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My self-summary
I'm affectionate, spontaneous, restless, compassionate, adventurous, outgoing, easily distracted, sensitive, incessantly positive, easily inspired, occasionally insecure, tirelessly self-analyzing, and usually well-intentioned. I love playing the guitar and making birthday cakes, but I'm not particularly good at either of those things. I like hugs, presents, and cashew nuts. I write songs for my favourite people and I never kill spiders.

Being jealous, possessive, clingy or bossy is the fastest way to get rid of me. I don't like being given advice that I didn't ask for, or being told how I should or shouldn't feel.

After 5 years of doing the poly thing, which has been wonderful and growth-inducing, I no longer know where I stand on the issue of monogamy. I'm waiting for my next sign from the universe and to see where things flow. I love love, I love relationships, I love caring, sharing, cuddling, spoiling, crying, laughing, talking, and all the facets of real human communication. I love intimacy, connection, support, and growing together. I love deeply and with abandon. Importantly, I love freedom and honesty within my relationships. I don't enjoy explicit relationship hierarchies, and if your profile page speaks of your 'primary partner' I am probably not the person for you. I'm not interested in casual sex or meaningless hooking up, so if that's what you're after, you can probably stop reading here.

I'm an ENFJ and I have a secure to anxious attachment style. I'm done dating avoidants. I'm a hopeless romantic with a dirty mind.

My single biggest turn-on, hands down, is interesting, thought-provoking, open-minded intelligent conversation. I don't mean aggressive arguments or an obsession with proving you're right.
What I’m doing with my life
I am a hypnotherapist and holistic counsellor. This is my love, my passion, and what gives me energy and inspiration. Bringing happiness, healing, awareness, wholeness and love to the world is where I fit in.
I am an occasional singer and songwriter, and a something of a show-off when it comes to performance.
I do some life modelling, because having people make art out of you is a wonderful way to work with body issues.
I run a fun little event with a friend of mine, although it's been a while since our last one:
I do freelance admin for organisations I'm passionate about with a positive impact on this world.
I love gardening, hiking, camping, traveling, cooking, cycling, and trying new things.
I facilitate the odd workshop and dream circle.
Plant medicine is an important part of my life.
I’m really good at
Seeing the positive side, finding meaning in the difficulties, making salad, analyzing your dreams, and hugging. I have particularly good English, and never use an apostrophe in a plural. I also have pretty spectacular mental arithmetic.

I was told by a friend that my profile reflects who I am perfectly, so turns out I'm pretty good at writing online dating profiles too.
The first things people usually notice about me
I am open, friendly, smiling, extroverted, and occasionally exploding with positive happy energy. I have been asked to leave share houses for being a bit too 'high energy'.

Also, I'm a hugger. I do try to remember to get consent before wrapping myself around you, but if I like you, you'll clearly see my enthusiasm for physical affection.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Love a good inspiring uplifting mind-expanding spiritual read, documentaries about nutrition and health, anything about healing, psychology, dreams, the subconscious mind, jazz, blues, funk, soul, bossa nova, raw veggie organic yummy salads the odd greasy burger from LOTF, a glass of shiraz or pink bubbles on special occasions...

I don't own or watch TV, although I have the odd program I download when I have time, usually some twisted comedy. I don't watch a lot of movies, but I tend towards anything I can't pick the ending of in the first 10 minutes. I have an issue with cheesy endings, or anything involving Adam Sandler.
Six things I could never do without
Hugs, kisses, and physical affection
Hope and meaning
A Creative Outlet
Freedom and my independence
I spend a lot of time thinking about
How to be a wonderful amazing unconditionally-loving shiny goddess with no impure thoughts. How grateful I am for the constantly interesting and evolving life I have, and the privilege I was born into.
On a typical Friday night I am
Possibly at a party, a chant, a conscious dance event or a workshop of some description. Very likely at a doof of some description, high as a kite, wearing multicoloured crinoline dread pigtails and dancing my ass off with a grin from ear to ear. Sometimes at home with a book, often at a party with a glass of wine, and sometimes cuffed to someone's balcony and being consensually flogged.
You should message me if
You're interesting, you're kind, you're positive, and you've actually read my profile. If you're at least open to open relating and believe in respect and love for all humans involved in your relationships. If you send me a standard copy paste message, or any message that doesn't indicate you've read my profile, you will receive either sarcasm, constructive advice, or nothing at all from me.
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