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My self-summary
So, Cupid, you little sod. Put me on the spot.

~rubs hands together~

Who the Devil am I? If you happen to know how Descartes wangled the luxury of a few decades answering the pertinent question, shoot me a message. I have a hunch that the secret to all of it lies in the ability to switch off a freaking Furby, or similar existential triumphs... ~grins~

Let's throw some bullet points all up in here:
• I’m an absolute sensualist, a deep thinker.
• I am older than my years.
• I believe that everyone has something to teach, and I am always listening.
• I'm going to want to have a battle of wits with you. Bring your A-game, beautiful.

I believe in intimacy – in ongoing intellectual, spiritual and emotional momentum. For me, those three things are the key to desire. Without them, I’ll simply want to be your buddy. And that’s cool with me too. Let’s go ramble around the city and find all of its secret gardens and stairways.

In terms of what I'm looking for? I'm into happy, healthy people with good emotional intelligence. I love dating women who have the bandwidth for deep connection, whatever the outcome. There is nothing sexier to me than a good vocabulary, a really thoughtful heart, and a great big sprawling smile. If there's nothing sexier to you than all of that + a British accent, we're going to blow the roof off this thing.

Two things I believe in:
• Undivided presence
• The unscrupulous use of the word 'fuck' and all of its derivatives
What I’m doing with my life
Trying to entice you with my OKCupid profile? Here, kitty kitty... ~curls finger invitingly~

Also? Writing. Helping others to write. Being in really good relationships. Helping others to be in really good relationships. Splitting time between the UK and California. When I'm here in the US, I'm in SF most weekends.
I’m really good at
Eye contact. Kissing. Mental foreplay. Putting you at ease on the first date. Apparently, being simultaneously warm and a touch enigmatic. Forward momentum. Wielding a riding crop, when asked very, very nicely. Peppering stories with filthy language.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Music: Anything with a filthy guitar lick. Let's go get all coy somewhere with loud music and a sticky floor.
The six things I could never do without
1. Eye contact
2. Empaths and spiritual types
3. The ability to see the adventure in every. little. damn. thing.
4. Autonomy and intimacy
5. Mindblowing lust that becomes mindblowing love
6. Long, deep, enthralling conversation
7. Chocolate chip pancakes
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I like to take a private moment to dance in restroom stalls when I'm out at a bar. If I'm gone for 10 minutes, you can guarantee I'm momentarily grinding the stall door. There's an image for you.
You should message me if
Any of the following apply:
• You are secure, sensual and exquisitely intelligent
• You radiate positivity
• You are as fun as fuck and sharp as a tack
• You are unapologetically romantic
• Your filthy mouth could make a sailor blush
• You know how to do open, intimate and vulnerable
• You love who you are and are completely unafraid to love others
• You have unquenchable curiosity
• You pay little attention to algorithms

Extra special bonus points if:
• You are a spiritual sort
• You want to get offline and look into each other's actual eyes