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My self-summary
- I am a goofy nerd, an activist, and possibly a robot who is learning how to love
- I am a silent pink lion with another dimension inside my mane that only certain people can access.
- I am having a real hard time deciding how much of this section should be devoted to facts about myself and how much should be devoted to presenting my weird sense of humor, and more broadly, how my mind works.
- I'm neither fatalistic nor naive: I don't think that saying, "The world is a pretty screwed up place" is inherently depressing or cynical, but I do think that saying "...and there's nothing we can do about it, it's human nature, so fuck it, who cares?" is very depressing and cynical.
- I am self-conscious about people not understanding that the second bullet point is a reference to Steven Universe so I included this separate fifth bullet point.
- The fifth bullet point is simultaneously a throwaway gag and an opportunity to understand how my mind works.
- I overexplain stuff.
What I’m doing with my life
Hopefully, reducing people's suffering. That's the goal, anyway. Intellectually and philosophically, I'm a big-picture, society-smashing radical, but on a day-to-day level, I find that I care quite a bit more about making sure one person can get through their week than I do about changing the world. Ultimately, I think those two pieces (individual empathy and institutional justice) feed off each other.

Careerwise, I'm working a corporate job that pays well but isn't all that meaningful. I don't have many career aspirations, though; I mostly think that a job is what you do to survive capitalism. Sometimes people tell me to try to monetize my passions, but people won't pay me to play board games or dismantle systems of oppression (don't get me started on the nonprofit-industrial complex), so I'm sticking with the gig I have until it becomes untenable.

Personal-life-wise, I am dating a person who is also dating another person and we're a happy poly family. I live with the two of them and their friends who have become my friends.
I’m really good at
- Explaining technical stuff
- Reminding people that they did not deserve the bad things that happened to them, and that they are worthy people
- Making puns
- Rambling (verbally and ambulatorily)
- Playing strategy board games
- Saving the world before bedtime (I wish. Alas, I am not a Powerpuff Girl.)
The first things people usually notice about me
My hair. People pick me out of crowds pretty easily.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books: "The Dispossesed" by Ursula K. Le Guin, "The Woman Warrior" by Maxine Hong Kingston, and a whole bunch of lefty political books

Movies/Shows: Steven Universe, Leverage

Music: Talking Heads, Leonard Cohen, Sweet Honey in the Rock, Bonnie Raitt, a variety of 90's alternative rock bands I grew up listening to and never got over (Guster, Counting Crows, Blues Traveler, etc), Renn Faire style old timey folk music (I was a pirate in college).

Video games: My favortes tend to be puzzle games (Portal, Witness, Talos Priniciple), point-and-click adventures (anything by Wadjeteye Games), and anything co-op (Overcooked, Lovers in a Dangerous Spacetime).

Board Games: Anything co-op goes down well at my apartment (Pandemic Legacy, Legendary, Mansions of Madness), but I'm not against a bit of competitive Galaxy-Trucking or Catan-Settling.
Six things I could never do without
1) Communication (and good people in my life who value it)
2) Some quiet, private space to decompress on occasion
3) Role models (not necessarily "heroes," though; I try to avoid putting people on pedestals).
4) Public transit
5) Some kind of ongoing project
6) Access to new and exciting information... via the internet, a library, or whatever other means.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
- What people around me need/want right now, and whether I can (or should) provide it
- More broadly, what other people are thinking about
- How to do more stuff I care about without burning out
- When the next time I'm going to get to play a board game is
On a typical Friday night I am
In order of likelihood:
- Hanging out at home with my housemates, possibly playing a board game
- Out to dinner with other friends
- More rarely (every couple months) on a bus to visit family in Western MA for the weekend
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I gave a speech at my own college graduation. I basically spent seven minutes telling everyone to stop panicking, because we're all going to handle this "real world" thing just fine. That was 2011; so far so good!
You should message me if
- If you're excited about the idea of making communication and consent a central part of your relationships. To me, this means actually talking about what we're interested in, rather than the more commonly practiced routine of guessing what people want and hoping nobody gets hurt (which tends to result in people getting hurt). I am not perfect at this, nor are you, but I'd rather try than pretend it doesn't matter.

- If your politics lean generally leftwards and/or anarchist-y.

- If the books/movies/etc. portion of your profile is not the only section of your profile with meaningful content. I'm always happy to talk about media, but a lot of people like the things I like without us actually being fundamentally compatible.

- If you're curious about something in my profile or an answer to a match question. Even if you just want to ask about that one thing and never go on a date; I'm cool with that, I like talking to new people.

- You *shouldn't* message me if you categorically won't date folks who are trans/POC/fat/HIV+/etc. Your grossness doesn't have to be pointed directly at me for me to distrust you as a result of it. I will check your match questions. Also true for fetishizing any of the above.
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