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My self-summary
I just moved (back) to the East Bay. I now haunt the Pleasant Hill area (technically Martinez). My new apartment is sick!. Hopefully I can stick around for a while.

I acquired my panda nickname in college when it was observed that I am somewhat panda-like (in appearance and temper), and my roommates made certain that it stuck. As a result, I have a noticeable panda affinity, and they pervade my clothing and décor.

So what's a panda like on a good day?

I’m definitely geeky: I like board games, video games, programming and math, and I'm proud to admit it. I try to be rational about everything, and I'm always eager to learn something new. I'm not afraid to use big words, and you shouldn't be either.

I’m a typical Taurus: I go at my own pace, which is slower than some like, but I always arrive at my destination. I’m steady and dependable like a rock. I’m easy-going to a fault, but I do have my limit, and I'm a force to be reckoned with when it is crossed.

I’m ethical, but not religious. I’m straight-laced, but tolerant. I'm not afraid to speak my mind, and I always own what I say. I fight for what I believe in.

I have a good sense of humor, but I've been known to enjoy telling the occasional bad joke. I tend to be goofy, even when other people are looking. I clean up nicely, but I like to wear jeans and a t-shirt.

Disregarding excellent food choices, I prefer suburbia to city life. I like a quiet evening with one or a few people rather than wild, crowded events, but that may just be because I haven’t been to the right ones. It seems kind of pointless to spend time with someone without being able to talk.

One of my college professors once said that I am "just smart enough to be dangerous." A friend once said that if the game developer thing ever stops working out for me, I could have a very successful stint as someone's bad conscience. I think both are apt.
What I’m doing with my life
I program video games for a living. It's a bit of a time-sink sometimes, but its wonderful to get paid to do something that I'm already very passionate about. I'm trying to save up in order to take the home ownership plunge, but recent lack of job security (for which my industry is famous) has made that difficult. And, of course, I'm still looking for that 'special someone'.

I spend a lot of my free time playing board games and video games. I love hanging out with people, but I can't seem to make it happen very often. Recently I've started dabbling in streaming.
I’m really good at
Math. Games, video or otherwise (though I’m not particularly competitive). Miniature golf. Settlers of Catan. Tetris Attack / Puzzle League. Dance Dance Revolution. Arcade Joust. Pinball. Lately I've been a pro at throwing food on my shirt. If I can find a girl who likes guys with food on their shirt, I'll be set.
The first things people usually notice about me
I don’t know that I’m capable of answering this question without engaging in a flight of fancy. I'd like it to be my dry but biting wit. It’s probably my car: it’s bright yellow. I get a lot of reactions to the clever sayings or humorous pictures on my t-shirts. I have been told that I smell nice. I was once told by someone that my eyes are dangerous. On rare occasions, someone notices my prized purple shoelaces. Come meet me, and tell me what you notice.

My high school English teachers beat into me a tremendous reverence for the English language, so I can be pretty quiet at times, especially when I'm just meeting someone. I'm really just waiting for an opportunity to strike. I can be quite boisterous once you get to know me.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books: I’m the type of person who tends to read only when someone hands me a book and tells me I should read it. I'm currently a few chapters in to: Ready Player One, and The Chronicles of Amber.

Movies: Kung Fu Panda, Scott Pilgrim, Stranger than Fiction. I like comedies, animated movies, and and some drama. I generally don't go for the typical "guy film" (lots of shooting and explosions) unless its plot also has some meat. I've been known to watch chick flicks even when there are no chicks around. My movie group has kind of fallen apart, so I don't get to see movies in theaters very often.

TV: Flash, DC's Legends of Tomorrow, Steven Universe, Jon Oliver, Silicon Valley, Bill Maher. I was watching Game of Thrones, but I prefer the books and I'm going to see if I can finish out the series that way. And of course, no geeky profile is complete without mentioning that Firefly is probably my favorite TV show of all time.

Food: I love food. I can cook a little, but it's not easy to cook for one, so I eat out and order in a lot. I’m fairly eclectic, but partial to Asian cuisine. I take care when dealing with Italian and Mexican due personal issues with tomatoes. My favorite restaurant is a little mom & pop ramen shop in San Jose called Halu, though I'm slowly compiling a list of wonderful places to eat around here. I may be a closet foodie.

Bonus categories!

Board/Card Games: Texas Hold-em, Pai Gow Poker, Liar's Dice, Settlers of Catan, Munchkin, Robo Rally, Race for the Galaxy, Dungeon Quest, Puerto Rico, Arkham Horror, Tales of Arabian Nights, Pony Express. My current obsession is Legendary.

Video Games: Castlevania prior to 2010, Monkey Island, Chrono Trigger, Dragon Quest, Tetris Attack / Puzzle League, Dance Dance Revolution, Final Fantasy before 1998. Having nearly 30 years of extensive gaming experience means my tastes are pretty ecclectic, but I'm always down for a JRPG. I enjoyed rhythm games until Harmonix homogenized out of existence (and yes I do realize I'm being a little hypocritical, having worked on one of the offending games myself). Playing classic games (I.E. NES / SNES era) is one of my favorite pastimes. I think most modern games are too easy and that modern game designers think too little of their audience.

Favorite pinball tables available upon request.
Six things I could never do without
*Sap alert*

My family: Always there to offer advice, help me in my time of need, love unconditionally, and provide an outlet for me to do the same. I wish I could have that kind of relationship with more people (hint: that could be you).

Friends: Man is not a solitary creature. There are few times when I’m not wishing I was with my friends or glad that I am. See also: family.

My senses: Ok - I'm cheating a little because this is actually 5 things instead of just one. Job considerations aside, I'd sure hate to miss out on all the experiences this world has to offer.

My personal ethics: They define me in the sense that they define who I want to be. To compromise them for any of the above would be tough decision for me to make.

Someone to challenge me intellectually: Only recently have I come to realize that one of my friends fills this role for me and just how much I enjoy it when he does.

Meat: Ok. This one’s a little more trivial than the rest, but I do enjoy eating animals. The day that I have to give it up for health concerns (to which I am predisposed) will be a sad day for me.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
On a typical Friday night I am
Looking for love (in all the wrong places).

Seriously, though, I usually connect with some of my friends on Friday and play geeky card games.

Also, I typically participate in dress-up Friday (a.k.a. Tie-day). Otherwise, I wouldn't ever have a reason to wear my dressier clothes. It's a nice change of pace.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I own a lot of stuffed animals?
I have cross-dressed to win a Halloween costume contest?
I own a DDR arcade machine?
I regularly host events (game nights) at my place in order to stay motivated to keep it at least tidy if not clean?
I don't dust as much as I should. In fact, I almost don't dust at all.
I'm honestly looking forward to making my kid(s) roll their eyes at my corny dad jokes.
I put on a few pounds during my last project, and I'm having trouble taking it back off.
I'm lonely.

I just noticed that most of my profile pics do not showcase the grey that has appeared in my hair and especially my beard in the last few years, most likely due to work stress (I mean, uh, "experience"). I'm not old or worn out (at least not more than I'm supposed to be), but I'm also not the kind of person who would dye my hair for vanity. For fun, maybe.

In college, I was pretty into anime and Dungeons and Dragons (which I'm using as a catch-all term for table-top role playing games), and I probably would be again in the right crowd.

OKCupid has yelled at me for not being picky enough about my matches. The way I see things, if I'm going to fall in love with someone, she may not match any preconceived notion I have about her, and I'm ok with that. As I said, I'm easy-going. I guess that makes me difficult to match.

In any case, I'm not really the type of person who is unwilling to admit anything. My life is an open book. Ask and ye shall receive. Of course, the burdon is yours not to ask the question if you'd rather not hear the answer.
You should message me if
I haven’t scared you away yet.


You know good places to eat around Pleasant Hill.

Bonus points if you have a cat I can pet.

Don't be afraid to drop me a line if you're just looking for someone to chat with, do something with, or just hang out with. There are entry level positions available in my social circle as well.
The two of us