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My self-summary
** Ex-gambler. If that doesnt put you off, then keep reading. Thanks**

**No overseas contacts sorry dont waste my time**

**Non monogamy or anything like it isnt my thing so skip me if its your thing**

**Druggies, please dont bother - I am more anti drugs than anything else in the universe. Period**

**Non-religious. Dont expect me to convert and don't expect me to join you. Otherwise, sorry, no dice**

Passionate, intelligent, sensitive lady would love to meet a nice guy for fun and exploration; mind, places, life, food, ideas, coffee, alcohol. Anything else is a bonus.
Love to pamper my partner and enjoy the same in return. I get sooky when people get hurt on TV, or animals get hurt. Dont use emotion destructively or to get my own way. Empathy and sympathy which sometimes gets me into trouble. Will do almost anything for a mate/partner if they needed it. I believe in being the right partner not just attracting the right partner.
Love my coffee and my life outside of work. I don't hate my job but its not my Nirvana by a long way.

Hazel eyes, short brunette/brown hair, currently chocolate. Blame Mum, she is boring.
Occasionally dye it red / dark brown also.
Im going white, if that matters to you at all. Though by the looks of it it wont be all over me until I am 60.....

Im pretty upfront and prefer to call a spade a spade. Takes guts sometimes, lifes too short and all that.

Im creative and messy and spontaneous so handle it, or dont bother. Neat freaks have been warned.
What I’m doing with my life
Working (library) major Uni. Part time. (I had a daughter in order to actually Be With Her. Hopefully you get what I mean there).

I send loans of books to other libraries, everywhere on planet earth almost. Not the traditional librarian; I do that to survive. I have a lot more fun outside of work and am pretty spur of the moment. I like to live with passion and follow my ethics and inspirations.

Career girl ? You are seriously dreaming. Same job same pay for more than a decade basically.

I'm also getting more serious with my reselling business at the moment on ebay. I'm giving it a good shake for 12 months and then see where I am at.

I live with my daughter (high school), 2 cats. I'm divorced, shared custody, No issues.

I'm only able to meet someone on my weekends off - firstly. That's fortnightly by the way.

On weeknights I'm effectively housebound (at night time Only) **when I have a child in the house** Please do not respond if this is unsuitable for you. Thanks.

The above (re : houseboundness) just basically means that if all of us were out on a school night, we would have to be home by 9 PM. Not too hard I dont think

I dont do online chat/skype/whatever the hell. Other than Okcupid
I will be open to anything chatwise - except facebook or Skype - once i get my antivirus operating by about end of April (been there done that). I hate Facebook, why they think they can be a world dictator has got me stuffed!!

** Im happy to give out my email if you want thats no drama**

**On my weekends off there are no restrictions on what i can do. I'm happy to travel to you then if its feasible within an hour**

I like bike rides, eating, I'm a coffee, wine and cider aficionado, I play Wii games, computer games; board games with my daughter. i enjoy markets, fetes and garage sales.

I've dropped a bit of weight and are now looking to build strength within reason (legs mostly). And just improve my fitness generally. (Yeah, fitness tracker/smartwatch yuppie, grr).

Comes from dancing anything up to 3 hrs on a Saturday night (mostly Saturday sometimes Friday as well (Meaning - chuck the headphones on and go like Hades - better than a gym workout anyday for me)

The diet is in the firing line as well at the moment. All good though.
I’m really good at
letting people feel comfortable around me; expressing themselves without being censored or jumped on for being different. I believe in tolerance and am considerate of everyone.

If you have a problem, I am better at "discovering" how you feel about it than strictly what you want to do about it.

Love discussing sexual politics in general with anyone. And what makes you tick (if we are that way involved - Only).
A good coffee (yes i have the right machines. I'm also trying to do my own beans lately. Some results are awesome, some are, oh my god, fire brigade almost). I roast every couple of months when I can afford the time and effort involved.
The first things people usually notice about me
I'm short ish and have great dimples (and smile) so I am told.

Still waters run deep. If I have something to say its usually interesting. different to the mainstream or relevant. Sometimes all 3.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Go mad for sushi and most Asian inspired food. Not a good cook but now that my new kitchen is up and running I plan to be more spontaneous/inspired when i can.
Books, mostly psychology, relationships, people-focused stuff. Occasional novel. Biographies (especially music related). Computer game related. Fix up my life in some way. Improve my health or diet or whatever.

Not a movie head often But will watch something if it really inspires me. My daughter loves horror at the moment , so I am dragged into that.

Musically mainly 80's (Blondie, Clash, Cure, Stones, some Nirvana; DDuran, George Michael, Talking Heads, Queen, Billy Idol; Pink Floyd; The Who) from punk to disco to ABBA.

Too much of a bass guitar-head at the moment. That has got way more addicted / ive as Ive got older somehow.

No country,. very little classical, some bagpipes and no metal (anything) music at all. Sorry.

TV : Family Feud, Letters and Numbers, music documentaries, documentaries, history, music videos (80's again); cricket, AFL, F1, tennis, some Olympic sports, eg diving, swimming, equestrian. Hate most reality TV, its designed to sell stuff, pure and simple (we should all find something better to waste our intelligence on so I think. (Few exceptions but not many)
Six things I could never do without
Coffee, and doing my own beans is great fun lately.
Alcoholic cider or white wine (Pinot Gris, Grigio, wanky chardys) (sorry)
Something to read that makes me think / improve my life somehow
80's Music
Something to aim for
Love being the most important thing as a motivator.
I tend to crack it without enough dance in my life, so be warned already .....
I spend a lot of time thinking about
relationships and how they work and sometimes don't . Sexual politics and gender politics; thus why can women do such and such and men are frowned upon or ridiculed for the same or similar behaviour. Why is womens sexuality so damned precious and guys sexuality is almost treated as a joke.
How the media can vilify women one day about something and then almost flaunt it as "sexy" the next ? GFY is my opinion on that sorry to say.

Why are we bought up so that the guy is expected to do all the work in the relationship ? Etc etc. Welcome feedback on this especially as it really bugs me.
Maybe I am just anti feminist in the usual sense....

I dont think we have moved far enough yet from the typical 1950s bread winner (Tony Abbott idealist wanker) crapola, and boy does that bug the eff out of me. Sorry world.
On a typical Friday night I am
Doing stuff on the computer and having a few drinks. Later I usually get into the music / get up and dance. Sometimes watch Rage on channel 2.
If you know how to or want to dance or learn how to then I am definitely your kind of girl.
On my Saturday night off I sometimes make pizzas from scratch or with a dough mix.
I'm a footy head and cricket head so if you cant handle that.....
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I dont drive. Sorry. Public transport is not a dirty word however (within reason).
You should message me if
**Youre in Australia,. Not pretending to be in Australia**

**You're after serious monogamous and hopefully permanent. Every one else can get lost**

you like what i have to say and how i think.
You want a girl who isn't consumed by make-up 'buying and clothes buying.
If you're into cats, dancing (mostly in the loungeroom but happy to go out also) and 80s music.

If you can understand that i have to meet you before i give out my phone number. Its not a lolly its a privilege.
I don't want your phone number either until I have met you

First date, coffee and cake suits you fine. (I prefer to go dutch most of the time as well)

If Youre Not looking for a career girl, sorry never going to happen.
If you can afford to put in some effort Before You meet Me.
As Aretha Franklin once said, "respect" Its all im after And Im perfectly happy to give it back.
The two of us