55 San Jose, United States
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My self-summary
Here is what I believe: The unexamined life is not worth living.

I am passionate and patient, romantic and rational, sensuous and sensible, kinky and kind, articulate and attentive (also, alarmingly alliterative). I love the latest and greatest gadgets (except for the iThings), and I am really good at troubleshooting. I have multiple advanced degrees and over a thousand titles in my Kindle library (my favorite: Poems by Emily Dickinson, Three Series, Complete. The least favorite: Dyan Merick's Avocado Cookbook. The recipes are just meh).

I cherish my solitude, but find joy in a thoughtful conversation or a passionate encounter; maximum delight is when the two align.

If there is one theme in my life journey, it is transformation. I traversed continents, cultures, and languages. I changed careers, from humanities to tech. I re-examined my priorities in life, and accepted myself for who I truly am. Most importantly, perhaps, I came to understand what is it that I am seeking: a committed loving relationship with an intellectual, accomplished, sophisticated, Dominant man. I am looking for a deep connection based on trust, love, passion, and respect.

In my professional life, I love what I do, and I make a difference every day.

I am also pursuing creative expression. A few years ago I have discovered digital photography, which offered me the perfect right brain/left brain balance: the blend of rigorous technical requirements and absolute creative freedom. I am frequently out and about the Bay Area, or wherever my business travels take me, with my camera and the too-heavy camera bag loaded with too much technical gear, in search of that perfect light and that ephemeral moment of transition from day into night that makes the image magical.

My smart, argumentative, creative, independent 16 year old daughter is an avid photographer, too, and my trusted photography companion - but there are some healthy debates about who gets to use the 50-500 telephoto lens, the better flash, or the stronger ND filter. She usually wins.

My photography portfolio:

What I’m doing with my life
I am on a lifelong knowledge journey - and every day brings new discoveries. I have a fulfilling job that brings out the best in me, and allows me to help people grow and maximize their strengths. I seek out beauty in sunsets over distant vistas, in old rusty trucks, in graffiti-sprayed hidden alleys, in old mismatched pottery at a small coffee shop, in a graceful nod of a stray cat, in the wry grin of an innkeep...
I’m really good at
Problem-solving, decision-making, listening, communication, empathy. Focusing - both photographically and generally. Learning and growing. Giving and receiving (also, good at subtle double entendre).
The first things people usually notice about me
My bouncy hair, my exotic teal eyes, my irreverent humor. My accent?
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Favorite authors/poets: I love Joseph Brodsky, Anna Akhmatova, Michael Bulgakov, Emily Dickinson; William Faulkner, Umberto Eco, Gabriel García Márquez, Jorge Luis Borges. I prefer Dostoyevsky over Tolstoy, and Faulkner over Hemingway. Lately I am reading different types of books - Drucker, Christiansen, Goldsmith, Gladwell, Ariely, Kahneman etc, and a lot of photography literature. Oh, and a recent message exchange with an OKC member reminded me how much I love Alice in Wonderland. Especially with illustrations by Salvador Dali.

Favorite restaurants: eclectic mix of sushi, Irish, Thai, Vietnamese, fusion. My current favorite place is Red Hot Chili Pepper in San Carlos - I am training for their three pepper menu.

Music: Bach (Well-Tempered Clavier is my favorite), Beethoven, Mozart, Vivaldi, Haydn; opera; blues; Beatles, Pink Floyd, Led Zeppelin, King Crimson, Santana (saw him live recently, what a treat!), Gipsy Kings... And more.
The six things I could never do without
☼ Double espresso (triple on Mondays)
☼ Nikon D7100
☼ Kindle
☼ The New Yorker
☼ Martini (Hendricks, very dry, slightly dirty, two olives)
☼ Blue hour
☼ Touch
☼ People who challenge me to grow
☼ FL

Yes, more than six. Why would I limit my needs just to meet some artificial quantitative goal? :-)
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Synchronicity. Power of words. Emotions vs feelings. Why I need (even) more camera bags. Also, how much OKC is like Groupon (at its best and at its worst).
On a typical Friday night I am
I could be post-processing images from a recent photo trip, with a soft music in the background - and a glass of chilled white wine within easy reach. Or in my backyard, by the fire pit, with a book. Or I could be out at my favorite local wine bar. Or at the symphony. Or at an elegant kinky dinner in the Mission. Or snuggled up on the coach with my daughter, catching up on the backlog of the shows we watch together. On a not so distant Friday, I was standing with my camera on the top of Victoria peak in Hong Kong, waiting for the night glow to emerge from the city below. Resulting picture available on request :-)
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
►I was once arrested by the KGB.◄
You should message me if never feel bored, incomplete, or unfulfilled, but are open to new possibilities. If you find my profile intriguing, and would like to learn more. If you are, just as I am, an incorrigible sapiophile.

Oh and I am committed to being positive but two things drive me up the wall: being called a "gal", and getting messages with "hello beautiful" openers. I also have a filter set up to screen out one-time messages, so please don't bother with "Hey", or "How is your day" type non-messages.