I am always looking out for interesting people, people who build their identity around what they love, rather than defining themselves by who and what they hate. People who are nice, intellectually curious, open minded, sex positive, and most importantly who have found a healthy balance between adult responsibility and childish fun.
I am not here for anything specific in that I do not have a script regarding how relationships should develop or what milestones need to be aimed for. I prefer to let relationships develop organically.
A kinky streak is a big plus. I hesitate to get into too much detail in such a profile, but I can say that if "50 Shades" or "Gor" are your guides to kink, we are probably not going to be on the same page, even if I will admire your literary fortitude. But seriously, I would love to meet more kinky people again, talk shop, do horrible unspeakable things, etc.
I do not have a solid self identification within the rather broad domain of 'non-monogamous'. Each of the terms floating around has many usages and problems, and depending on who you are talking too they can mean radically different things. Though I am kinda digging 'inter-sectionalist non monogamy'. Polyamory is probably the closest 'gets people on the same page' term. However, not looking for unicorns, and not looking for secrets.
I also hesitate to describe myself as a 'gamer' at this point, since GamerGate and the amount of casual support it got kinda soured the community for me. But games have been a big part of my life (and career), so it is not an identity I can fully set aside.
Professionally I work in research, trying to figure out how to get simulated people to hate each other in just the right amounts. It is actually a lot harder than you would think.
I generally spend my free time time reading, watching anime, DIY home improvement, photography, and Minecraft.
For TV I have mostly been working my way through my backlog of anime fansubs. Outside that I tend to jump between documentaries or mindless cartoons as background when doing hobby type things. I am really enthusiastic about the cluster of series like Adventure Time, Steven Universe, Gravity Falls, Star vs the Forces of Evil, Bee and Puppycat, Bravest Warriors, etc. I have mixed feelings about Rick and Morty, but am curious to see if the show improves if they hold to their promise to actually *gasp* hire a woman writer next season.
Food.... Japanese, Indian, Thai, those seem to be top of my yummy list.
Music... mostly dementia and filk, though I have a few others like Jethro Tull, Splashdown, Switchblade Symphony, Concrete Blonde, Eve's Plum, Jack Off Jill, Vanessa Mae, The Piano Guys, Laura Shigihara, Live on Release, Eve's Plum.. but mostly stuff that would appear on Dr Demento or The FuMP ^_^
On a flea,
On a tail ,
On a frog ,
On a bump,
On a log ,
In a hole,
In the bottom of the sea
Ok that is more than 6 things, but I don't actually believe in frogs and that cuts out two right there.
I think I will take a different approach and say 'contact me if you don't want to.' Starting conversations with strangers can be stressful and I know us shy introverted types often really do not want to deal with those awkward initial messages even though we do like the connections that can develop from it.
So I invite people who are uncomfortable with the idea of starting a conversation, but think we might get along, to say hello. I am always looking for a cute excuse to wander around a museum for an afternoon or explore some park with a couple cameras. If nothing else, I tend to be a good person for those who do not have many spoons to spare.
I would also suggest checking out my SO cheerfullygoth who is a spiffy person, is also poly, and is looking for new connections of her own. I am also involved with VeganPhD, who's profile is no longer active.