49White Plains, United States
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My self-summary
Please read my whole profile before you message me. I welcome direct communication and abhor small talk. So cutting to the chase is greatly appreciated.
I am also the daughter of an English teacher so grammar matters to me. If you appreciate intelligent, articulate banter, then we will click. If not, I wish you all the best in your search for connection! Happy hunting everyone.....

To counter all the silly bots and scammers please use "human here" in your opener.

I am a BBW (over 200lbs) on a lifelong journey of character refinement but am still very much a work in progress. I honor my commitments and genuinely care about making a difference in the lives of others. Speeking a worthy counterpart who allows me to explore my deepest desires.

I am open, honest, passionate, loving and a fantastic communicator. Intelligent, articulate conversation is my foreplay. I drink in every moment of life and am happily living and appreciating it.

I love to travel and speak several languages. I enjoy exploring other cultures and countries while making wonderful friends along the way.

I seek a rare man who inspires, excites and gets me! He is able to laugh easily (especially at himself) yet responsible, mature, confident, intelligent, respectful, genuine and generous. He knows how to take charge. He enjoys witty banter. He is courageous enough to be vulnerable. He is passionate and appreciates exploration and deep, meaningful connection. He is my safe space to fall!
What I’m doing with my life
Seeking spiritual growth and trying to touch souls wherever possible.

Intermittently taking care of body, mind and spirit.

Got SCUBA certifications in November 2016. I am so in love with life under the sea. (47 dives and counting)

I gave up the corporate life over a decade ago. Now I am administrative support staff at a school district that serves emotionally disturbed children. My boss calls me the Goddess of Excel. I hope my work supports the kids that need it most but, I don't have the privilege of working directly with them. My work affords me a very balanced life with more paid time off than most Europeans.

To fuel my spirit, I volunteer as an advanced handler of service dogs in training which has been incredibly rewarding. I am now covered in dog saliva and fur for most of the weekend but, I clean up easily.

I also volunteer for several other organizations that empower and motivate people into what's possible. I am clear I get so much more in the process of giving back.

Despite being somewhat of an intellectual elitist, I am not well read although I have become hooked on audiobooks. I would love to record them one day as a means of giving back.
I’m really good at
As a recovering perfectionist, I tend to excel in many areas:
puzzles of all kinds or what I call brain candy
learning languages and using words with precision
public speaking and baring my soul
making lifelong friends with total strangers on planes (my mother calls this people collecting)
nurturing children and genuinely loving being in their company
The first things people usually notice about me
Hair, eyes, smile, voice, ass
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Movies: The Usual Suspects, A Fish Called Wanda, Chocolat
Music: U2, Sarah McLachlan, Alanis Morrisette, anything with thought provoking lyrics
Food: European Dark Chocolate
Books: The Big Book, Change Your Thoughts Change Your Life
Six things I could never do without
Assuming people are not things of course:

Dark Chocolate
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Me (unfortunately) and how I can make a difference in the lives of others. How I need to evolve to be able to stay in a deep meaningful life long connection with a man that I cherish.
On a typical Friday night I am
Picking up a pup, home or dining with friends.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I am an open book, ask me anything
You should message me if
You enjoy or at least are comfortable with all forms of communication - speaking is required
You are fluent in English and live within a few hours of New York City or plan to do so. I want someone close enough to curl up with regularly
You know the art of innuendo - class matters
You know how to navigate curves - mine are here to stay
You are open and willing to explore.
You live in truth. I am not interested in playing with married men or men in monogamous relationships who are lying in order to play. If you are in a Poly relationship with your lovers approval that's fine.
The following are not written in stone but, I might as well specify what tends to work for me
You are intelligent, articulate, 35-55 years old, ideally between 5'9" and 6'3" with a healthy lifestyle, non-smoker, clean-cut, clean shaven, dark haired, great voice/accent
The two of us