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My self-summary
I like to challenge people and introduce them to new ideas, people, and activities. I want to be challenged as well, so I'm not interested in meeting people who are passive in their lives or their relationships. I find life and the world amazing and I want to learn as much as I can about everything. Re-reading an article by existentialist educational philosopher Maxine Greene, I came across the following quote that so accurately applies to both my teaching practice and my approach to life generally that I was astonished: "To make things harder for people meant awakening them to their freedom. It meant communicating to them in such a way that they would become aware of their 'personal mode of existence,' their responsibility as individuals in a changing and problematic world."

I am, at heart, a learner. Can't stop, won't stop, no matter how ridiculous that pursuit of knowledge is. I crave new information and new experiences. I have broad interests, but seek depth in those interests as well, so that there are many topics that I've studied for years: Japanese culture and history, feminism and Judaism, Victorian literature, early 20th century design, and sociolinguistics and discourse. I also have a deep appreciation for smarm and cheese: hair metal bands, Europop videos, late-night telephone "dating" commercials (I actually don't watch tv anymore - do they still have these commercials? I loved them so much), and movies featuring car chases, rubber monsters, buckets of obviously fake gore, and/or Debbie (a.k.a. Deborah) Gibson.

One area I'm active in is free culture and open/public access to information. I'm trained as a librarian and archivist, and I'm an inveterate researcher, so I suppose it only makes sense that I'd care about access to information. More specifically, I'm interested in copyright issues, authors' rights, and digital repositories and publication.

My Myers-Briggs type is ISTJ. I generally feel that this type suits me well. My S score is close to an N - I'm not intuitive at all, but I am interested in big ideas as well as in details. I tend to fall pretty solidly into the I (needing time alone, preferring to hang with small groups of friends), T (rationality rather than emotions), and J (make a decision and act on it) categories.
What I’m doing with my life
Memorizing a lot of anatomy and physiology. Trying to not always be the bossiest person in the room. Expanding my artistic practice, particularly around photography. I've given Lomography an unfortunate amount of my money in exchange for a Diana Mini, a Holga, and a Sprocket Rocket. I also shoot with a mini Polaroid camera, my iPhone, and a cardboard panoramic pinhole camera that I constructed myself. I like that lo-fi photography is very straightforward and doesn't require complicated equipment or training. The spontaneity of the practice also appeals to me, as does the anticipation and acceptance of random, unknown outcomes. And sometimes the outcomes are good - my photos have been included in juried shows in a number of Minneapolis galleries.

I love going to see live music and art exhibitions. Come hang out with me and check out the awesome stuff going on in Minneapolis!
I’m really good at
getting along with all different types of people. I am happy to discuss issues and I have strong opinions about many topics, but I am not interested in arguing for the sake of arguing or in trying to convert people to other mindsets. I prefer to find ways for people to work together towards common goals, regardless of personal differences.
The first things people usually notice about me
Perhaps my smile? I've been told that my smile lights up my face. Alternatively, I have one sideways tooth that some people say is the first thing they noticed about me. I do laugh a lot...

From a friend: "The first things I noticed about you: you're really short, your glasses overwhelm your face [I've never heard this one before!], and your default expression is strictly a no-nonsense one."
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
These lists had gotten really long, so I'm cutting them down. But let me know if you want to know more!

Books: my favorite authors are P.G. Wodehouse, Dorothy L. Sayers, Van Reid, Banana Yoshimoto, Louisa May Alcott, Anne Sexton, Rumiko Takahashi, and Terry Pratchett.

Movies: I love action movies and cheesy sci-fi/horror, along with some comedies and dramas. Some of my favorites are Die Hard, Aliens, Grindhouse, Lost in Translation, Strange Brew, Clue, Dazed and Confused, and The Fast and the Furious: Tokyo Drift. Yes, Tokyo Drift, for realz. Also, I'd go see pretty much anything showing at the Trylon.

Shows of the TV variety: Buffy, Angel, West Wing, Frasier, Newsradio, Mad About You, Home Movies, Courage the Cowardly Dog, Cartoon Planet, Phineas and Ferb, and Star Treks TNG and DS9. Everything about The Killing is beautiful. Grey's Anatomy is pretty astonishing for its realistic depictions of the variety of non-gender-based personalities.

Shows of the live performance variety: Afghan Whigs at the Varsity Theater in 2012 (never thought I'd see them perform, was beyond thrilled when this tour was announced), P.O.S. / Poliça / Marijuana Deathsquads at the Entry in 2011, tUnE-yArDs at the Cedar Cultural Center and First Ave in 2011, Robyn at First Ave in 2011, Martha Scanlan and Keren Ann at the Cedar in 2007, Tori Amos at the Northrop in 1998, Tori in Cedar Rapids, IA, in 1996, and Bouncing Souls and Face to Face at First Ave in 1996. Also every Marijuana Deathsquads show ever.

Music (just a sample): M.I.A., Warpaint, Poliça, Marijuana Deathsquads, Memoryhouse, Sergio Mendes & Brasil '66, Zola Jesus, the Knife, P.O.S.

Food: I'm vegetarian, which limits my choices somewhat, but I love trying new foods. Mediterranean, Thai, and Indian restaurants are some of my favorites, plus anywhere that serves a great breakfast and/or good coffee. I like to cook when I'm with someone or when it's for a party, but don't enjoy it on my own.

Favorite places around the Twin Cities: the Minneapolis Institute of Arts, the Walker Art Center, the little park outside the US Courthouse on 4th St. in downtown Minneapolis. Favorite Twin Cities music venues: Icehouse, 7th St. Entry, Triple Rock.
Six things I could never do without
Books, a cardigan, travel, the Trylon Microcinema, ballet, and exploration. And the Oxford comma.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Finding ways to challenge myself and others. Having good, open conversations on all sorts of topics with knowledgeable people. Relationship theories and styles. How we express ourselves. Power and language. Who gets to participate in society and how things got that way. Art and public interventions.
On a typical Friday night I am
potentially doing a lot of different things. I might be relaxing at home, at Shabbat services and dinner, out with friends, at a show, etc. Could be almost anything.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
For years I had one gray eyelash that grew and grew and never fell out, and I used to trim it so it wouldn't brush on my glasses.
You should message me if
you'd be interested in meeting for a coffee or a drink to get to know me better - exchanging a few messages is fine, but you can't really tell much until you meet in person. You should message me if you're looking for someone independent, both in thought and in action, and if you're able to be direct and authoritative without being a jerk.

I love meeting new people and having new experiences. I have a primary partner (a boyfriend), but I date other people too. I am happy to discuss how my open relationship works with regard to seeing other people, so if you have specific questions, please ask.

I'm also looking for new friends to go out with, to shows, art openings and exhibits, social events, etc. I enjoy going out to such places by myself, but they're more fun to share with others. Come hang out with me!

Don't bother messaging me if you don't believe in abortion, gay marriage, separation of church and state, or women's right to self-determination. For potential dating partners, smokers and heavy drinkers also need not apply.
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