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My self-summary
Texas-born and DC-raised, I’ve lived in New York City for thirty-five years.

I am enjoying a long and happy acting career, into which I've put a lot of hard work and faith in the job, myself, and others. It gives me opportunities for creative expression, breadth of knowledge, and the joy of being part of a collective. It demands sometimes that I travel, but it also has given me cherished opportunities to live and work with people of different cultures.

After running and lifting for a quarter century, five years ago I became an avid Ashtanga yoga practitioner, and it's taken me that long to learn the whole primary series. I'm back in the weight room, but yoga has brought a lot of positive changes in my life, and science says it actually repairs the harmful genetic effects of stress. Still, as my yoga teacher says, "It's just yoga."

I scored an 8 on the Narcissistic Personality Inventory, a very low score, but that doesn't make me special. #veryhumblebrag
What I’m doing with my life
Working hard, trying to be better at what I do, and trying to make life better for others, which for me now means union activism and arts advocacy. We have to pick our battles.
I’m really good at
Using my kitchen appliances as storage—the oven is where I keep my pots and pans, which is great, except for when I forget they’re in there, pre-heat the oven, and the handles start to melt. I’m very food-forward! No one’s doing what I’m doing with industrial plastics in the kitchen.

(That joke was written in Manhattan. I have since moved to Brooklyn and have a larger kitchen. But fuck it, it's not bad, it stays up.)

Also: calm and methodical in a crisis. I get what needs to get done done.
The first things people usually notice about me
Well, I’m tall, so they can see me coming.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
These are just references, and no reflection of who I am as a person, but:

Favorites include L'étranger, Pride and Prejudice, Have Space Suit—Will Travel, The Quiet American, Lolita, Ubik, Neuromancer, Alan Hollinghurst, mid-career Martin Amis, Ian McEwan's Saturday.

Movies: the Buster Keatons he directed, The Gold Rush, Rules of the Game, Nights of Cabiria, Wild Strawberries, From Russia with Love, Goldfinger, Jean-Pierre Melville thrillers, early Jean-Luc Godard, the Soviet War & Peace, Stalker, Law of Desire and a lot of Almodovar, Tarantino, Princess Mononoke, the Bourne trilogy. Seriously, the Bourne trilogy comprises three of the best movies of the century. And then I got to be in one!

Music: Bob Wills, Leon Russell, Missy Elliot, Lil' Wayne, Wayne Hancock, Girl Talk, Alarm Will Sound, Hot Club of Cowtown, L7, Watch the Duck, many more...

TV: Stranger Things, Fargo, Breaking Bad, Slings & Arrows, The Prisoner, and every janky-ass minute of The Expanse.

Theater: I always love to see what those crazy kids are doing downtown. Or in Bushwick. Not one for the musicals, but Hamilton was profoundly moving.

Food: the crispy lamb with cumin and chili pepper at Fu Run, a Mongolian restaurant in Flushing, is the best thing ever and should be the official state food. I once, however, ordered braised sea slug, and that is on the top of my list of musts-to-avoid-in-future. I've taken that bullet for you: don't order braised sea slug.

All in all, I'm up for something that challenges me.
Six things I could never do without
Carbon, hydrogen, nitrogen, oxygen, phosphorus and sulfur.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Friends, freedoms, and equality.
On a typical Friday night I am
trying to reveal and shape the process of living.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I lettered in debate. After a ninth grade tournament, a judge said I sounded like Barbara Jordan.
You should message me if
...any of this rings your bell, and you are a good-hearted, thoughtful, open-minded, selfless, genuine man of integrity. Or try to be. You are a living mockery of your own ideals. If not, you have set your ideals too low.

Nous sommes tout le monde ici sur OKCupid les passe-murailles, cherchant pour amour par wifi, et nos ondes quittent nos ordinateurs et nos iPhones, et elles volent à travers nos murs et elles pénètrent les murs des autres comme flèches d'Éros.
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