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My self-summary
I am not into heteronormative behavior or people who value such ideologies. If you don't know what heteronormative is then don't bother communicating with me I don't have time to reprogram adults.
I AM NOT INTERESTED IN ALCOHOLICS (self identified or otherwise) for friends or hook ups or anything. But must be ganja friendly; smoker till the day I chose to be otherwise. I laughed out loud to see that this site has rated me as "More Arrogant", at first I was offended but then I remembered all the other names strong opinionated feisty ladies have been called and I've decided that I don't give a fuck what OKC thinks of me. I am new to this site and just like the battle of whether to get a smart phone or not I have mixed feelings about this kind of people finding site.

For those who know or care I am an INTJ
What I’m doing with my life
I am a CA certified rape crisis counselor and an active volunteer at my local rape crisis center. I also volunteer at a domestic violence shelter. I teach at a reform Jewish synagogue in SF and I also work at CCSF and in SFUSD schools giving presentations.

I'm seeking more self care currently, which means being
quiet and alone more often than not.
I’m really good at
Im really good at listening, and talking. I love cooking, and eating. (Theres a pattern here…) I have numerous assorted hobbies that you may ask about. I also enjoy singing and yoga.

"Only a pragmatist would describe themselves as a pragmatist."
-a dear friend responding to me

I am very good at driving, I prefer manuals and high speeds.
The first things people usually notice about me
I am personable, Im a mench, and Ive been told that I have a "nice yoga butt". People say all sorts of things about me, I guess it depends on who you ask and who is doing the noticing. If I wore short shorts or skirts more often then I think the first thing to be noticed would be the giant tattoo on my left thigh.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books: The Little Prince, Harry Potter, Bonk, The Celestine Prophecy, I Robot, Stumbling on Happiness, 1984, Clockwork Orange, The Great Gatsby, My Fathers House and The Glass Castle.

Movies: Fight Club, Kill Bill I/II, Fear and Loathing in Las Vegas, The Matrix, Young Frankenstein, The Professional, Chocolat; I also grew up on musicals, I can't sit through one without singing along. Oh and just about any Monty Python or any Hayao Miyazaki films.

I wish I could say I don't watch TV but I do. Dexter, Breaking Bad, The Simpsons, Wilfred, The Boondocks, House of Cards, Sherlock, Dr Who, Skins, House MD, Blue Planet, Orange is the New Black, Loui, Sons of Anarchy and That 70's Show. Updated: Bob's burgers, Rick and Morty, Penny Dreadful, The Magicians, Shameless, New Girl, (anything) Tiny House, Black Mirror and Last Week Tonight.

I love anything cheese, Mexican (&Mexicali) food, Japanese food, deli sandwiches, Thai food, pie, ice cream, and chocolate chip cookies, the gooey kind.
Six things I could never do without
2.Intimacy (sex, cuddling, affection, etc)
3.Yoga (Philosophy and Physical practice)
4.Costal Living, more specifically California, home of the BURRITO!!
5.Music and the Arts
6.Education, I value life long learning
I spend a lot of time thinking about
I spend a lot of time thinking about sex.
I think about intersectionality, collective unconsciousness, food and drugs (my experiences and those of others, and society), intentional communities, sustainable living, renewable resources, music, the end of reality as I know it, school, stuff like that.
Also how early should we integrate knowledge about sexual health and how to give and ask for consent in our schools? Answer this please.
On a typical Friday night I am
Watching a movie, smoking something herby. I DO NOT PARTY, I have never been the type, although I am social; I don't enjoy small talk or drivel about superficial things or drunken ridiculousness. I am a foodie, born and raised in SF so I know a lot of good places to go for noshing or grubbing.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I have never heard my cat fart, but other people have.
You should message me if
You're a chiler, a thinker, a dreamer, a singer, dancer, artist, cook, a lover of nature and the outdoors. If you are interested in having sex, then know that I am very selective. We could just talk among many things in between. I'm down for human connection in many forms. I have rather high standards and expectations, emotional stability and self regulation, awareness and respect for the gender and sexualty sepctrums, compassionate, and spiritually, culturally and sexually open minded. Communication is key if you don't believe this is the core of all human relations then we have differing opinions.

Tip 1: talk to me about shit I'm interested in. Do not open with comments about my appearance. I own mirrors.

Tip 2: do not assume anything. If I don't talk to you, it probably just means I didn't know how to respond to you. If I do talk to you, it's no indicator that I'm interested.

With that said, don't be scared. Just engage me in conversation and treat me like a person. Try asking me a question, my answers may surprise you.

Also messages like "hey" or "how's your weekend going?" Or "how you doing?" Are not likely to be responded to. I'm looking for something a bit more engaging.
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