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My self-summary
A gentleman on a different, shall we say, "dating app" once accused me of "joining the limp-wristed brigade," and I've been trying to find that brigade ever since. In addition to reclaiming a decadent homosexual bachelor lifestyle, I like listening to scary podcasts while working on a jigsaw puzzle, there are always at least two books in my backpack, and after living in NYC for 14 years I still love finding new adventures.

Also, I'll be damned before I purchase the A-List here, there's gotta be some room left for romance! But if you "like" me I won't be able to tell, so maybe just say something charming instead?
What I’m doing with my life
I'm an elementary school librarian, and also trying to hack out a career as a picture book author. I love to cook, I love to move my body (gym, hiking, swimming, fill in your own blanks), and I honestly think that being a stable, well-adjusted adult is SO MUCH FUN.
I’m really good at
I can recommend a just-right book for any situation! (try me)
The first things people usually notice about me
probably say more about their own internal landscape and sense of self than anything important about me.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Here's the thing: I could list my favorite books and authors (China Mieville, The Missing Piece Meets The Big O, Bayard Rustin's writing, Hamlet, Emma Donoghue, ad infinitum) or I could just explain that books are a fundamental part of how I organize my life. I go to a lot of librarian conferences, author signings, readings, and book release parties. I've had very happy friendships and relationships with people who don't really read much, and I don't really care if it's a passion we share, but if you're bored by books, you might be bored by me.

One of my favorite books, An Everlasting Meal, is also how I cook. I love making the most delicious things out of the leavings of whatever I cooked last. I'd rather cook for someone than be cooked for, and co-cooking is a dream come true. Eating out is always a good option, especially if it's something that I can't make myself (I haven't figured out how to make pad see ew yet).

Movies, shows, music...I like things! I like going to shows and watching things. But if I'm on my own I'll read a book instead. Show me your fave and I'll probably be into it.
Six things I could never do without
I've been to a couple of different performance shows where people read out multiple of these "6 things" lists and it always makes me feel like we're all some variation on the same pod person who breathes oxygen and likes snacks.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
how to get a room full of wiggly children to not hit each other with books. And I have very strong opinions about portmanteaus.
On a typical Friday night I am
enjoying myself.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I love my life here, and also dream about running away to a cottage in the middle of some nature, a bike ride away from a main street with a cute coffeeshop and bookstore. After a summer roadtrip through many of those places I think I'm going to stick with NYC (I don't want to be a small-town gay!) but do like to escape once in awhile.
You should message me if
you want to confer, converse, and otherwise hobnob.

I'm not looking for anything specific right now. However, there are a wide range of options that I wouldn't necessarily reject, if offered freely.
The two of us