You (check all that apply): Feminist, spiritual/philosophical, positive (unless we're talking STIs), sweet, compassionate, considerate, listening/patient, available physically, available emotionally, over 20 and below 50, likes male parts and the people to whom they are attached, understands & appreciates genderfluidity, accepting of mild Aspergers syndrome, know how to groom & nicely dress self, financially secure/sustainable or employed consistently, open-minded, have a higher education, are a slow & giving/sharing lover, and finally, your values regarding food, alcohol, drugs, and tobacco match my own.
Me: funny, creative, romantic, eccentric, eclectic & electric. I've been eating very healthily for years: lots of veggies, reasonable portions, little or no snacking, no pork (and then making healthy choices). So far, it's working.
I'm liberal, leaning socialist, very pro-BGLT rights, and a feminist.
They don't have an option for Unitarian Universalism, even though it's ~4th largest religion in the country!
A cool video:
At present, I am continuing studies for my teaching license, and working in education & materials development at a local nonprofit.
Being honest, and doing the right thing. Some folks try to cloud the issues with matters of unspoken/unwritten laws, but ethos isn't about exclusiveness or ambivalence. There are gray areas, but when it comes to the law, it's our responsibility to observe that.
I got a health exam, and my heart and lungs are healthy, and even my eyesight is better than 20/20. Thank heaven for small favors. I also tested negative for STIs; yaaay! I never suspected that I was infected, but it's worth checking.
Also, I used to have a Lulu profile, and I took it down, because it made me uncomfortable. But the three top things that I got for ratings from people who knew me were: skinlikebutter, sexmoves, and gooddriver (with the only person commenting who dated me not being someone I did the deed with; just got steamy). Take that however you want.
Those who date me notice that I like gentle touching, am a good hugger and kisser, and that I am fine with listening, not talking, or spending time together doing lots of things (including sharing). I am pretty comfortable in a lot of different temperatures, but don't mind snuggling if you're cold. Most women I date enjoy snuggling up to a big, soft, warm AMAB.
I try to speak in a softer baritone, but some people have a hard time hearing it over other noises. I also like to sing and make corny jokes. I'll also dance if I'm not feeling like I'll be embarrassed.
I also LOVE reading Psychology Today. Here's a great piece about relationship burnout: https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-art-closeness/201508/5-signs-youve-got-relationship-burnout
Movies: comedies, scifi, action, drama, animated, fantasy, romance, romcom/chickflick
Music: a lot of older stuff, some newer stuff; I get picky about music I choose to listen to. I'll say it right now: reggae triggers flashbacks to bad times. I can't listen to it: not now, probably not ever.
Food: No pork, certain beans, lots of veggies, whole grains & lean protein. I like Italian, Indian, German, American, French, Slavic, and the pacific Asian styles of cuisine, including Chinese, Japanese, Thai, and Vietnamese. Also, I prefer to dine in for so many reasons, and I can cook a lot of different styles of cuisine.
2. Music/movies/books & other stimulation
3. Good food & things to drink & clean water
4. Liberty/freedom, social justice
While I'm making lists, let's talk about turn offs:
- Try not to make all your pics selfies of you that are basically the same. Think: angles, lighting, outfits (casual vs formal vs work?). Showcase yourself.
- Don't bother to make a duck-face, or have a down-cleavage shot. The duck face does nothing for anyone, and I don't need to see that you have boobs.
- Also, don't make your pics all with friends, because I then have to decide which person looks the most alike in all these different pictures. Suddenly, I'm picking a face out of a lineup. Either say which one you are in each, or have one of just you. It just makes it easier. And if the person in the picture is a kid who is not your child, specify. A lot of people specify, and it helps to know "Is the person with whom I'm communicating a divorcee, a family friend to someone with kids, etc."
Please don't take any of these as judgments of you or your profile.
Let's all agree to never use these lines:
I don't date around or sleep around, and it's never about "conquests" like with some of those "players" who feel that kind of thing is enough. When you're nothing but a player, you're playing to lose.
I'll take this portion of your time to talk a bit about first dates. I cannot promise that a first date will be magical. You have to help make that happen. But first dates are rarely that magical, because it's a first date. I think that it takes a few dates & some phone conversations to find the magic.
I'm also a very musical person. I sing, play guitar, and have studied piano, drums, trombone, and I noodle around with a harmonica, a bamboo flute, and an ukulele.
I have a weird thing for women with short hair, when they can work it. It's not something I'll reject a women over, just something I think looks attractive. I also like women with long, flowing hair, when it works for them. It's none of my business how you keep your hair, because everything that I need is usually just under the hair, in the wonderful mind. I love a rich and exciting mind.
If I write you, recognize that it is a bold gesture on my part. I am not real big on overtly seducing someone. Everyone says stuff like "friends first," and that's what I go for.
Seriously, if you write me a crank email, you'll just get reported. But if you tell me about yourself, and respond to even a mere handful of the points above, then we'll be off to a great start.
If you're no longer interested, you can always tell me. I don't like to hold grudges about something as simple as that: it's important to me that I try to not be too clingy nor too distant.
I like people who have their own identities, and don't let mainstream society dictate who they are and how they do things. But you do not have to be a total nonconformist to be my friend.
They don't have skoliosexual listed:
I will befriend/date genderqueer and trans folks.
The website has been matching me up with a lot of lesbians. While I appreciate this, I know it's not realistic to expect to find a partner that way. So if you have read all the way to here, are a lesbian, and still want to get to know me as a friend, we can talk.