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My self-summary

Gotta put that warning out there, but really, I'm a pretty nice person. I'm married, but I'm still on this site to meet other females or couples that are looking for friends (and maybe friends with benefits!) My husband and I are long-time swingers and enjoy meeting other people who are open about their sexuality but we are by no means pushy about it. No, I will not have a threesome with you without my husband present, but we are very open to a full or soft swap scenario. I am absolutely open to getting together with a female one on one, but I'm not really looking for a long-term, committed secondary relationship. Right now I mostly just want to have fun. Having been on the other end of the "bi girl on OKC" stick, I know how obnoxious the unicorn hunters can be, so I tend not to message other people very often because I don't want to come across as aggressive. I genuinely like getting to know new people, sex or no sex. I am attracted to people of many different gender orientations and truly believe that embracing your sexuality is a healthy, positive thing. While I want to be upfront about that stuff, it's definitely not the end-all of who I am.

As for the actual "who am I" bit, I've spent the last 10 years trying to figure that out and I think I'm finally coming up with some answers. I'm a hopeless optimist trapped in the real world, a happy homebody who sometimes comes down with a strong case of wanderlust. I am a giver by nature, but I'm not afraid to receive in return. I have a deep love for words and language, but I'm a lazy literarian who spends more time reading pop fiction than Shakespeare - though I can still recite you a sonnet or two. I am just as comfortable in a cocktail dress and heels as I am in cargo pants and work boots, I like to do my nails just as much as I like getting my hands dirty, and I absolutely hate being told that I can't do something. I would do absolutely anything for the people I love, and I have a very long temper - except when I don't. I am loving, and I am flawed, and I am very, very human. And you know what? I wouldn't change that for anything.
What I’m doing with my life
I moved back to the East Coast a while back after a several year sojourn in the desert of Southern California, and couldn't be happier to be living where the seasons actually change again. I recently graduated from Massage Therapy school, and am eagerly awaiting my license so I can get to work making people feel better :) The last year or so has seen a lot of personal growth and change for me, and I'm getting used to city life now that I'm in DC.
I’m really good at
let's instead go with the things I try to be good at: cooking, playing guitar (ok, not very well but it's fun), sleeping in later than I should (gold medal champion), spouting off random bits of obscure knowledge at inappropriate and often confusing times (I absolutely rock at that. If you could make a living out of just knowing random useless shit at the wrong time, I'd be a millionaire), listening to other people talk about whatever's on their mind, knitting and spinning yarn, and just making things in general. I love doing things with my hands that require lots of patience and focus although I'm not always the best at actually finishing projects. I have a million hobbies from woodworking to chainmaille jewelry to gardening, and I'm always eager to pick up a new one.
The first things people usually notice about me
I tend to come across as either hopelessly weird and a little antisocial, or kind of a ditz depending on the way the wind is blowing that day. I sort of keep people at arm's length a bit, but at the same time my personal information filters are a little weird: there's some stuff that other people find really private that it doesn't even phase me to share about myself, but other things I sometimes keep to myself for no good reason around people I know but am not super close with. Once I feel comfortable around someone, though, it's pretty much an all-access pass.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
*to be updated*
Six things I could never do without
My glasses. Outdoor space. Anything soft/squishy. The internet. Music. A hair tie.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Maybe it would be cool to build a tinyhouse? Or how about starting some kind of business? What do cats dream about? Should I finally try to go back and finish my degree? I wonder if trees can die of old age. Oh butts, did I leave the oven on again???
On a typical Friday night I am
These days I'm either at home watching Netflix and maybe knitting some socks, or going out to eat/drink somewhere with friends.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
um.. i have a scar on my knee from where i accidentally stabbed myself with a boxcutter when i was 19 trying to help a friend open a futon....
You should message me if
you want to, aren't crazy in the stalk-you-and-get-obsessed way, aren't mean, and like hiking.
The two of us