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My self-summary
Not sure how to change this, or if I should. This is pretty much me, so...

I'm mischievous and curious. I'm a deep thinker and a spur-of-the-moment explorer. I'm an old creative soul with a childlike sense of wonder. I think I've skipped over the midlife crisis and settled into a pattern of acceptance, being in the moment, and being comfortable with that.

I'm honest and a little shy, but pretty easygoing. But I don't do drama very well.

Ah, my three adjectives. I should explain those a bit:

"Crazy-wise" is that sense of deeper knowledge and/or enlightenment that doesn't come from conventional sources, but it's not wrapped up in a New Age disguise, either. Knowing without knowing, as the Daoists would say. Track down the book Crazy Wisdom by Wes Nisker and you'll get a sense of what it is.

"Careworn": It's not always been an easy life, but it hasn't defeated me. Oh no, not by a long shot.

"Laconic": I do love a deep, involved conversation. Really, I do. But there are times when I'll keep things short and concise. I'm not very good with idle, mindless chatter. I'm more of an active listener. It's good to just keep the senses open and take in the world. The simple things are usually the most profound. If there's anything I've learned over the years, that would be it.

I love reading, playing guitar, hanging out in bookstores and music shops, having a damn fine cup of coffee or a cold drink while checking out new bands and songwriters, cooking or enjoying a great meal ( it's not the food, it's the company ), hiking, hitting up the Drafthouse or watching a favorite DVD, and taking the time to just bask in the glow and breathe deeply.

These are all things that I do on my own...but how terrific it would be to share these things, learn about your interests, engage in deep conversation and explore the world with new eyes, new passion, and new understanding. Y'know, sometimes I want nothing more than to lay back watching the night sky, whispering sweet nothings and embracing one another, and feel that all is right in the world. I don't know if that's terribly romantic or terrible romance...but I miss that feeling.

Dajia hao! Wo de Zhongwen mingzi jiao Ha Ruilong. Hui shuo yidiar putonghua 大 家 好!我 的 中 文 名 字 叫 何 瑞 龙。 会 说 一点 儿 普 通 话。

I am STILL--and apparently always WILL be--crazy-wise, careworn, and laconic.
What I’m doing with my life
Following my bliss. Putting out the first CD, working on the next one. Simplifying my life. Going for what I want rather than what others expect. Getting more involved in community. And still, as always, reaching out to embrace the random.

Quick update! First CD is on hold. I'm just not satisfied with it, so...I'm reworking a few things. I'm involved in Yang-style taiji ( the pinyin spelling of Tai Chi ) and qi gong, and I find that I am most centered, relaxed and alive while doing taiji. As a consequence, my spirituality has leaned more into Daoism than Buddhism, which actually isn't too much of a shift. I haven't been comfortable with the Abrahamic family of religions for years; the "Big Three of the West" don't answer the questions of life for me. It is what it is. *shrug* I've also been getting more heavily into steampunk. For now that means reading ( or rereading ) a lot of Jules Verne, China Mieville, Cherie M. Priest and Jay Lake, among others, and getting to know some folks in the steampunk community, but for the first time ever I actually want to do cosplay. I'm going for a Wild West-meets-Imperial China vibe, because I am NOT a Victorian/Edwardian dandy.

And...I am an ordained minister of the Church of the Latter-Day Dude. No, really. :-)

All these things were pretty random, but I decided to throw myself headlong into it all before I got too complacent!
I’m really good at
writing, listening, taking different elements and molding them into a cohesive whole. I can whip together a decent meal out of nothing, but I tell you, my Sichuan pumpkin soup is a winner. I've been told I'm a great kisser, an expressive lover and I give the warmest hugs. Apparently I'm also good at staying under the radar.
The first things people usually notice about me
My hair, probably. Yes, I HAVE been mistaken for Robert Plant more than once. It's a little embarrassing/disconcerting.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books: Speculative/science fiction, Chinese literature and history, travelogues, Eastern spirituality

Some of my all-time favorites: Dune, The Dispossessed, Siddhartha, Soul Mountain, Ghost Rider: Travels On The Healing Road, Ishmael, Daodejing, The Difference Engine, Bird By Bird, The Years Of Rice And Salt, The Power Of Myth, The Chalk Giants, Vacuum Flowers, River Town, Oracle Bones, China Mountain Zhang, The Dragon In The Sea, Brian Daley's Floyt and Fitzhugh trilogy, The Left Hand Of Darkness, The Botany Of Desire, The Red Star, William Gibson's Sprawl, Bridge and Bigend trilogies, Balzac And The Little Chinese Seamstress, A Moveable Feast, Watchmen, Wild Swans...

Movies: Science fiction, dramas, historical epics, documentaries

Blade Runner, Donnie Darko, Leon ( The Professional ), Sideways, Almost Famous, Star Wars, Serenity, Crouching Tiger Hidden Dragon, Children Of Men, Riding Alone For Thousands Of Miles, A Scanner Darkly, Sling Blade, I'm Not There, Lust Caution, Chasing Amy, The Commitments, District 9, Farewell My Concubine, Kill Bill, Inglourious Basterds, Willy Wonka and the Chocolate Factory, The Wizard Of Oz, The Boondock Saints, Summer Palace, The Dark Knight, Schindler's List, Braveheart, 2001: A Space Odyssey, The Lord Of The Rings...

Music: Pretty eclectic mix of just about everything...which means it probably isn't being played on the radio.

Rush, Pearl Jam, Porcupine Tree, Bjork, Led Zeppelin, Depeche Mode, David Bowie, Cardiacs, Low, Prince, Robert Plant, Blackfield, The Fixx, Aimee Bobruk, The Sugarcubes, Johnny Cash, Paatos, Down, Cold Fairyland, Pompaloose, Course Of Empire, The Buck Pets, Soundgarden, Patrice Pike, The Golden Palominos, Frank Zappa, Marillion ( the Fish era ), Jane's Addiction, New Bohemians, Otep, Liz Phair, Eisley, Alice In Chains, Townes Van Zandt, Pantera, Dave Matthews Band, Jeff Buckley, Ainjel Emme, Tool, Daniel Johnston, Jasmine Star, Rambler Rose, Pink Floyd, Ten Hands, Them Crooked Vultures...

Food: Ethnic cuisine, particularly if it's eaten with chopsticks. And the greatest drink in the world is Chocolate Monkey bubble tea.
The six things I could never do without
Guitar, pen and paper, an open mind, an open heart, the calming breath, the sound of music.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
how to be relevant and maintain my sense of self while being surrounded by hipster vibe. *shudder* And wondering if anyone else notices.
On a typical Friday night I am
checking out local songwriters in cozy little coffeehouses, woodshedding and working on my own music and writing projects, catching up on shows and news that I've somehow missed, losing myself in a good book or movie. I promise you I am NOT the guy at the intersection soliciting for a handout or catching Zs at the bus stop.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
Nope. Not this time.
You should message me if
I seem interesting to you. And if you're flexible with the numbers. ( I don't entirely trust this match percentile game. ) You don't mind starting off slow, but are willing to let things move at their own speed. I'm really looking for friends right now. I'm not at a point in my life where I'm ready to date just yet. Meet and get to know one another, most certainly. Hopefully you'll take a chance on THAT.