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My self-summary
I'm a teacher by trade and a lover of learning. I was born and raised in Toronto, and though I recognize it definitely has its share of problems, I'm really fond of my hometown. Because of, among many other reasons, things like this.

Over the past while, I've been practicing ethical non-monogamy. I'm currently in two very rewarding relationships.

I also occasionally eat insects (though I do prefer trying to follow a vegetarian diet), sometimes have pet rats, and am a pacifist who gets a kick out of lucha libre (OK, I've only been once. But I was helpless to resist that pun). In addition, I'm an atheist who feels pretty at home in my religious community.

My photos are all old. Eventually I'll get some new ones up, but I don't have many decent current ones. In the meantime, I don't think my looks have changed *that* much in the past handful of years.
What I’m doing with my life
Teaching, adoring my partners, and playing in a community samba percussion band.

I hope I'm also empowering and inspiring children to bring about a more just and loving world. I'm all about keeping my goals modest.
I’m really good at
A friend has this to say about me:

"You are a great communicator and always put clear and compassionate communication first, despite whatever emotions you might be feeling, and this enables you to deal with conflict constructively, and in a way that strengthens your relationships."

(The above is not always true, what with me being human, but I do strive hard for open, respectful lines of communication)

I'm also really good at:

being bashful at times and audacious at others
writing, I like to think
doing the Thriller dance
overthinking things!!
seeing the best in people
seeing multiple perspectives in almost any situation
...and above all else, procrastinating!
The first things people usually notice about me
My penchant for puns, perhaps. And, sometimes, my shyness.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
A sampling:

a) Come, Thou Tortoise; The Name of the Wind; The Poisonwood Bible

b) Little Miss Sunshine, The Wrong Trousers, Incendies

d) J.S. Bach, Kings of Convenience, Vienna Teng, The Weakerthans

e) coffee milkshakes, crepes, fresh pineapple, chocolate, hazelnuts, cheese curds, curries made with coconut milk
Six things I could never do without
1. Close connections with people
2. Insulin
3. The awareness of interconnectedness
4. 4-part vocal harmony
5. A balance between solitude and socializing
6. The Toronto Public Library
7. My mischievousness
I spend a lot of time thinking about
teaching, peaceful political movements, love, language, ideology, how to live out my ideals, polyamory, feminism, power relations, politics, race relations, First Nations, Metis, and Inuit experiences, intersectionality, science, and the complexity of...everything!

the hopefulness that the concept of neuroplasticity inspires

whether my love of alliteration is more embarrassing or endearing to encounter
On a typical Friday night I am
at home with my partner, recovering from the week, or out on the town with him. Or at another partner's place, or out with him. Or walking around the city, exploring different neighbourhoods (though that is more something I spend a lot of time thinking about).
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I can be extremely shy and awkward, and hard on myself.

Also, one of my dreams is to be part of an intentional community where people share their hopes and dreams as well as their possessions, grow their own food, eat together, and spontaneously break into song. It would be even better if everyone in the community lived in a network of interconnected tree houses, kind of like in the Dinotopia picture book or the Ewok village in Return of the Jedi!
You should message me if
you value kindness, respect, justice, openness and generosity of spirit

you think we might make excellent friends

you want to share in one of my interests, or introduce me to one of yours

you are involved with some sort of organization or project that makes the world a more equitable and/or connected and/or fun place

you want to see if there's an in-person attraction

you're OK with the fact that I might not respond if it doesn't seem like we have a lot to offer each other or if I'm just not moved to respond.

Also, if any - or all! - of the below resonate:

you can understand why I love this

you live your life - or would like to live your life - in the spirit of this song, as well as this one

The two of us