11'15: I'm starting another company with an old friend in Escondido, CA., creating monitoring systems for PV Solar installations. Our products help protect the Grid from the imbalances and higher overall carbon footprint caused by conventional solar installations.
9'15: Another word has come into my seeking relationship:
--- Compelling ---
Not only does our relationship have to be compelling for me, it must be compelling for you, too. If not, I move on, knowing we are not experiencing something that can last.
Compelling: to have a powerful and irresistible effect, influence, evoking interest, attention, or admiration in a powerfully irresistible way.
8'15: I have a new mantra: Out Loud. It means I'm out loud about what's going on, both inside me, and around me (including you). It means I share my rackets when I see them, and yours when I suspect they're at play. Just a heads-up. Some call it transparency, others have really appreciated hearing all of it. I appreciate it because it helps both of us separate the wheat from the chaff, get honest and real very quickly. We find delightful compatibility or move on really quickly (read: not wasting each others time). 6'16: So far it's working famously.
2'15: I recently completed a workshop that changed my views on much of who I am and how I want to be in the world... giving me a new access to authenticity... so much so that I need to start this profile over again. The "missing" here is spelling out specifically what I want, and what I offer: let you do the initial filtering for whether we might be a fit or not. There is no scarcity, only sorting and filtering...
I'm actively seeking a Life Partner:
"Partnership begins with the willingness to contribute to someone getting their needs met." It's been missing for a couple years and I'm done with suffering from unfulfilled expectations.
First the who I am: Present and accepting, Optimistic, and Sensual (a diehard romantic actually). I offer deep quick lasting connection. If the chemistry and spirit are there, I hold nothing back and am in relationship for a good long time (decades). I embrace my former relationships: we have redefined our connections' outward appearances, but are never out of each others hearts (that's both a blessing and a warning). So, if you and I do connect, you'll at least end up with a life-long friend, willing contributor and supporter; it's one of the reasons I say I'm poly. If that's not what you want or can handle, thanks for reading this far.
I understand holding space, and I embrace my "fixer," and know there's a time and place for both. Sensuality and sexuality are an important part of a deep connection and I need both. I say I'm coincidentally monogamous, but strongly own my poly side, not expecting any one person to fulfill my every need all the time, including the occasional lusty experience that may come my (or your or our) way. Compersion, Communication and safer-sex are important to me. And I always come home.
I offer a desire to be of service and be a great companion, to enjoy life from an optimistic perspective: The Universe Works is my mantra and I live from that space. I'm as happy traveling and exploring as I am lounging on a nude beach in Hawaii for a week or two. I love building and fixing things, from the broken light switch to re-keying the house, to designing the motorhome barn/studio/shop -- not much stops me. I collect tools: the physical kind, software kind, and self-improvement kind.
In my perfect world, we'd have enough economic wherewithal to not work for money's sake, but rather spend our time pursuing our passions for making the world a better place by touching other people's' hearts; and our prosperity would flow from that work (on the way there, I'm a senior software engineer and entrepreneur).
I live from the concept of life as an Infinite Game, where it's more important to keep the game alive with all players playing, than have winners and losers. Where risk and surprise are embraced because no one is out to make anyone lose. Where duality doesn't run the game. Where we change the rules to make sure everyone who wants to play gets to play.
I saw this in another OkC profile and loved it, even sharing it on my FB page: http://markmanson.net/fuck-yes. I reread it today, and again felt inspired by it, so adding it now to this profile.
From a couple years ago...
I'm exploring the emotional world, now taking on life from that perspective, using instinct and gut to make choices (over reason and "deciding"). I'm also pursuing a career as workshop leader in the areas of intimacy and sensuality (distinct from sexuality), while keeping my software business humming (an old Unix guru, custom web database design (Drupal), Customer support systems). Update Jan'15: took a full time position in SF as a Sr Software Engineer (thru 9/15), although I still do support my existing customers.
Polyamory, Landmark Education, Heart of Now, Naka-Ima, Network For a New CultureNFNC, NVC, HAI, Intentional Community, Peak States, Hawaii(big island), Burningman, Infinite Games, Possibility Management, PAX Workshops
In 2008 I became a member and lived in the OneTaste community in San Francisco with my partner. I've done the BayNVC Leadership Program ('11). I now create and help lead Infinite Games workshops and week-long immersion camps for adults in Oregon and Hawai'i. Update Aug'14: we've separated, although we still share some activities.
My love language is touch. I'm extraordinary with my hands, with a ton of testimonials both for healing and joy/pleasure.
Being an advocate for polyamory, deep personal exploring.
Producing transformational camps with NFNC in Oregon and Hawaii, smaller groups in the East Bay (San Francisco). Lately, I've added creating and helping present Infinite Games Camp (with NFNC.org).
All while creating Wealth. Also Chief Technology Architect for FohBoh.com, the leading foodservice social media company. Update Jan'15: now in SF doing software dev. Update fall'15: CTO of QuikFitApp.com, plus doing the solar engineering work noted above.
Other: James Redfield, Dan Millman, plenty of others.
Currently reading: The Wisdom of Love, talks with David Waldman, Finite and Infinite Games by James P. Carse.
Movies: Celestine Prophecy, "What the @#$% Do We Know...", "The Secret", good adventure movies, ones that leave me uplifted. No horror, no gratuitous violence.
Music: all over the place here, from light jazz, classical, to current rap. I stay away from country, noise, and "kill da sucka" stuff.
Foods: LOVE food... like to cook. I've eaten just about everything; generally lean strongly toward vegetarian, but love salmon. Good wine, very good beer... eating off the land in Hawaii (avos and papaya and mangos) or gourmet feasting... it all works. I've worked in kitchens feeding 2000, and run kitchens feeding 120; or just us.
My PDA (dating myself here, now it's an iPhone), and lots of PDA;
Serious Dark Chocolate (I seek out bean-to-bar producers);
Sunny Hawaiian nude beaches;
Tools (Leatherman, Swiss Army knife, oscilloscope, Sawzall, vibrator);
8'16-present: spending time with new sweetie in London: 10 days there, 20 in San Diego and traveling.
I want a Primary... someone who is collaborator, companion, coach (telling me your truth to support my ongoing growth), and cheerleader (loving encouragement to work through my challenges as they arise)... and accepts that gift from me to you. I am an adventure in authenticity and paradigm breaking!