41 Berkeley, United States
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My self-summary
Water lover. Empath. Introvert. Creator. Scientist.

I'm just a simple, kind man looking for connection.

I've been told I'm refreshingly open and communicative, two things I have learned to value in relationships. I feel all the feels, which I think is both my greatest strength and most debilitating weakness. This has given me a lot of empathy, so I try to express as much kindness towards people as I can.

While I'm an introvert, I present well and can mingle like a champ - I just won't like it very much as it sucks all the energy out of me. I try and avoid large noisy crowds, packed bars and festivals. In my small close knit group of friends (I have a few inner circles), where I'm supremely comfortable, I'm a ham. I can be super witty and charming.

I spend a lot of time on the water, much of it by myself. I live on an old wooden sailboat (hard to find pictures without it), and I love it. It is my safe haven, my nest, my restorative niche. For me being on the water is incredibly grounding. It's also my creative outlet, as I spend much time restoring, maintaining, and beautifying her. There's also something so satisfying about the self-sufficiency of sailing around the bay for overnight trips. I also paddle a lot - partly for fitness and mental health, and partly for sheer thrill when surfing downwind runs in the bay (open water racing kayaks called surfskis). I'm not looking for a sailing or paddling partner, but my life afloat is essential to me, so at the very least I'm looking for someone interested in spending time with me at the dock, cozied up for the evening reading books by lantern light...or engaged in other activities...

I'm an environmental scientist/engineer, and I absolutely love what I do - I specialize in designing (and inventing!) biological, chemical, and physical wastewater treatment systems. The big focus the next few years will be working on upgrades at treatment facilities around the bay to remove nutrients, facilitate reuse, and improve water quality.

Living a simple life is very important to me. I've learned what my boundaries are, and am finally comfortable with them. I recognize that I'm easily overwhelmed, so keeping things simple has been critical. Simple with regards to my schedule and commitments as well as my physical surroundings. Living in a small space, minimally with very few possessions, exposed to the elements of the Bay, keeps things real and allows me to appreciate life more.

If you're looking to explore the world or want to go dancing every Friday night, that's wonderful and I'd fully support those needs, but I likely wouldn't participate often.
What I’m doing with my life
Living simply.
I’m really good at
Thinking outside the box. Listening. Seeing things through. Solving problems. Giving my all. Admitting when I'm wrong. Giving hugs. Being kind. Tying knots. Working with my hands. Charming your grandmother.
The first things people usually notice about me
That I have broad shoulders, strong hands and facial scars.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I really like chocolate croissants. And lately I've been digging Brandi Carlisle.
The six things I could never do without
My boats.
My hand-pump espresso machine.
Hand tools.
smartwool socks.
Burt's bees Lip balm.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
My next boat restoration project.
On a typical Friday night I am
Home listening to music and tinkering on my boat.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I cry when I hear Beethoven's 9th.

I really like the color purple.

Cutting in line makes me anxious.
You should message me if
If something about my profile resonates.
You are emotionally available.
You are capable of focusing on one possible partner at a time; you can show up with intention.