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My self-summary
I am a slightly chubby but very active white Jewish guy living with a roommate and my 2 cats in South Park Slope, Brooklyn. I am halfway towards my goal of losing 20 pounds and getting into really good shape. Once I lose the rest of my chub, I will take all new profile pics.

I will be in NYC from now until fall of 2018, when I hope to go to Hong Kong for 3 months to study. Then I will be back in NYC for a few months, then back in Hong Kong for another 3 months of studies, and then hopefully back to NYC to stay.

My "career" in a traditional sense of the term is up in the air right now. I make a living from several unrelated sources and I spend most of my free time working on my singing voice with the intention of eventually earning at least half of my annual income through recording- and performance-related projects.

I am a dreamer and this is a non-negotiable aspect of me. I have a very clear vision of my career going forward, even though it is a bit up in the air right now.

I want to meet "the right woman" and get married and have children -- either my own or co-adopted with this "right woman." I know that I am a bit "older" to have never been married before and not to have found someone yet to do this with. Oh well -- this is what life has given me so far, but I remain hopeful.

I am not necessarily thinking that the next woman I meet will be "the one;" I am simply letting you know that I am looking for "the one." If the next woman I meet on this site or in person winds up being a one night stand or a platonic friend or someone I can't stand and never want to see again, I am cool with that. I am "looking," like most people on this site, and I am genuinely interested in and excited about anyone I might meet along the way.

I want to meet HETEROSEXUAL women on this site and "in real life" -- not bisexual or try-sexual or confused or open relationship or any other persuasions. If you are interested in my profile but are not interested in being with only one man at a time while we date and see where it goes, please look elsewhere.
What I’m doing with my life
My life is in flux. My life has been in flux for several years and will continue to be in flux for several more.

I am scattered. I procrastinate a lot. I am interested in a lot of things. I can speak 5 or 6 languages at various levels of proficiency, depending on whether I have studied any one of the languages recently. I am focused on Cantonese and Mandarin Chinese right now, which I also volunteer teach twice a week during the school year as part of a non-profit program in Chinatown. I hope to bring my various languages to professional levels in the coming years, and am considering grad school for language and linguistics sometime in 2019.

I moved to NYC in 1998 to pursue a career as a singer and entertainer. After many years of recording and collaborating and taking classes and networking and sabotaging myself, this did not happen "the first time around."

I took a break from writing and recording music for about 8 years from 2008-2016, and recently began singing again with the intention pursuing work as a professional singer and recording artist.

This is an exciting time for me, because I am again approaching my life as "a creative so and so." I HAVE VERY LITTLE MONEY RIGHT NOW AND AM ACTUALLY STRUGGLING FINANCIALLY. My main focus this year other than singing is paying off my credit card debt, so I will not be able to spend a lot of money on you. Sorry for this in advance.

Please understand that I can only afford coffee dates and movies and walks in the park and free events and inexpensive restaurants under $10 per person and fun things that we can do on a budget like cooking together. I am a very good cook.

I will not be able to take you out to any fancy restaurants or to the theatre or to anything that costs more than $10 or $15 per person for a while. Thank you in advance for understanding.

I’m really good at
Procrastinating...but if not:

Studying and speaking various languages.
World travel.
Deep thinking.
Intense conversations.
The first things people usually notice about me
I have very small eyes, big teeth and a lot of chest hair.

I have a nice smile, thanks to 7 years of braces when I was a kid.

I talk a lot and laugh a lot and write a lot and use quotation marks a lot (or italics, if they are an option) and tend to be quite self-deprecating -- but I am working on giving myself more credit for my accomplishments.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I have read a lot of books on language learning and linguistics as well as non-fiction on various topics -- right now mainly self actualization-type books to inspire work on my eBay and Amazon stores, which is the main way that I make money.

My favorite novel is Jack London's Martin Eden.

I think that Alan Moore's writing in book 4 of Watchmen is the most beautiful use of the English language I have ever encountered. Every time I reread it, it literally makes me cry. TS Eliot's "Prufrock" might be tied with Moore in my heart of hearts.

I have in the past been very passionate about vintage kung fu movies, and have a huge DVD collection as well as many books on the genre. My favorite is The 36th Chamber of Shaolin from Shaw Brothers. It is one of the most inspiring films I have ever seen.

I am a sucker for romantic comedies (mostly because my own love life is so utterly pathetic). I have a soft spot in my heart for Disney / Pixar animated films as well as Harry Potter movies -- especially if they are overdubbed into another language. Frozen in Cantonese is amazing.

I tend to eat Chinese and Thai food a lot, and sometimes go in search of a burger deluxe that will change my view of the world. My favorite food by far, though, is seafood, in particular shellfish -- shrimp, calamari, octopus, crabs, clams, etc. Love, love, love it. Right now, I am focused on eating lean proteins, a lot of salads and green vegetables, gluten free bread that I bake, and various fruits as part of my "lose the chub" plan. Green apples are my best friend...
Six things I could never do without
My cat Shmingie and his little sister/girlfriend, Muffet.
Languages and travel.
My family and friends.
Deeply green vegetables and seafood.
The continuum of human accomplishment and my own sincere desire and need to join that continuum.
Faith in myself and in my life direction.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
I experienced 5 deaths in my family and support network between 2014 and 2016 -- 4 of which I was holding the bodies of the dying as they passed away. I am pretty messed up about this, and I will probably spend time thinking about it for years to come...

On a more positive note, I spend most of my non-work time singing and thinking about singing, as well as journalling on my vision for my life going forward. I spend a fair amount of time each week listening to great singers and other voice artists and speakers, taking apart their voices in my mind, and figuring out how I can make those same sounds using my own vocal cords. I also spend a fair amount of time studying Cantonese and Mandarin Chinese during the academic year.
On a typical Friday night I am
I try to treat my schedule as a neverending weekend, so Friday nights are no different than most other nights for me...

I am a very independent guy, but it would be nice to share my Friday nights with a cute lady who would also want to share her Friday nights with me.

I don't drink much, but will be cool with you drinking socially as long as you are equally cool with me most likely not. I do not smoke and do not want to date a smoker. If you are a smoker, please do not respond. My mom chain smoked my entire childhood and continues to smoke today despite several major health issues. I have no place in my life for harmful substances in my own body or in my romantic partner's. This goes for pot as well. I have no interest in it and do not want to date someone who does. Thanks in advance for not replying if you smoke -- cigarettes or otherwise.

The most private thing I’m willing to admit
Chickflicks almost always make me cry...
You should message me if
You have read my profile and understand "where I am in my life right now" -- but nevertheless still find yourself interested in something that I have said.

I am a nice guy who just happens to be fixing my financial situation right now, after some unexpected debt incurred over the past 2 years.

The two of us