59Montclair, United States
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My self-summary
I am a book editor and literary agent and mostly amateur musician (rock/folk). I am also a political animal—actively involved.

I love to travel and to try new things. Lately, I've been exploring my own backyard, in New Jersey, finding wonderful, surprising places. I enjoy being out in nature, especially kayaking, and I get very excited about seeing wildlife.

I don't watch TV as much as most people—not because I think it’s “bad” (au contraire, a lot of it is pretty damn good these days) but simply because I’m too busy living my life, socializing with real people, playing live music, etc. I'm not especially materialistic and don’t really care that much if I go to a fancy restaurant or to a great thin-crust brick-oven pizza place, and most nights I like to make a good, healthy meal at home (I love to cook). I don’t need to have top-of-the-line of everything. I truly believe the best things in life are free: good conversation, books (free if they're from the library), the great outdoors, playing music (free after the one-time investment in a guitar or other instrument!), good feelings about life.

My background is Jewish but I consider myself a secular humanist. There’s too much tribalism in this world, and I find that the best people I know come from all sorts of backgrounds. I have a master’s degree in international relations from Johns Hopkins. I read constantly and listen to NPR, watch documentaries and lots of news (and OK, I'll admit it, MSNBC too--I love Rachel!), and read the New York Times and various bloggers.

I’m likely to click with someone who is intellectual, engaged in the world, has strong passions, is reasonably sociable, and is into the life of the mind but not neglectful of the body. I’m very independent and rather opinionated (though not closed-minded) and seek someone who can appreciate those qualities.
What I’m doing with my life
For many years, my life was quiet, domestic, family-oriented, and predictable. Now it's chock full of activities and is more friend- than family-oriented.

My work is fascinating and creative, demanding of both literary skills and people skills, and I feel lucky to be in it. I edit books and also represent them as a literary agent. However, I'm not a workaholic. I love my downtime, especially my social time and music-playing time.
I’m really good at
Writing and editing; singing; cooking; crossword puzzles (though I rarely have time to do them); making jewelry; PingPong; volleyball; talking to people about personal issues; philosophizing.
The first things people usually notice about me
Probably my glasses and my long hair, but of course I don't really know.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books are my life--there are too many to mention. I read both fiction and non. One book that affected me tremendously was "Infidel" by Aayan Hirsi Ali, a Somali woman who fled an arranged marriage and got into Holland illegally. She eventually became a member of Parliament there and spoke out against honor killings and other abuses against women that were tolerated in that country in the name of respect for other cultures.
I do appreciate fiction, but true stories like hers, or "Angela's Ashes" or "The Glass Castle," tend to move me more than anything. I am fascinated by human behavior and what makes people tick. Why do people do the strange things they do, both good and bad? I will never stop asking that question or seeking to further my understanding of these odd creatures we call human beings.

I read "The Omnivore's Dilemma" a couple of years ago, and it forever changed the way I think about food. Should be required reading for everyone who's ever set foot in a supermarket.

I also read books on politics ("What's the Matter With Kansas" for example) and economics, the latter mainly because of the influence it has on politics and on all of our lives.

I have read all or parts of the spate of recent books by the various new atheist authors, such as Richard Dawkins (The God Delusion), Christopher Hitchens, and who is the other guy? (It's kind of like the Three Tenors). I think their idea that the world no longer has the luxury of engaging in magical thinking is pretty right on.

Music: Very much a part of my life. I certainly revere the classic rock/folk/blues icons: Bowie, Dylan, Clapton, Joni Mitchell, and on and on. But I like to listen to more contemporary stuff and hear new things. I tend to like "alt rock" and generally not the most mainstream stuff. I especially like hearing live music in small venues by people who are only moderately famous.

Movies: Foreign films and some indies. But even the indies are too much about cinematography, editing, and acting (all good things in themselves), and not enough about plain old good writing and storytelling. I'm often disappointed by movies, unfortunately.
Six things I could never do without
NPR - one of the few news outlets that actually seeks to just tell the truth
My guitar - sometimes it feels like an appendage.
My capo -- my voice is higher than that of most folk/pop singers, so I always have to change the key.
Dark chocolate
The ability to get out and enjoy nature on a regular basis
I spend a lot of time thinking about
The state of the world. Why people have such a compulsion to own and consume way more than they need. Why people seem so much more easily motivated by hate and fear than by compassion. Why our country has become too stupid to invest in the basics that in the past made us great: public education, mass transportation, and infrastructure.
On a typical Friday night I am
Having dinner with a friend; seeing a film (usually at the independent theater in my town); or seeing or playing music somewhere. I love seeing live music in small venues--the Minstrel in Morristown, Outpost in the Burbs in Montclair. I also go to house concerts and jam parties at people's houses. And open mics, of course.
You should message me if
you honestly like more than just my picture and think we would be intellectually, politically, and philosophically compatible. I'm not very concerned about common "interests" as in taste in music or food. And I think we can agree that we all like the beach and sunsets and puppies. ;-)
The two of us