly who have found a healthy balance between adult responsibility and childish fun.
I am not here for anything specific in that I do not have a script regarding how relationships should develop or what milestones need to be aimed for. I prefer to let relationships develop organically.

A kinky streak is a big plus. I hesitate to get into too much detail in such a profile, but I can say that if "50 Shades" or "Gor" are your guides to kink, we are probably not going to be on the same page, even if I will admire your literary fortitude. But seriously, I would love to meet more kinky people again, talk shop, do horrible unspeakable things, etc.

I do not have a solid self identification within the rather broad domain of 'non-monogamous'. Each of the terms floating around has many usages and problems, and depending on who you are talking too they can mean radically different things. Though I am kinda digging 'inter-sectionalist non monogamy'. Polyamory is probably the closest 'gets people on the same page' term. However, not looking for unicorns, and not looking for secrets.

I also hesitate to describe myself as a 'gamer' at this point, since GamerGate and the amount of casual support it got kinda soured the community for me. But games have been a big part of my life (and career), so it is not an identity I can fully set aside.
What I’m doing with my life
I started life misspending my youth, progressed to questionably allocated college time, followed up by a poorly spent adulthood, which I intend to continue to misuse at every opportunity for many years to come. There will probably also be cake.

Professionally I work in research, trying to figure out how to get simulated people to hate each other in just the right amounts. It is actually a lot harder than you would think.

I generally spend my free time time reading, watching anime, DIY home improvement, photography, and Minecraft.
I’m really good at
Photographing things that are too slow to run away; buildings and trees and such; things that do not give me odd looks when I turn out the lights and point strange glowing objects at them.
The first things people usually notice about me
I am told people tend to notice my hair. It is fairly long and usually keep in a bun since it gets caught in things if I leave it down. While I suspect said hair entanglement with various inanimate (and occasionally animate) objects are amusing for spectators, it is inconvenient for me.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Let us see. For books my favorite authors would have to be CJ Cherryh, Larry Niven, Lois McMaster Bujold, and David Weber. I have been trying out Catherine Asaro but have some mixed feelings there. Really excited about Ann Leckie and hope she writes more. On the whole I do not really have individual favorite books, I prefer to inhale entire series or universes (when authors play nice together).

For TV I have mostly been working my way through my backlog of anime fansubs. Outside that I tend to jump between documentaries or mindless cartoons as background when doing hobby type things. I am really enthusiastic about the cluster of series like Adventure Time, Steven Universe, Gravity Falls, Star vs the Forces of Evil, Bee and Puppycat, Bravest Warriors, etc. I have mixed feelings about Rick and Morty, but am curious to see if the show improves if they hold to their promise to actually *gasp* hire a woman writer next season.

Food.... Japanese, Indian, Thai, those seem to be top of my yummy list.

Music... mostly dementia and filk, though I have a few others like Jethro Tull, Splashdown, Switchblade Symphony, Concrete Blonde, Eve's Plum, Jack Off Jill, Vanessa Mae, The Piano Guys, Laura Shigihara, Live on Release, Eve's Plum.. but mostly stuff that would appear on Dr Demento or The FuMP ^_^
Six things I could never do without
A speck ,
On a flea,
On a tail ,
On a frog ,
On a bump,
On a log ,
In a hole,
In the bottom of the sea

Ok that is more than 6 things, but I don't actually believe in frogs and that cuts out two right there.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Blue/Orange morality.
On a typical Friday night I am
Unpacking boxes?
You should message me if
In this space people often say that you should contact them if you want to.

I think I will take a different approach and say 'contact me if you don't want to.' Starting conversations with strangers can be stressful and I know us shy introverted types often really do not want to deal with those awkward initial messages even though we do like the connections that can develop from it.

So I invite people who are uncomfortable with the idea of starting a conversation, but think we might get along, to say hello. I am always looking for a cute excuse to wander around a museum for an afternoon or explore some park with a couple cameras. If nothing else, I tend to be a good person for those who do not have many spoons to spare.

I would also suggest checking out my SO cheerfullygoth who is a spiffy person, is also poly, and is looking for new connections of her own. I am also involved with VeganPhD, who's profile is no longer active.
The two of us