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My self-summary
I am completely rewriting my profile, if you have read it before. Here is me, in a nutshell:

I am a 20 pounds overweight but very active white Jewish guy living with a roommate and my 2 cats in South Park Slope, Brooklyn. I will be in NYC from now until September 2017, when I will go to Hong Kong for 3 months to study. Then I will be back in NYC from December 2017 through June 2018, when I will go back to Hong Kong for another 3 months to complete a certificate program I am doing in business Cantonese and Mandarin Chinese.

Following this, I will be back in NYC from August 2018 going forward -- assuming I get into grad school in NYC. I am applying to PhD programs in Applied Linguistics, or possibly Cognitive Linguistics -- not sure yet. I may be relocating to another city or state for the fall of 2018, depending on where I get funding for grad school.

I want to meet "the right woman" and get married and have children -- either my own or co-adopted with this "right woman." I know that I am a bit "older" to have never been married before and not to have found someone yet to do this with. If you think I am too old, or lecherous for looking at younger women's profiles, THEN FUCK YOU.

Of course, I am not thinking that the next woman I meet will be "the one;" I am simply letting you know that I am looking for "the one." If the next woman I meet on this site or in person winds up being a one night stand or a platonic friend or someone I can't stand and never want to see again, I am cool with that. I am "looking," like most people on this site, and I am genuinely interested in and excited about anyone I might meet along the way -- whether we have a physical connection, a spiritual or intellectual connection, or no connection at all.

I am looking to meet HETEROSEXUAL women on this site -- not bisexual or try-sexual or confused or open relationship or any other persuasions. That might work for you, but these other choices are bullshit for me and my life. If you are interested in my profile but are not interested in being with only one man at a time while we date and see where it goes, please go away. Thanks in advance.
What I’m doing with my life
My life is in flux. My life has been in flux for several years and will continue to be in flux for several more.

I am scattered. I procrastinate a lot. I am interested in a lot of things. I can speak 5 or 6 languages at various levels of proficiency, depending on whether I have studied any one of the languages recently. I am mainly focused on Cantonese and Mandarin Chinese right now, which I also volunteer teach twice a week during the school year. I hope to bring my various languages to professional levels in the coming years, and am planning to start grad school for language and linguistics in 2018.

I moved to NYC in 1998 to pursue a career as a singer and entertainer. After many years of recording and collaborating and taking classes and networking AND SABOTAGING MYSELF, this did not happen "the first time around."

I took a break from writing and recording music for about 8 years from 2008-2016, and recently began singing again with the intention pursuing work as a professional singer and recording artist. I am currently taking voice lessons after many years away, because my raw vocal range is 5 octaves, and at age 44 I have finally decided to try to be "all I can be as a singer" -- whatever that means.

This is a very exciting time for me, but because I am about to become a fulltime student again at age 44, and because I am again approaching my life as "a creative so and so," I have very little money right now and I am actually struggling financially. I am embarrassed about this, but I am telling you this now, because I am NOT going to buy you a $15 cocktail at some bullshit trendy raw bar in some bullshit trendy Manhattan neighborhood. I am NOT going to treat you to a $20 or $30 dinner on our first date when I don't even know you!

I will not be able to take you out to any fancy restaurants or to the theatre or to anything that costs more than $10 or $15 per person for a while. The "right" woman will be cool with this. I am looking for someone to have coffee with, take walks, watch movies, and in general just enjoy each other's company without any pressure that I need to buy you anything expensive anytime soon. Sorry and thanks.
I’m really good at
Procrastinating...but if not:

Studying and speaking various languages.
World travel.
Deep thinking.
Intense conversations.
The first things people usually notice about me
I have very small eyes, big teeth and a lot of chest hair.

I have a nice smile, thanks to 7 years of braces when I was a kid.

I talk a lot and laugh a lot and write a lot and use quotation marks a lot (or italics, if they are an option) and tend to be quite self-deprecating -- but I am working on giving myself more credit for my accomplishments.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I read a lot of books on language learning and linguistics as well as non-fiction on various topics -- right now mainly self actualization-type books to inspire work on my eBay and Amazon stores, which is how I make money...

My favorite novel is Jack London's Martin Eden.

I think that Alan Moore's writing in book 4 of Watchmen is the most beautiful use of the English language I have ever encountered. Every time I reread it, it literally makes me cry. TS Eliot's "Prufrock" might be tied with Moore in my heart of hearts.

I am very passionate about vintage kung fu movies, and have a huge DVD collection as well as many books on the genre. My favorite is The 36th Chamber of Shaolin from Shaw Brothers. It is one of the most inspiring films I have ever seen.

I am a sucker for romantic comedies (mostly because my own love life is so utterly pathetic). I have a soft spot in my heart for Disney / Pixar animated films as well as Harry Potter movies -- especially if they are overdubbed into another language. Frozen in Cantonese is amazing.

I tend to eat Chinese and Thai food a lot, and sometimes go in search of a burger deluxe that will change my view of the world. My favorite food by far, though, is seafood, in particular shellfish -- shrimp, calamari, octopus, crabs, clams, etc. Love, love, love it.
Six things I could never do without
My cat Shmingie and his newly acquired sister/girlfriend, Muffet.
Languages and travel.
My family and friends.
Deeply green vegetables and seafood.
The continuum of human accomplishment.
Faith in myself and my life direction.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
I experienced 5 deaths in my family and support network between 2014 and 2016 -- 4 of which I was holding the bodies of the dying as they passed away. I am pretty messed up about this, and I will probably spend a lot of time thinking about it for years to come...

On a much more positive note, lately I have been very focused on applying to dual simultaneous professional certificate programs in level 3 and 4 Cantonese and Mandarin Chinese, which I was recently accepted to in Hong Hong. I am also about to research US Masters and PhD programs in Linguistics, which I will apply to for the fall of 2018.

I spend a fair amount of time each day listening to great singers and other voice artists and speakers, taking apart their voices in my mind, and figuring out how I can make those same sounds using my own vocal cords.
On a typical Friday night I am
I try to treat my schedule as a neverending weekend, so Friday nights are no different than most other nights for me...

I am a very independent guy, but it would be nice to share my Friday nights with a cute lady who would also want to share her Friday nights with me.

I don't drink much, but will be cool with you drinking socially as long as you are equally cool with me most likely not.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
Chickflicks almost always make me cry...
You should message me if
You have read the rest of my profile and understand "where I am in my life right now" -- but nevertheless still find yourself drawn to something that I have said.

Or if you want to fuck me -- which would be excellent, assuming I feel the same way about you.

Thanks for reading.
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